Friends and family who don't understand

[Guest guest]

Hello, and Gail!

It is very common to be surrounded by people who have a hard time understanding

what you are going through, but that's why this group is so wonderful. You can

come here and tell us what's bothering you, and many people will understand

exactly what you mean.

My strategy is to not bring up my health issues to anyone in the world outside

of our group unless someone asks. Even if asked, I keep it short, simple, and

upbeat. Also, let stupid comments pass you by - the speaker usually has no idea

how hurtful their remarks could be.

I know it's painful and frustrating to feel as if you don't have the support of

those close to you. I believe it's not because they don't care, but, often

times, they are uncomfortable, feel helpless, and are not sure what to say or

do. Unfortunately, sometimes people do withdraw from the relationship in this

kind of situation (you or they or both mutually). It takes a lot of effort to

work through these problems, and it's not very easy to know how to approach them

either.

Venting here or even just listening to others in the group get things out is

good therapy, I guarantee it!

PS. I hope you will enjoy your swimming, ! Exercise is a great way to keep

yourself as healthy as possible.

Re: [ ] Welcome, Gail!

>I feel that sometimes unless your friends or relatives have suffered this (

RA ) themselves...They kinda think you're putting on or just a big baby whiner.

Do any of you feel this same way? This hurts mentally just as bad as the RA pain

itself.

Ok, I've vented....You all are a wonderful group....So good to get to read

your posts.

Wishes for a restful night.

Gail