Re: reasons for what appears tobe of lack of interest and or play

[Guest guest]

>

> Theresa do you have maybe an easel board and or magnetic board. or

> what if you did of the felt stories where one tells of the story

> using the felt characters and you can make of it basic but it

would

> be of a thing one has to do for her but it will make simple

stories

> more visual?

>

> If she is of able to match then the new candy land game which is

not

> a board game as in the past but now is of maked for preschoolers

with

> a hard plastic piece that fits onto a gingerbread man where you

have

> of to match the piece to teh shape. it is of to help with

matching,

> shapes , colors and finished sorts of things.

>

> she sounds much like of me when I was to be of around age of 5 but

> the things that did interest of me at that time as far as objects

> were of cause and effects sorts of things. where if I to did one

> things the toy reacted this way. such as today they have of race

> tracks for preschoolers where you set the cars at the top and then

> release of them and watch them race down. while did not understand

> the associations to real race cars I to just liked of that

movement

> and it maked me happy. I to had no real stereotyped girls or boy

> interest at that age it was of just cause and effect things/

>

> To all, another things is no one ever teached me play or how

things

> worked or why they would be of fun so had no real play as a child

> that was of typical in nature or development because no one helped

me

> learn of them. I to lacked their names, their reasons and such so

it

> was not a motivation for me to play with such things. I to

remembered

> when was of age 8 got a toy mixer things and loived of hte cause

and

> effect if I to turned it on the beater things twirled and this was

of

> my main interest to the toy altogether, but it was enjoyed by me

much

> so. I to also had of a peter pan book which was of my favorite

things

> to carry everywhere for a time.

>

> the one good memory was of the birth father of me bouyed a kit

where

> you maked of you own hands be of a face and so could decorate of

it

> and then move of the thumb areas to make it look as if it were of

> speaking to a person and this was of intriguing and yet some

fearful

> to me as did not understand it but he did expose of me to it. that

> memory took of years to develop to a logical understand of hte

> concept and so now can be of to look back to the past of it and

see

> it for what it was....but what saying was for me it was of more

> inportant that adults or others around me expose me to the toys,

do

> the play of the toy modeling it and how it works, naming it and

such

> before it could bring me any motivation to want to seek of that

toy

> for self. sometimes lack of play too is not just developmental and

or

> cognitive, it can be of EF interfering and not being of able to

know

> of how motor wise to activate it or play with it. it is of for

some

> of us we may be mildly or severely impacted with movement and the

> body cognitively might know WHAT to do but the body does not

> cooperate to allow our bodies to move in ways to do the task we

> understand cognitively.

>

> it is of like of us putting 50 pound weights onto you wrist and

legs

> and putting onn a blind fold and then telling you, to do a simple

> task of eating or drinking or going to the bathroom. since you are

of

> a seeing person you can visualize and know what to do but because

you

> have these huge weight and blindfolded it complicates doing what

you

> know you need to do. or better yet think of it as havingthese

things

> done to you and then expected to drive in a busy down town areas?

now

> thing of hte over all frustrations and anxiety and fear for

knowing

> how to do something but because of these barriers now cant do them

> because you have some limitations preventing you from them. it is

of

> not a lazy thinking or a lack of motivations it is that the body

does

> not cooperate motor wise.

>

> some of us cognitively cant understand the social aspects of

playing

> with doll or social interactive play, it is of too advanced but we

> may enjoy as a baby just manipulating , tasting, carrying it, and

> things of that..

> sondra

>

Hello all I am new to the group and I thank God that I found it as I

cant get any answers anywhere else.I just read this from Sondra and

it is simular to my little girl she shows no interest in anything

except her 1 yr. old brothers light up toys and pull back cars and

such I cant get her to sit for a very long period of time and she is

very hateful at times.She doesnt speak well at all so I have to be

the interpeter for everyone.She doesnt sleep either.I have been told

by a consulor to lock her in her room at night as she gets into

things and I am afraid that she will hurt her self but there is no

way that I want to lock her up like that.I have stayed up for 3 days

straight before becausse she didnt want to sleep.This was for her

own protection as 1 day I was in the rest room and when I came back

maybe 2 mins. later she was playing with a knife and that really

scared me so I dont leave her alone for nothing and she is very

nosey to hear other people say as she wants to know what is everyone

doing no matter where in the house they are.It is really bad when

she hears the shower cause she will just sit and cry and want to be

in the tub allday then the fits begin when she is told no we have

things we got to do.Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can

do she is from a previous relationship and my new partners family is

not very understanding with it all so it is putting a toll on our

relationship now..well ty for listening if you have any sugestions

please feel free to let me in on them ty again Joyce

[Guest guest]

We dont' have an easel anymore, it was always in the way and no one would

use it so I finally got rid of it. We do have several felt boards with

characters etc. as well as the colorforms playsets and games... She's never

shown much of an interest before, but it's been awhile so I may try getting

those down and see how she likes it.

She's very good at matching but not so good at playing games... she has

ADHD as well and is EXTREMELY hyper once her meds have worn off so getting

her to sit (or even stand) and play a game through is next to impossible.

But even in those regards we have so many games and this type of stuff that

is not being used much now that it seems wasteful to buy more untill there

is a real interest there.

