Guest guest Posted December 11, 2008 Report Share Posted December 11, 2008 Im sorry your friend feels this way. Maybe she is agry at herself and is lashing out at you. U didnt do anything wrong! Hugs > > I have spent the day in " discussion " with a friend who is angry with me > because I called them a loser. > > NO actually I didn't. I wrote a blog post almost two months ago about > running the half-marathon. I did finish but my time was slow. I said in my > blog post that I was a winner, the losers stayed home. > > You see my friend has always wanted to be a runner. She suffers from bulimia > and her weight fluctuates from 50-100 pounds in a matter of months. She will > be 40 in January and her goal was to run a marathon. She ran most of 2007, > attended spin classes and weight classes and lost about 100 pounds. She > looked damn good. Then she had some bad things happen and let that all > slide. > > This is someone I have known for years, and we have always gone on walks > together, hiking, etc. When she was fit and healthy I was happy for her. Now > she tells me I'm wrong for calling her and saying, " hey want to go for a > walk " > > I should point out that walking and road trips are my way of connecting with > people, getting to know them, spending one on one time with them. No hidden > agenda in asking her to walk other than hanging out. > > Apparently I'm putting pressure on her to get off the couch and she is angry > to the point of ending our friendship. > > -- > Sheila > > > " If you want real results, they're not coming for free. " --Jillian s > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2008 Report Share Posted December 11, 2008 THat's too bad. In numerous places I have read that the path to fitness is lonely. The girl on bodybuilding . com who is going thru a 12-week transformation talks about how all her gym time and eating special foods that she has to take along to parties with her makes her feel isolated. Over on spark, they're posting about one famous lifter's journey to bodybuilding champion who said that it was the loneliest journey he's been on. People responded to that thread saying that yes, outside of the gym and online friends, people just do not get what we're doing or why, nor do they WANT to or want to join us. It can be pretty isolating. > I have spent the day in " discussion " with a friend who is angry with me > because I called them a loser. > > NO actually I didn't. I wrote a blog post almost two months ago about > running the half-marathon. I did finish but my time was slow. I said in my > blog post that I was a winner, the losers stayed home. > > You see my friend has always wanted to be a runner. She suffers from > bulimia > and her weight fluctuates from 50-100 pounds in a matter of months. She > will > be 40 in January and her goal was to run a marathon. She ran most of 2007, > attended spin classes and weight classes and lost about 100 pounds. She > looked damn good. Then she had some bad things happen and let that all > slide. > > This is someone I have known for years, and we have always gone on walks > together, hiking, etc. When she was fit and healthy I was happy for her. > Now > she tells me I'm wrong for calling her and saying, " hey want to go for a > walk " > > I should point out that walking and road trips are my way of connecting > with > people, getting to know them, spending one on one time with them. No hidden > agenda in asking her to walk other than hanging out. > > Apparently I'm putting pressure on her to get off the couch and she is > angry > to the point of ending our friendship. > > -- > Sheila > > " If you want real results, they're not coming for free. " --Jillian s > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2008 Report Share Posted December 12, 2008 I can totally relate. A " friend " of mine said to me, Angel, I told you I would helo you to lose by going running with you on Saturday mornings. I said, really? how about this Saturday? He said ummmmm (pause) sure, we can get up at 4:00AM. I said I'm not getting up at 4:00AM to go running. How about 8:00. He said naope 4:00 is a good time. So he was obviously not serious about helping me because he just joked about it. OHHH!!! I frequently tell him I have a weakness for pizza. Anytime I get a craving for pizza, I will call him and say hey I'm having a craving for pizza. I need help. He's like, ok. Or he will call me from his job and say, guess what I'm eating. I say, why are you calling me and telling me you are eating pizza and you know I'm trying to lose weight. I forgot to mention that he is in tip-top shape and burn food like crazy. But don't worry, I'm not callin ghim for encouragement or for help anymore. If he can't understand my struggle, then there is no need to go to him for support. --- Re: so called friends Date: Thu, December 11, 2008 2:21 pm To: bodyforlifewomensclub2 THat's too bad. In numerous places I have read that the path to fitness is lonely. The girl on bodybuilding . com who is going thru a 12-week transformation talks about how all her gym time and eating special foods that she has to take along to parties with her makes her feel isolated. Over on spark, they're posting about one famous lifter's journey to bodybuilding champion who said that it was the loneliest journey he's been on. People responded to that thread saying that yes, outside of the gym and online friends, people just do not get what we're doing or why, nor do they WANT to or want to join us. It can be pretty isolating. On Thu, Dec 11, 2008 at 2:16 PM, Sheila wrote: > I have spent the day in " discussion " with a friend who is angry with me > because I called them a loser. > > NO actually I didn't. I wrote a blog post almost two months ago about > running the half-marathon. I did finish but my time was slow. I said in my > blog post that I was a winner, the losers stayed home. > > You see my friend has always wanted to be a runner. She suffers from > bulimia > and her weight fluctuates from 50-100 pounds in a matter of months. She > will > be 40 in January and her goal was to run a marathon. She ran most of 2007, > attended spin classes and weight classes and lost about 100 pounds. She > looked damn good. Then she had some bad things happen and let that all > slide. > > This is someone I have known for years, and we have always gone on walks > together, hiking, etc. When she was fit and healthy I was happy for her. > Now > she tells me I'm wrong for calling her and saying, " hey want to go for a > walk " > > I should point out that walking and road trips are my way of connecting > with > people, getting to know them, spending one on one time with them. No hidden > agenda in asking her to walk other than hanging out. > > Apparently I'm putting pressure on her to get off the couch and she is > angry > to the point of ending our friendship. > > -- > Sheila > > " If you want real results, they're not coming for free. " --Jillian s > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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