Re: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

[Guest guest]

yvette I to be of so sorry if you were of one i to referred to this

list as this is of a terrible time to join of here and it was of the

first time I to seem of it get of this much over the boundaries of

things. but I to hope ou will be of to stay and wait for this to

resolve to actually base of you thinking to the list over all as it

is of really a much good list. I to been of this list for much years

and sometimes yes I to get of overloaded and build in anxiety and

need to take a brak ad leave for a time, but when calm can come back.

what i to found is of this is the topic is of cure, jenny and or over

the topic of politics it seems to befo taboo thing for this list.

some react too quickly and some get of angry and some get offended

over things i to lack understanding too. I to be of not ignoring of

things at times but truely it is of hard for me to grasp what is of

behind all teh words coming out emotionally strong and so cant

respond or defend or bring a view of perspective here when that

happens.

I to be of also understand of both views of what Kassi/ettina are of

sharing, but do feel they might need to try to define it better and

or in more clarifying ways that do not come off as ways that others

misunderstand as offensive and or rudeness, but as parents of kids of

the spectrum parents here might try of how to use of de-esclation

tools that they have found to be of effective when their own

childrens are of escalating. this is of not ignoring and or allowing

one or the other to get away with negative behaviors. it helps foster

of mutual respects of things and for the most part this list has had

of some strong mutual respect unless it goes into topics that seem to

trigger.

as i to shared I to be of to feel of things in me that some of my

bestest friends in life are of having hurtful words to each other and

it hurts me to see of each of them vent their pains, fears and angers

to each other thisway.

the list moderator is of named of Bev and she is of a good mom to a

young adult female on the spectrum and is of much involved as a

poster here at times and other times is of consumed in carring for

her adult daughter. with holiday and such she may be ofnot comed on

line for a few days.

I to ahve of my own list i to be of own and because of lists

histories I to fear of my not coming to it at least 3-4 times a day

to assure no escalations is of happening. on my lists there has of

been very few upsets and they are of rare due to frequent moderations

and I to also have of 3 co-moderators there to assure that when I to

be away at conference and things then they over see of the list.

I to did set of some key words as taboo things but with clear defined

boundaries such as one can speak freely of thier faith there as long

as it reflects their OWN personal beleif and is of not forced and in

conversions of ones faith to thier own or denying or disputing

anthers faith.

so maybe ifthe moderator can share some taboo topics here and then

clearly define where the boundary of them are then I to think those

members here including self will be of able to not deviate so much

from what will cause of issues.

not long ago I to bringed of topic of politics i want to learn of it

but then members turned of it to personal ventings and beleifs and

attacking of eachs views and thinking not good ways to discuss of an

issues. I to then comed back after to go away for some time and

trying hard to be of very active here in my support and words, but

after elections it escalated me to a strong state of emotion that

seemed not right and it confused of me as it was of so strong and

powerfully consumed me, it escalated to the same sort of off the

topic diologues when all i to wanted was to get of insight to what

was of happening to me as tears kept of coming somuch so as if wre of

sad but my thinking was not sad it was of happy and strong sad

outward emotions kept coming out and felt as if were of maybe having

a break in my emotional states because things were ofnot matching up.

after much wordsa and upsets one member then responded to the intent

of my post and shared to me a concept that had forgotten in me

because it is of rare for me to have of happy tears to this profound

level. I to learned of that concept a time back and have felt of

happy tears a few times but more mild and so think by it coming so

strong it did not transfer for me as the same emotion.

so what am of saying is that sometimes I to think the intent is not

known by some who are of just taking words and inferring things that

are of not there and then or taking on a free will of random thinking

and vents because there is of no boundary set that they take the word

election and run on with political issues and views simply from the

word election. I to understand this because impulsively do this much

too because triggers open files within me and this leads to many key

word files locked in my head that come out as a monologue if you will

that needs to flow some where. but it does not have intent behind of

it to cause ill feelings in others. just like this post is of

rambling from one place to anotehr it is of how my brain works like a

frgemented fountain metaphorically of things that do not connect but

flow.

sondra

sondra

[Guest guest]

this group is never like this, so i know it shall return to its usual wonderful

self, just delete the offending posts and try not to let them bother you, it is

really a wonderful group.