I do like the idea about the cars on the track that you used to like... The

one toy that I've not gotten rid of yet because it seems to be something she

will often go play with, is the Fisher Price Incrediblock, a huge block with

activities that go with the Peek A blocks. She's had this toy (with tons of

blocks) since she was a baby, but she has always played with it and even

when we got rid of the rest of the toys that went with the blocks we kept

this one because she does play with it so much... Also the gumball machine

for the Roll A Rounds... also an infant toy... but she really enjoys putting

the balls in and then hitting the button and waiting for it to roll out.

She'll do it over and over and over

She never did do much with cars besides hold them, but I think if she could

put a car at the top, let go, and watch it zoom down, she'd like that.

Thanks for expanding my ideas Sondra! And I do agree that sounds

a lot like what you describe being like at her age... And we do have to show

her several times how to play with something before she gets it... she

doesn't just figure it out based on experiences or watching other kids etc.

Just as we have to teach her what type of responses are expected to

different questions... Took us quite a long time to teach her how to respond

to " what is your name? " and " How old are you? " Now we're trying to teach her

the difference between " How 'OLD' are you? " and just " How are you? " or " How

are you doing? " She used to answer " I'm " to everything (after we

taught her the response to what is your name? cause she used to respond " A

volcano is a mountain that explodes! " ) now 8 times out of 10 she'll say

when asked her name and " I'm 5 " when asked her age... but she also

says I'm 5 when you say How are you? or any variation... Then we spent

sometime getting her to say " I'm good " in response to that, and now that's

what she says when asked her age too....

So that was the biggest thing I've learned about her so far, is that she

doesn't learn a lot of things in the same ways as we are used to things

being learned... things that many kids just pick up on and go with, she

doesn't and has to be taught these things specifically.

Theresa

>

> Theresa do you have maybe an easel board and or magnetic board. or

> what if you did of the felt stories where one tells of the story

> using the felt characters and you can make of it basic but it would

> be of a thing one has to do for her but it will make simple stories

> more visual?

>

> If she is of able to match then the new candy land game which is not

> a board game as in the past but now is of maked for preschoolers with

> a hard plastic piece that fits onto a gingerbread man where you have

> of to match the piece to teh shape. it is of to help with matching,

> shapes , colors and finished sorts of things.

>

> she sounds much like of me when I was to be of around age of 5 but

> the things that did interest of me at that time as far as objects

> were of cause and effects sorts of things. where if I to did one

> things the toy reacted this way. such as today they have of race

> tracks for preschoolers where you set the cars at the top and then

> release of them and watch them race down. while did not understand

> the associations to real race cars I to just liked of that movement

> and it maked me happy. I to had no real stereotyped girls or boy

> interest at that age it was of just cause and effect things/

>

> To all, another things is no one ever teached me play or how things

> worked or why they would be of fun so had no real play as a child

> that was of typical in nature or development because no one helped me

> learn of them. I to lacked their names, their reasons and such so it

> was not a motivation for me to play with such things. I to remembered

> when was of age 8 got a toy mixer things and loived of hte cause and

> effect if I to turned it on the beater things twirled and this was of

> my main interest to the toy altogether, but it was enjoyed by me much

> so. I to also had of a peter pan book which was of my favorite things

> to carry everywhere for a time.

>

> the one good memory was of the birth father of me bouyed a kit where

> you maked of you own hands be of a face and so could decorate of it

> and then move of the thumb areas to make it look as if it were of

> speaking to a person and this was of intriguing and yet some fearful

> to me as did not understand it but he did expose of me to it. that

> memory took of years to develop to a logical understand of hte

> concept and so now can be of to look back to the past of it and see

> it for what it was....but what saying was for me it was of more

> inportant that adults or others around me expose me to the toys, do

> the play of the toy modeling it and how it works, naming it and such

> before it could bring me any motivation to want to seek of that toy

> for self. sometimes lack of play too is not just developmental and or

> cognitive, it can be of EF interfering and not being of able to know

> of how motor wise to activate it or play with it. it is of for some

> of us we may be mildly or severely impacted with movement and the

> body cognitively might know WHAT to do but the body does not

> cooperate to allow our bodies to move in ways to do the task we

> understand cognitively.

>

> it is of like of us putting 50 pound weights onto you wrist and legs

> and putting onn a blind fold and then telling you, to do a simple

> task of eating or drinking or going to the bathroom. since you are of

> a seeing person you can visualize and know what to do but because you

> have these huge weight and blindfolded it complicates doing what you

> know you need to do. or better yet think of it as havingthese things

> done to you and then expected to drive in a busy down town areas? now

> thing of hte over all frustrations and anxiety and fear for knowing

> how to do something but because of these barriers now cant do them

> because you have some limitations preventing you from them. it is of

> not a lazy thinking or a lack of motivations it is that the body does

> not cooperate motor wise.

>

> some of us cognitively cant understand the social aspects of playing

> with doll or social interactive play, it is of too advanced but we

> may enjoy as a baby just manipulating , tasting, carrying it, and

> things of that..

> sondra

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

theresa yes she sounds much like of me. you also noted a few things she

does like and again they appear to be of cause and effect sorts of

things. but couldnot visualize the block things you shared she has of

interest in , if understood or can have of a visual of it then could be

of maybe give you more insight to her seeking out in that toy. but if

she is of into the cause and effects things still of a preschooler

level then seek of there and look for things that match what she is of

seeking already in toys such as the gumball toy with the balls. find

things that give the same sort of inputs but vary slightly.

I to still learn by being teached and having a visual show me . let me

see you, let me try of it by self and explore it and then learn of its

use and how it fucntions. As i to still not understand just by watching

how somethings works/

sondra