Guest guest Posted August 4, 2002 Report Share Posted August 4, 2002 Dearest Tess, The " you " that we see, we love! You're such a kind and compassionate friend, and you have a great sense of humor. I know I've been feeling like I'm losing touch with myself since my diagnosis. It's like the pain has just made me stop trying at so many things in my life. I really need to get control and start living again. Let me know how you enjoy the book. I like Dr. Phil because he doesn't pull punches, but says what needs to be said. I hope you're feeling a little better, and having a good weekend. Love and hugs, Carol [ ] Fiding Me - Kathy in WA Hi Kathy...I " used to be " a writer, but haven't for several years. It was too painful for a bunch of reasons. Right now I am reading " Self Matters " by Dr. Phil from Oprah. I haven't bought a self-help book in golly, ten years, maybe? But this book talks about people who don't know themselves anymore,,,and how to get back to who you really are. That's me. It's like I took all my dreams, talents, hopes and hid them in a box. Because of fear, sadness, old pain. Now, I want to find " me " again. You all see " me " in some of my posts. I miss " me " - yikes, I hope that doesn't sound too far out! Anyway, I thought, what the hey...I'd read this and see if it helps me find me. Love & Prayers & Hugs... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2002 Report Share Posted August 4, 2002 Tess, I rarely buy self-help books, but I was drawn to another one of Oprah's friends - Iyanla Vanzant. I have her book " Yesterday, I cried. " There is a lot of good stuff in there. Here is an excerpt: " I've discovered the need not only to tell our story, but also to cry at the appropriate episodes. There are the times when we were unable to cry, unable to speak, unable to express ourselves, unable to lift ourselves up. In those times, we need someone else to cry for us. Crying for others and myself has led me to the belief that certain aspects of my story must be told. If I am truly to heal myself and help others in the process, I must tell the parts I am uncomfortable about telling. Not because my story is different or unique, but because I have been blessed to be able to cry myself through to a day and a time when joyful tears spring forth from my heart and allow me to stand straight. Joyful tears move up the spine and across the brain and bring you to a new perspective and a new understanding that the sad tears were necessary, that each tear was a prayer, that tomorrow will be better than today. Joyful tears free you up to celebrate your Self, your healing, and your progressive process.... Yesterday, I cried for the woman that I wanted to be. Today, I cry in celebration of her birth. Yesterday, I cried for the little girl in me who was not loved or wanted. Today, I cry as she dances around my heart in celebration of herself. I pray that your yesterday tears will be wiped, that you will find the courage to celebrate yourself and the lessons you have lived through, grown through, and learned through. The lessons that have brought you to a deeper realization of yourself, of the child within you, and of the constant mercy and grace of God. Now, let's have a party and enjoy! " I like her style! [ ] Fiding Me - Kathy in WA > Hi Kathy...I " used to be " a writer, but haven't for several years. It > was too painful for a bunch of reasons. > > Right now I am reading " Self Matters " by Dr. Phil from Oprah. I haven't > bought a self-help book in golly, ten years, maybe? But this book talks > about people who don't know themselves anymore,,,and how to get back to > who you really are. > > That's me. It's like I took all my dreams, talents, hopes and hid them > in a box. Because of fear, sadness, old pain. Now, I want to find " me " > again. You all see " me " in some of my posts. I miss " me " - yikes, I > hope that doesn't sound too far out! > > Anyway, I thought, what the hey...I'd read this and see if it helps me > find me. > > Love & Prayers & Hugs... > > Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 I like her style too..I haven't read a support book in some time...a few years ago, I read every book i could get my hands on..since I've decided tohave a sleepless night...I wish Ihad " yesterday, I cried " . I've found that each time I go through a " growth spurt " some of the same issues arise...just in a new level to be dealt with. I think there are parallells to this illness (RA) as well...I think I figure something out, or get the right comb of meds, the right balance of activity, and then a new challenge...same; but a little different. I guess the way to deal is to deal with the issue or pain in the space I am in at the time. We do change over the years..we just have to continue the process of growth...life is not static. enough..perhaps I'll try tossing and turning awhile....thanks for listening...marge [ ] Fiding Me - Kathy in WA > > > > Hi Kathy...I " used to be " a writer, but haven't for several years. It > > was too painful for a bunch of reasons. > > > > Right now I am reading " Self Matters " by Dr. Phil from Oprah. I haven't > > bought a self-help book in golly, ten years, maybe? But this book talks > > about people who don't know themselves anymore,,,and how to get back to > > who you really are. > > > > That's me. It's like I took all my dreams, talents, hopes and hid them > > in a box. Because of fear, sadness, old pain. Now, I want to find " me " > > again. You all see " me " in some of my posts. I miss " me " - yikes, I > > hope that doesn't sound too far out! > > > > Anyway, I thought, what the hey...I'd read this and see if it helps me > > find me. > > > > Love & Prayers & Hugs... > > > > Tess > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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