Re: Momma Bear

[Guest guest]

go tess!! that was horrible what she said to em. hope things clear up soon.

kathy in il

[Guest guest]

How about spraying FOUL MOUTH OLD BIDDIE on her car in

shaving cream?....prayers being said Momma

Bear...Kathi in OK

--- Tess_St_Pierre@... wrote:

> My daughter & I live in an apartment...have been

> here 5 years. We

> really like it cause even though our address is

> Portland which is a big

> city, we are waaaaaay on the outskirts where you can

> still see cows and

> horses and trees!

>

> There has been a dispute going on between two other

> families for the

> past few months. We have been friendly with both

> and not at all

> involved in the problem. It's all over a handicap

> parking spot. Now

> our assigned parking spots are almost always VERY

> close to our front

> doors. However, one of the neighbors both broke is

> foot and found out

> he has a debiitating muscle condition that is

> progressive. The lady

> from the other family almost always uses the

> handicap spot though her

> assigned spot is right next to it. The fellow with

> the leg problem's

> spot is one that is over farther.

>

> He went to her and told her about his problem, and

> asked if it'd be ok

> if he used the handicap spot for about a month til

> his brace came off.

> The other lady blew a HUGE fuse...using the foulest

> language, raising

> her voice, insisting she would use the %^!$#@

> handicap spot all she

> wanted (she does have a permit). Well, that was the

> start of it.

>

> Everything I've seen of the injured fellow and his

> wife has been

> positive...even when the other gal goes ballistic

> they have remained

> calm and peaceable. So, if the handicap spot

> happens to be empty and

> the fellow uses the handicap spot, the other gal has

> a tizzy fit, turns

> her car alarm off & on, swears, etc. So lovely.

> And here Em & I

> are...right n the middle, trying to live a peaceful

> co-existance with

> everyone.

>

> Well, last night that lady crossed the line. We

> have said NOTHING to

> her and not been involved in any of this except what

> is heard through

> the neighborhood grapevine. Well, my daughter Em,

> who has a

> mild-moderate learning disability, is 24, works hard

> at Safeway, is one

> of the sweetest people around, was walking home from

> the pool last night

> and this " lady " peers out her window at my daughter

> and calls her

> " RETARD! "

> GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

>

> Poor Em was just crushed. I did my best to comfort

> & reassure her. I

> also reported this to the office - this woman is 40

> years old - not a

> child, though I know some people never grow up. Now

> Em is nervous about

> walking by their apartment.

>

> Now I am a nice person...a faith-filled, praying

> person, who tries very

> hard to give everyone the benefit of the doubt

> unless proven otherwise.

> But today I have had MANY impulses...

>

> egging her car

> toilet papering her car

> throwing firecrackers under her car

> dumping a pail of water on her as she walks out of

> her apartment

> slappin' her along side the head

>

> eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!!!

> Rest assured I won't do any of that but my o my she

> better not hurt my

> daughter again!

>

> My kids always remind me of the time this snotty

> teenage boy was

> throwing rocks at their bedroom window about

> midnight for several nights

> in a row scaring the peewadin out of my girls. One

> night I had HAD it

> so I grabbed my cane and hobbled to his house after

> midnight to speak to

> his mother in my moo-moo!!!!! My Lord that must

> have been a sight!!!!

>

> Oh, well, just had to get that out! Say a

> prayer...ok?

>

> Tess...aka Momma Bear

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Momma Bear Tess, I am so very heartfully sorry to read this sad story.

That neighbor woman is a total loser.

Best to take the high road and not do any of the things that you

mentioned as possibilities that I would gladly do, dressed in black from

head to toe, for you if I were your neighbor. I like Kathi's idea, too,

but resist the temptation.

I pray that Em and you can put this out of your minds. Anyone who says

such a thing to a sweet, innocent person is a very small, mean-spirited

troll, but realizing that doesn't always stop the hurt.

I can relate quite well, because my children are biracial (I am a white

mongrel and their father is Japanese), and there have been some very

ugly incidents in our lives which really upset me. I was probably more

bent out of shape than the kids. And we live in a supposedly (with

emphasis) well-educated community.

Thinking of you and Em,

[ ] Momma Bear

> My daughter & I live in an apartment...have been here 5 years. We

> really like it cause even though our address is Portland which is a

big

> city, we are waaaaaay on the outskirts where you can still see cows

and

> horses and trees!

>

> There has been a dispute going on between two other families for the

> past few months. We have been friendly with both and not at all

> involved in the problem. It's all over a handicap parking spot. Now

> our assigned parking spots are almost always VERY close to our front

> doors. However, one of the neighbors both broke is foot and found out

> he has a debiitating muscle condition that is progressive. The lady

> from the other family almost always uses the handicap spot though her

> assigned spot is right next to it. The fellow with the leg problem's

> spot is one that is over farther.