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls@...: y.anderson@...: Fri, 21 Nov

2008 10:14:59 -0500Subject: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

I have just joined this group within the past few days & I am the mother ofan 8

y.o. daughter with PDD NOS with ADD.I was hoping to receive advice & when I can

offer advice to anyone thatneeds it.Mostly what I have seen so far is name

calling. I would think that asmothers of very special children that you would be

much more tolerant & understanding.It is very sad to me that you both have been

so unkind.Where is the Moderator/Owner of this Board? I think that she should

nolonger allow these posts & possibly remove the members that have reverted

tosuch cattiness & name calling.Could we please return to the topic of Autism in

Girls?JMHOThank youYvette A.I've had enough of your insulting me. In case you do

not understand:you have no right to call me names or accuse me of not

appreciating mydaughter. Debi>> She lied.> > She wants nothing to do with

autistics advocating for themselves.She is a lying attention whore.> > And yes,

Debi, you are still stuck in self pity, which is a shamebecause Allie is a

wonderful girl.

[Guest guest]

The moderator is never here.

I'm an autistic woman. This is kinda-well, very- common treatment of autistic

women everywhere.

Aren't you glad you asked?

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> Subject: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

> To: Autism_in_Girls

> Date: Friday, November 21, 2008, 9:14 AM

> I have just joined this group within the past few days &

> I am the mother of

> an 8 y.o. daughter with PDD NOS with ADD.

>

> I was hoping to receive advice & when I can offer

> advice to anyone that

> needs it.

>

> Mostly what I have seen so far is name calling. I would

> think that as

> mothers of very special children that you would be much

> more tolerant &

> understanding.

>

> It is very sad to me that you both have been so unkind.

>

>

>

> Where is the Moderator/Owner of this Board? I think that

> she should no

> longer allow these posts & possibly remove the members

> that have reverted to

> such cattiness & name calling.

>

> Could we please return to the topic of Autism in Girls?

>

> JMHO

>

> Thank you

>

> Yvette A.

>

>

>

> I've had enough of your insulting me. In case you do

> not understand:

> you have no right to call me names or accuse me of not

> appreciating my

> daughter.

>

> Debi

>

>

> >

> > She lied.

> >

> > She wants nothing to do with autistics advocating for

> themselves.

> She is a lying attention whore.

> >

> > And yes, Debi, you are still stuck in self pity, which

> is a shame

> because Allie is a wonderful girl.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Kassi that is of unfair to a new member who wouldnot know and she is of

here off and on her name is of bev weakly or wavierly or somthings of

this.

please not be of not nice to new people coming her to gain and learn in

regards to thier daughters.

sondra

[Guest guest]

Would it be possible to personally e-mail each other instead of the whole

group?  The group is named autism in girls.  Not autism in women with

counselling issues.

Subject: Re: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Friday, November 21, 2008, 5:35 PM

Kassi that is of unfair to a new member who wouldnot know and she is of

here off and on her name is of bev weakly or wavierly or somthings of

this.

please not be of not nice to new people coming her to gain and learn in

regards to thier daughters.

sondra

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry, new member, for snapping at you.

I've been vomiting profusely for 48 hours now, and I'm rather sick of the way

autistics are treated in general. I shouldn't have taken it out on you.

(I thought someone who WASN'T bev was the moderator?)

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> Subject: Re: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

> To: Autism_in_Girls

> Date: Friday, November 21, 2008, 4:35 PM

> Kassi that is of unfair to a new member who wouldnot know

> and she is of

> here off and on her name is of bev weakly or wavierly or

> somthings of

> this.

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> please not be of not nice to new people coming her to gain

> and learn in

> regards to thier daughters.

