[SPAM] Re: Re: When did people first notice?

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So very true! It is not unusual for a person who has lost a very significant

amount of weight to still think of themselves as bigger. I still look at chairs

and wonder if they are sturdy enough for me even though I have lost nearly 95

pounds. Isn't that odd?

Then of course there is the flip side of that - I work with a person who thinks

she is a LOT smaller than she really is and her butt and boobs are always

hanging out. Body image is a very strange concept for many.

>>> " Diane M. " 5/14/2008 9:48 AM >>>

This reminds me...once I lost a lot of weight. I was young and my boyfriend

dumped me, blah, blah, blah. So I moved in with this woman, and one day I

was flipping through some photos she'd had developed and there was one of me

and I flipped right by it. I didn't recognize that skinny person as me! I

think it is really hard to see oneself they way we really are.

> And here's a funny I wonder how observant people really are? The first

> time

> I did BFL in the late 90s, I went from an 18 to a 12, I had these cute

> shorts/scooter skirt. My friends and I (guys and girls about six of us)

> went

> on a trip. I didn't know it til I got the pictures back but my butt cheeks

> were hanging out the back of the shorts? Someone sure should have said

> something? It still looked ok, but was more bootie than I would ever

> normally show. ha. I'm thinking no one noticed cause they didn't say a

> word.

>

> Maybe the extra pounds/lack of toning matter more to us than our

> friends/family? As in they see us as they see us and don't notice it as

> much

> as we do?

>

> S

>

> On Wed, May 14, 2008 at 6:13 AM, CATHERINE KENDALL

<valekendall@...<valekendall%40yahoo.com>

> >

> wrote:

>

> > I wanted to give a different perspective on this topic, as one who has

> > been on the other side of these exchanges. In the past I can remember

> times

> > when I was the one acting 'nonchalant' (read: trying not to let them see

> me

> > squirm) as an excited friend relayed to me their victories over their

> > cravings and complacency. The whole while I'm thinking " what's wrong

> with

> > me?? If she can do this, I can do this! what is WRONG with me?? " and " I

> AM

> > happy for her, but I'm so jealous it's eating me alive! WHY can't I just

> be

> > HAPPY for her!!! "

> >

> > So if your friends can't seem to celebrate with you, try not to take to

> too

> > personally and try not to judge them too harshly, chances are they are

> > already doing that to themselves.

> >

> > Namaste,

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

> --

> Sheila

>

> " It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped "

>

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