>

> He went to her and told her about his problem, and asked if it'd be ok

> if he used the handicap spot for about a month til his brace came off.

> The other lady blew a HUGE fuse...using the foulest language, raising

> her voice, insisting she would use the %^!$#@ handicap spot all she

> wanted (she does have a permit). Well, that was the start of it.

>

> Everything I've seen of the injured fellow and his wife has been

> positive...even when the other gal goes ballistic they have remained

> calm and peaceable. So, if the handicap spot happens to be empty and

> the fellow uses the handicap spot, the other gal has a tizzy fit,

turns

> her car alarm off & on, swears, etc. So lovely. And here Em & I

> are...right n the middle, trying to live a peaceful co-existance with

> everyone.

>

> Well, last night that lady crossed the line. We have said NOTHING to

> her and not been involved in any of this except what is heard through

> the neighborhood grapevine. Well, my daughter Em, who has a

> mild-moderate learning disability, is 24, works hard at Safeway, is

one

> of the sweetest people around, was walking home from the pool last

night

> and this " lady " peers out her window at my daughter and calls her

> " RETARD! "

> GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

>

> Poor Em was just crushed. I did my best to comfort & reassure her. I

> also reported this to the office - this woman is 40 years old - not a

> child, though I know some people never grow up. Now Em is nervous

about

> walking by their apartment.

>

> Now I am a nice person...a faith-filled, praying person, who tries

very

> hard to give everyone the benefit of the doubt unless proven

otherwise.

> But today I have had MANY impulses...

>

> egging her car

> toilet papering her car

> throwing firecrackers under her car

> dumping a pail of water on her as she walks out of her apartment

> slappin' her along side the head

>

> eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!!!

> Rest assured I won't do any of that but my o my she better not hurt my

> daughter again!

>

> My kids always remind me of the time this snotty teenage boy was

> throwing rocks at their bedroom window about midnight for several

nights

> in a row scaring the peewadin out of my girls. One night I had HAD it

> so I grabbed my cane and hobbled to his house after midnight to speak

to

> his mother in my moo-moo!!!!! My Lord that must have been a sight!!!!

>

> Oh, well, just had to get that out! Say a prayer...ok?

>

> Tess...aka Momma Bear

[Guest guest]

Wow Tess, sounds like a bad situation. Like you need any more stress in your

lives. Sounds like you did the right thing though, in reporting it. I would

also inform the local police department just in case things get more heated.

That way they would know what has been going on. This " lady " sounds like a

real nut. I wouldn't stoop to her level. Just know that you are a better

person and be supportive of your daughter. I would be really hot if someone

hurt my son also. But sometimes a nice calm chat with your child to explain

the situation in terms that are easily understood can go a long way. I hope

things get better. Remember the serenity prayer in times like these.

Love and Hugs

Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

Tess, sorry to hear about your neighbor, it is so sad that there

seemed to be a few people in the world like that. Just remember what

goes around comes around and you don't have to do a thing. Hope you

and Em are doing well.

in WA

[Guest guest]

Dear Stacey...Thank you for the reminder about the serenity prayer!!! I

have used it many times in my life, and now is a good time as well!

Don't worry...I would never act out my anger (except I have had a " potty

mouth " a few times when addressing people who have hurt my children, but

I do much better restraining myself these days). I just see my daughter

in her Safeway uniform, coming home tired from a hard day's work,

knowing she has to put up with MORE than her share of dumb, rude

comments, and now she had to hear that yuck near her own home.

Grrrrrrrr.

Em & I have talked a lot about this, and she has gotten wonderful

support from her sisters and a couple co-workers she felt safe in

sharing with.

Also, I'm trying to remember to pray for this woman. Something must be

way off in her heart to stoop so low.

Thanks, Stacey. Hugs for you & Wyatt.

Tess

[Guest guest]

Hi ...Em is still nervous to walk by her apartment, but she has

chosen to anyway because she's not going to let that lady scare her into

staying inside! You go Em!!!!!

Thank you, neighbor, for your kindness & support.

Hugs & Love...

Tess

[Guest guest]

Dear ...I have a terrific image of you in a black ninja suit jumping

out just at the right time to defend my daughter! Thank you for your

sweetness. The high road it is...just have to let those impulses go.

I'm way more of a lover than a fighter...except when I see rampant

injustice to those most vulnerable. I am grateful I can say what I need

to here, and you all understand.

Much Love...

