Re: blue-Debs

[Guest guest]

Suzanne,

Thanks for your kind sincere note. I don't know about walking my own path

yet. Right now my husband is yelling at me for talking to my sister this

evening and giving them some advice. I am the older sister by 2 years and I

was brought up to believe that I was put on this earth to take care of my

sister and I have lived my live that way as long as I can remember. It just

comes natural to me. Now I have transferred this love and caring to her

daughter. We would go to Disney World and I would go in and buy T-shirts for

the girls and Ron would ask how much? I would tell him and he would say for

3 T-shirts and then I would tell him that I bought for my 3 daughters and 1

for my niece. I always made sure that she had the same as my daughters did

cuz I considered her my 4th daughter. So this is a double sting. She is in

the middle of a custody battle right now and I have traveled in my state up

to Chicago on several occasions to go to court or to go counseling sessions.

I also flew in for plays and other things where Grandmas usually come to and

because Grandma and Grandpa are gone, Aunt Debra would fly in as a surprise.

Every summer that she stayed with me, we went on a trip sometimes Walt Disney

World, Islands of Adventure, Marco Island Marriott Hotel. Last year, we

could not go on any trips, because, my husband was out of work for a year and

there was just no way we could do something like that.

All day, I have been sick, can't keep anything on my tummy and crying.

Joints are all swollen and of course there is that KNEE!!!!! I should be

getting an epidural pain injection for the herniated disks in my back, but at

this point, I will probably be canceling that. When I feel like this, I tend

to take it out on my self.

Hope you have a good evening. I think I will call it a day and try it again

tomorrow.

Take care of YOU.

Gentle, tender, angel hugs,

Debs in FLL

[Guest guest]

Goodness, talk about gratitude! Console yourself that you did the right

thing when it was important to do the right thing. You just have to roll

with the punches and do the right thing because that defines who you are.

Sometimes doing the right thing is hard but you do it for the satisfaction

of being true to yourself. It is their loss, not yours. It's hard to walk

your own path, but you seem to have it mastered Debs.

It's hard to feel rejected by someone you love. We've all been there.

Chin up and take care of yourself!

Suzanne

> well, you know. I have a sister like that myself. Went a few rounds with

> her last night on the phone. Her husband has some type of abdominal

problem

> and of course, for that the whole world stops. To this day, she has yet

to

> ask about my blood condition, knee situation or anything else. For the

first

> time in 7 years, my niece won't be spending the summer with us as " they

now

> have money and have better things to do with their time " and this from a

13

> year old girl. I cried myself to sleep last night and have not been able

to

> keep anything on my stomach in over 24 hours. My niece is in the middle of

a

> custody battle between her divorced parents and spending the summer with

us

> was kind of a refuge and also when my Mom passed away, she missed her so

much

> that she substituted me for Grandma and wanted to be as close to me as

> possible. Well, I guess, out of sight out of mind. I even took her in

when

> Ron was out of work and it was hard enough to feed and cloth my only girls

> let alone an extra mouth. I took her in when her biological father

> threatened to come to my house and take her away, thus putting my own kids

in

> danger. I guess all is forgotten when $$ enters the picture. I am sorry

for

> rambling, but I have been up most of the night and my heart hurts. No

sense

> in calling the doctor, there is no medicine for this pain.

[Guest guest]

Hope things get better with your niece. Family means everything to

me so I can understand your feelings, it is so hard when things are

going on with them you can't fix. I had that problem with my

daughter last night, it is so much harder when they are grown or not

near by.

You need to take care of yourself, sometimes even that is hard but we

have to do it.

in WA