Re: Thanks! for Kirk

January 14, 2008

We did that already the first time she got completely wasted I ended up having

to take her to the hospital & she was hitting me, yelling etc. there we cops in

the parking lot so I just pulled in got out & said I have an out of control teen

I'm bringing her to the hospital because I'm concerned she's on drugs. There

were 2 cops & they weren't nice it scared her bad but I guess not enough. I did

have a drug test done & there was nothing but alcohol.

The place she's at is better than detention or a hospital. I just don't know

what else to do for her. She has been spiraling out of control since she met

this boy. 24/7 that is all she wants to do is see him & now I found out he's

dropped out of school!

Kirk Bonanny wrote:

You can't talk to a cop??? I don't know where you live, but most cops

I

know would rather work with a kid than arrest them, and it's even better for

the kid when the cop knows the parents don't approve of her antics.

I only mention this as a few of my friends that are cops are involved

with a few at risk youth......I took two of them fishing in my boat a few

years ago, and he had two others in his boat.

I know he got through to one, as I see him down the river in all kinds of

weather. The kids just needed to lose the crowd he was with and find

something he enjoyed to occupy his time. He is even a customer at my shop

now and wants me to take him out again this year for Walleye, as he has yet

to catch any. I told him...you pay for the gas, I'll bring the boat. He has

my number. He went from a punk with drunkards for parents and literally had

nothing...to where he is now...he works construction, has a newer truck and

is engaged. Three years ago I would have put money on this dude going to

jail.

I've been involved in a few things like that by being friends with these

guys. Hell, three of us grew up fishing together, and they know I won't

refuse someone a shot at a good day on the water.

Things are a bit different for me now, as I have my own kids to

take....but on days when they don't want to go I'll see someone on shore and

if I've seen them enough offer them a ride to where I'm going as the fishing

near the river access isn't all that great. I made a few friends that way.

Just a thought, it might be worth looking into...especially before she

winds up in trouble.

>

> To all who posted to me! It is so nice to have you to just listen. I

> wanted to give an update. We still have the dog, the wife called this

> morning said she felt they made the right decision & her husband is

> emotional so got irrational, whatever, we are keeping the dog if hubby shows

> up we will call the police.

>

> As for my daughter, she disappeared for a while today after completely

> trashing her room then called saying she can't be here is very pist about

> her car & phone getting taken for an undisclosed time. There aren't many

> options here for out of control teens usually it's either detention or the

> psychiatric hospital which is horrible. I lucked out & found a 14 day

> inpatient program for at risk youth & she agreed to go. Of course once there

> she had a change of heart sobbing for us not to leave her but I left know

> she is safe. Lucky for us the LOSER boyfriend is under 18 so he can't visit

> they can only talk on the phone for 5 minutes. It was one of the hardest

> things I've ever done but I know it's the right decision. If she has a death

> wish I can't change it but I'm certainly not going to let her go down

> without a fight! Everyone was shocked she would even consider drinking &

> driving considering her dad was killed 4 years ago in a drink driving wreck.

> He was the passenger &

> died the driver lived, they both had blood alcohol of .21.

>

> Again thanks to everyone for all you input & just listening I'm now off to

> bed for some MUCH needed sleep.

> Chris

>

> ---------------------------------

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>

January 14, 2008

My brother threw away " the life " , and there was nothing anyone could have

done to stop him. He had a cake job and made over 100k per year. He

literally watched TV, worked out and such UNLESS there was a problem and

than he'd have to turn of an electrical grid and dispatch a crew.

When he was younger, he had a horrible time with alcohol, being arrested

countless times and costing my parents dearly. Here was a straight A student

with a 165 IQ that just " dropped out " of life at the age of 15. After

screwing up until he was 22, he decided enough was enough, put himself

through college and graduated Magna Cum Laud with a degree in Journalism. As

soon as he graduated a utility company called him in for an interview and

gave him the job he had.

Fast forward 5 years.....he has nothing.....zero....blew it all,

including his retirement in under a year. He has nothing and has screwed &

stolen from everyone in the family. He has been through rehab 6 or 7 times,

and spent 6 months this year in a half way house. When he told me how much

he blew in a week I wanted to kill him as he had already stolen from me,

smashed my truck (2 weeks after I painted it!) and knew I was struggling. He

is the most self centered MF I've ever met.

He's been clean now for close to a year, but I won't allow him near my

house. I told him if he can get his life in order, get a job and gain back

some self respect than maybe he'll be allowed here. He came here one night

totally wasted (on whatever he could get his hands on) and I hurt myself

beating the ever living shit out of him and one of his friends. He was

looking for gas money at 11:00 PM on a school night, and kept banging on my

door (for close to 10 minutes) before I came flying out of it.

I pray for you that you don't ever have to deal with anything like we

did but whatever you do...DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!!!!!!!!! My parents do and

they have been mostly miserable for a long time now.

He had a job but was let go after the Christmas rush. He owns nothing,

and owes untold amounts of money to untold amounts of people, places &

fines. He has his work cut out for him, and he'll surprise the shit out of

me if he is able to bail himself out. His entire problem stemmed from not

being able to tell when others are dragging you down, and they dragged him

to new lows.

I care about him, but not to his face. If he screws up one more time I

already warned him that he'll be dead to me. Period!

Sorry to send such a horrible story, but it is true, and living through

it was a total nightmare. He managed to almost destroy my entire family in

under 12 months.