Tess

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Kathy. Em is doing much better...we're going to go on a drive

today and enjoy the beautiful countryside. I hope you have a lovely

day, Kathy.

Hugs of Hope for Us All...

Tess

[Guest guest]

Tess, that is just awful. What a horrible person to do that to your

daughter (and to be so ridiculous about the parking space, too). I'm a

non-confrontational person, also, and I don't know what I'd do. I think

talking to the apt manager is a good start. The problem is the more you

make of it; the more this unbalanced person might harass your daughter. It'

s bad enough that Em is afraid to walk past this vulgar person's window.

I'm sorry your family is going through this, and hope it is resolved soon.

Hugs,

Carol

[ ] Momma Bear

My daughter & I live in an apartment...have been here 5 years. We

really like it cause even though our address is Portland which is a big

city, we are waaaaaay on the outskirts where you can still see cows and

horses and trees!

There has been a dispute going on between two other families for the

past few months. We have been friendly with both and not at all

involved in the problem. It's all over a handicap parking spot. Now

our assigned parking spots are almost always VERY close to our front

doors. However, one of the neighbors both broke is foot and found out

he has a debiitating muscle condition that is progressive. The lady

from the other family almost always uses the handicap spot though her

assigned spot is right next to it. The fellow with the leg problem's

spot is one that is over farther.

He went to her and told her about his problem, and asked if it'd be ok

if he used the handicap spot for about a month til his brace came off.

The other lady blew a HUGE fuse...using the foulest language, raising

her voice, insisting she would use the %^!$#@ handicap spot all she

wanted (she does have a permit). Well, that was the start of it.

Everything I've seen of the injured fellow and his wife has been

positive...even when the other gal goes ballistic they have remained

calm and peaceable. So, if the handicap spot happens to be empty and

the fellow uses the handicap spot, the other gal has a tizzy fit, turns

her car alarm off & on, swears, etc. So lovely. And here Em & I

are...right n the middle, trying to live a peaceful co-existance with

everyone.

Well, last night that lady crossed the line. We have said NOTHING to

her and not been involved in any of this except what is heard through

the neighborhood grapevine. Well, my daughter Em, who has a

mild-moderate learning disability, is 24, works hard at Safeway, is one

of the sweetest people around, was walking home from the pool last night

and this " lady " peers out her window at my daughter and calls her

" RETARD! "

GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

Poor Em was just crushed. I did my best to comfort & reassure her. I

also reported this to the office - this woman is 40 years old - not a

child, though I know some people never grow up. Now Em is nervous about

walking by their apartment.

Now I am a nice person...a faith-filled, praying person, who tries very

hard to give everyone the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.

But today I have had MANY impulses...

egging her car

toilet papering her car

throwing firecrackers under her car

dumping a pail of water on her as she walks out of her apartment

slappin' her along side the head

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!!!

Rest assured I won't do any of that but my o my she better not hurt my

daughter again!

My kids always remind me of the time this snotty teenage boy was

throwing rocks at their bedroom window about midnight for several nights

in a row scaring the peewadin out of my girls. One night I had HAD it

so I grabbed my cane and hobbled to his house after midnight to speak to

his mother in my moo-moo!!!!! My Lord that must have been a sight!!!!

Oh, well, just had to get that out! Say a prayer...ok?

Tess...aka Momma Bear

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Carol. I did report it to the office, but I have no idea if

they did a thing. Em is doing better, and we're going to get out of the

house & go for a ride today...we've been in a hot spell (98 degrees is

not usual for Portland!) and today is just going to be gorgeous, about

82. I have to stay in the car, but that's ok...don't want a sun flare!

My anger is turning to sadness...I need to keep on top of that as it's a

warning sign for me of depression.

I am so grateful for you & all my RA family. What a blessing to have

such support & compassion from you all. Hope your weekend is good,

Carol.

Love...

Tess

[Guest guest]

Dear Tess, It sounds as though EM will do just fine

because she has a wonderful mother who has taught her

to hold her head high. One of the qualities I admire

the most in my 15 and 12 year olds is that they always

take up for anyone who is being picked on especially

the handicapped. They do not worry about what their

friends will say. Their strenght makes me pround they

are mine. Yeah EM, way to go! Iris

--- Tess_St_Pierre@... wrote:

> Hi ...Em is still nervous to walk by her

> apartment, but she has

> chosen to anyway because she's not going to let that

> lady scare her into

> staying inside! You go Em!!!!!

>

> Thank you, neighbor, for your kindness & support.

>

> Hugs & Love...

>

> Tess

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks so much Iris. Your girls have a wonderful mom, too! : ) It does

make your heart feel good to see your children growing/grown into kind,

caring people!

Much Love...

Tess