>

> sondra

[Guest guest]

sorry not meaned to offend of you and yes the list does have

several adult womans here with autism. some are of in couseling

things because of the issues they have had growing up without the

awareness of a dx of autism at all as kids. so i to need of a

therapist now to help of me and he is of a life line to me and I to

share much on him . I to beof sorry that this is of offending to you

right now but to not be of allowed to speak of him is a huge part of

my words being cut off from here then becaue he is of a huge part of

my over all daily life.

sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , nicole rey

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> Would it be possible to personally e-mail each other instead of the

whole group?  The group is named autism in girls.  Not autism in

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> Subject: Re: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

> To: Autism_in_Girls

> Date: Friday, November 21, 2008, 5:35 PM

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[Guest guest]

yes, i remember it was Bev Weakley, as i used to help her years ago in this

group.

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls@...: hfa2@...: Fri, 21 Nov

2008 22:35:33 +0000Subject: Re: Moderator, Debi, Kassi & All

Kassi that is of unfair to a new member who wouldnot know and she is of here off

and on her name is of bev weakly or wavierly or somthings of this. please not be

of not nice to new people coming her to gain and learn in regards to thier

daughters.sondra

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Yevette,

Welcome to the group. I think you will find that it is a very helpful list

for those of us who are trying to learn from others what worked for them and

also as important, what didn't work.

It is a shame that you joined at such a unsetteling time on this group,

please know that it is not normally this way.

Dianna

I have just joined this group within the past few days & I am the mother of

An 8 y.o. Daughter with PDD NOS with ADD.

I was hoping to receive advice & when I can offer advice to anyone that

Needs it.

Mostly what I have seen so far is name calling. I would think that as

Mothers of very special children that you would be much more tolerant &

Understanding.

It is very sad to me that you both have been so unkind.

Where is the Moderator/Owner of this Board? I think that she should no

Longer allow these posts & possibly remove the members that have reverted to

Such cattiness & name calling.

Could we please return to the topic of A in Girls?

JMHO

Thank you

Yvette A.

I've had enough of your insulting me. In case you do not understand:

You have no right to call me names or accuse me of not appreciating my

Daughter.

Debi

>

> She lied.

>

> She wants nothing to do with autistics advocating for themselves.

She is a lying attention whore.

>

> And yes, Debi, you are still stuck in self pity, which is a shame

Because Allie is a wonderful girl.

[Guest guest]

Hi Dianna,

Thanks so much for the warm welcome!

I look forward to learning from you all &

hopefully to be able to contribute as well.

Yvette

Sent from my iPhone

> A\

>

>

> Yevette,

>

> Welcome to the group. I think you will find that it is a very

> helpful list

> for those of us who are trying to learn from others what worked for

> them and

> also as important, what didn't work.

>

> It is a shame that you joined at such a unsetteling time on this

> group,

> please know that it is not normally this way.

>

> Dianna

>

>

>

> I have just joined this group within the past few days & I am the

> mother of

> An 8 y.o. Daughter with PDD NOS with ADD.

>

> I was hoping to receive advice & when I can offer advice to anyone

> that

> Needs it.

>

> Mostly what I have seen so far is name calling. I would think that as

> Mothers of very special children that you would be much more

> tolerant &

> Understanding.

>

> It is very sad to me that you both have been so unkind.

>

> Where is the Moderator/Owner of this Board? I think that she should no

> Longer allow these posts & possibly remove the members that have

> reverted to

> Such cattiness & name calling.

>

> Could we please return to the topic of A in Girls?

>

> JMHO

>

> Thank you

>

> Yvette A.

>

> I've had enough of your insulting me. In case you do not understand:

> You have no right to call me names or accuse me of not appreciating my

> Daughter.

>

> Debi

>

>

> >

> > She lied.

> >

> > She wants nothing to do with autistics advocating for themselves.

> She is a lying attention whore.

> >

> > And yes, Debi, you are still stuck in self pity, which is a shame

> Because Allie is a wonderful girl.

>

>