I sure hope your situation turns out much, much better than this one has.

Adiso, Kirk.

>

> We did that already the first time she got completely wasted I ended up

> having to take her to the hospital & she was hitting me, yelling etc. there

> we cops in the parking lot so I just pulled in got out & said I have an out

> of control teen I'm bringing her to the hospital because I'm concerned she's

> on drugs. There were 2 cops & they weren't nice it scared her bad but I

> guess not enough. I did have a drug test done & there was nothing but

> alcohol.

>

> The place she's at is better than detention or a hospital. I just don't

> know what else to do for her. She has been spiraling out of control since

> she met this boy. 24/7 that is all she wants to do is see him & now I found

> out he's dropped out of school!

>

> Kirk Bonanny <kbonanny@... <kbonanny%40gmail.com>> wrote:

> You can't talk to a cop??? I don't know where you live, but most cops I

> know would rather work with a kid than arrest them, and it's even better

> for

> the kid when the cop knows the parents don't approve of her antics.

> I only mention this as a few of my friends that are cops are involved

> with a few at risk youth......I took two of them fishing in my boat a few

> years ago, and he had two others in his boat.

> I know he got through to one, as I see him down the river in all kinds of

> weather. The kids just needed to lose the crowd he was with and find

> something he enjoyed to occupy his time. He is even a customer at my shop

> now and wants me to take him out again this year for Walleye, as he has

> yet

> to catch any. I told him...you pay for the gas, I'll bring the boat. He

> has

> my number. He went from a punk with drunkards for parents and literally

> had

> nothing...to where he is now...he works construction, has a newer truck

> and

> is engaged. Three years ago I would have put money on this dude going to

> jail.

> I've been involved in a few things like that by being friends with these

> guys. Hell, three of us grew up fishing together, and they know I won't

> refuse someone a shot at a good day on the water.

>

> Things are a bit different for me now, as I have my own kids to

> take....but on days when they don't want to go I'll see someone on shore

> and

> if I've seen them enough offer them a ride to where I'm going as the

> fishing

> near the river access isn't all that great. I made a few friends that way.

> Just a thought, it might be worth looking into...especially before she

> winds up in trouble.

>

> On 13/01/2008, Heavin <cmh_idaho@... <cmh_idaho%40yahoo.com>>

> wrote:

> >

> > To all who posted to me! It is so nice to have you to just listen. I

> > wanted to give an update. We still have the dog, the wife called this

> > morning said she felt they made the right decision & her husband is

> > emotional so got irrational, whatever, we are keeping the dog if hubby

> shows

> > up we will call the police.

> >

> > As for my daughter, she disappeared for a while today after completely

> > trashing her room then called saying she can't be here is very pist

> about

> > her car & phone getting taken for an undisclosed time. There aren't many

> > options here for out of control teens usually it's either detention or

> the

> > psychiatric hospital which is horrible. I lucked out & found a 14 day

> > inpatient program for at risk youth & she agreed to go. Of course once

> there

> > she had a change of heart sobbing for us not to leave her but I left

> know

> > she is safe. Lucky for us the LOSER boyfriend is under 18 so he can't

> visit

> > they can only talk on the phone for 5 minutes. It was one of the hardest

> > things I've ever done but I know it's the right decision. If she has a

> death

> > wish I can't change it but I'm certainly not going to let her go down

> > without a fight! Everyone was shocked she would even consider drinking &

> > driving considering her dad was killed 4 years ago in a drink driving

> wreck.

> > He was the passenger &

> > died the driver lived, they both had blood alcohol of .21.

> >

> > Again thanks to everyone for all you input & just listening I'm now off

> to

> > bed for some MUCH needed sleep.

> > Chris

> >

> > ---------------------------------

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> Search.

> >

January 14, 2008

I remember back to when I was a teen and my sister was the one that was out

of control. All I can say is that you did the right thing. My sister got

pregnant and is now (25+ years later) blaming all of us for all of her

problems. She says that she never got to enjoy her life because she had to

grow up' and have a family when she was 17... Well - that's what happens

when you party at 17 and get pregnant and then decide to get married. Now

she's mad at us all, saying it's all our fault. So.. To make a long story

short.. I applaud you... This may seem like hell now, but it's the best

thing for you and your family now. She will grow up, she will get out of

this and she will forgive you. You won't have to have your daughter blaming

you for getting pregnant 25 years from now, which is what we are going

through now (well - what my parents are going through)... I hadn't really

planned on sharing this, but figured you needed to hear this. So hang tough

-you did the right thing. It may seem like ages now and like you may never

get through this, but this too shall pass and your daughter will heal and so

will your relationship with her.

Hang in there.

-- Re: Thanks! for Kirk

We did that already the first time she got completely wasted I ended up

having to take her to the hospital & she was hitting me, yelling etc. there

we cops in the parking lot so I just pulled in got out & said I have an out

of control teen I'm bringing her to the hospital because I'm concerned she's

on drugs. There were 2 cops & they weren't nice it scared her bad but I

guess not enough. I did have a drug test done & there was nothing but

alcohol.

The place she's at is better than detention or a hospital. I just don't know

what else to do for her. She has been spiraling out of control since she met

this boy. 24/7 that is all she wants to do is see him & now I found out he's

dropped out of school!

Kirk Bonanny wrote:

You can't talk to a cop??? I don't know where you live, but most cops I