Re: How soon/Christmas Tree

[Guest guest]

>It was always tradition in my family to buy a real Christmas tree within

the week before Christmas, but we wouldn't put it up until Christmas

Eve. Christmas Eve was always a family night when we put up the tree and

decorated it, hung our stockings with Christmas music playing and maybe a

few glasses of wine for a little extra cheer. The tree would stay up

until New Years because kids would have off from school and company would

come etc. >Then I married some one from another faith who announced -

not my holiday. Then my son was born on a Christmas Eve so we had to

divide up the holiday. Then my daughter was born and people stopped

coming over to visit at the holidays. Now no one wants to help me with

the tree or decorating. My daughter comes home from school but I can't

handle her by myself any more - too big and strong, so Ex has to come

over to stay. My son hasn't spoken to his mother in a few years and

resents all the attention given to his sister even though every possible

accomodation possible is made in an attempt to satisfy him. Sorry to be

the Grinch, but I am just so tired of all this, personally I can't wait

for January to come. I very much miss the old Christmas's we used to

have.LorenDad to Lara (16 m-hfa) and Josh (18 NT)

How soon

Date: Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:34:24 -0800 (PST)

How soon does everyone put up there christmas tree's?

We have to put ours up at pretty much the last minute as the

anticipation for our Amy gets to much. Then she starts thinking that

we have been forgotten by Santa as she checks under the tree every

day. We can put up other decorations in the home but definately not

the tree.

How about everyone else ?

in Aus

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Sorry. How about getting a small tree? When my mother was dying she really

wanted a tree but we couldn't fit a tree in her room, I was able to find a

small pine tree in a pot that was fully decorated for xmas. I got it online

from a national florist chain. She loved it.

On Sat, Nov 22, 2008 at 4:19 PM, loren hofmeister wrote:

> >It was always tradition in my family to buy a real Christmas tree

> within

> the week before Christmas, but we wouldn't put it up until Christmas

> Eve. Christmas Eve was always a family night when we put up the tree and

> decorated it, hung our stockings with Christmas music playing and maybe a

> few glasses of wine for a little extra cheer. The tree would stay up

> until New Years because kids would have off from school and company would

> come etc. >Then I married some one from another faith who announced -

> not my holiday. Then my son was born on a Christmas Eve so we had to

> divide up the holiday. Then my daughter was born and people stopped

> coming over to visit at the holidays. Now no one wants to help me with

> the tree or decorating. My daughter comes home from school but I can't

> handle her by myself any more - too big and strong, so Ex has to come

> over to stay. My son hasn't spoken to his mother in a few years and

> resents all the attention given to his sister even though every possible

> accomodation possible is made in an attempt to satisfy him. Sorry to be

> the Grinch, but I am just so tired of all this, personally I can't wait

> for January to come. I very much miss the old Christmas's we used to

> have.LorenDad to Lara (16 m-hfa) and Josh (18 NT)

>

> How soon

> Date: Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:34:24 -0800 (PST)

>

> How soon does everyone put up there christmas tree's?

>

> We have to put ours up at pretty much the last minute as the

> anticipation for our Amy gets to much. Then she starts thinking that

> we have been forgotten by Santa as she checks under the tree every

> day. We can put up other decorations in the home but definately not

> the tree.

>

> How about everyone else ?

>

> in Aus

>

> Make the switch to the world's best email. Get Yahoo!7 Mail!

> http://au.yahoo.com/y7mail

>

>

[Guest guest]

> Sorry to be

> the Grinch, but I am just so tired of all this, personally I can't

> wait

> for January to come. I very much miss the old Christmas's we used to

> have.

I'm with you, Grinchy Loren. It feels like the holidays last about 8

months. Bring on January 2nd!

[Guest guest]

Funny that you should mention that. In my bachelor days when I was too

busy going out to be bothered with all that, I used to have a small fake

tree that was pre decorated that I kept in a box in the attic. On

Christmas Eve, I would pull it out of the box and set it on the table,

plug it in and there it was - instant Christmas tree! I was told that

that was too tacky, but I may have to resort to doing something like that

again. Unknown to us my daughter was terrified of Santa Claus and my son

called it the “Santa Hoax” (prior email thread) My son doesn’t even want

any presents this year – just money so he can buy another car. (not that

there is anything wrong with the car he has) I can’t help thinking that I

must have done something terribly wrong somewhere along the line. If only

I could figure out what it was – I’d go back and fix it…..

Loren

How soon

> Date: Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:34:24 -0800 (PST)

>

> How soon does everyone put up there christmas tree's?

>

> We have to put ours up at pretty much the last minute as the

> anticipation for our Amy gets to much. Then she starts thinking

that

> we have been forgotten by Santa as she checks under the tree every

> day. We can put up other decorations in the home but definately not

> the tree.

>

> How about everyone else ?

>

> in Aus

>

> Make the switch to the world's best email. Get Yahoo!7 Mail!

> http://au.yahoo.com/y7mail

>

>

[Guest guest]

loren you did not do anythings wrong little mister because you still

are of loving u children and trying to do best by them. so that to me

is of everything right. I to be of feeling the same among my own

children and much are of telling me the same as i to be of telling of

you.

I to wonder if you are of find things outside of the home for you own

life as a individual person who still has of needs to connect and or

explore of some of you own interests. I to think you are of divorced

but not sure but if you are have you considered to explore of dating

again.

sondra

[Guest guest]

You're doing better than my mom with trees. She's 58 yrs old, I cannot

recall the last time she had a Christmas tree...probably in 1988, the

last Christmas I was at home and probably only then because I went &

got it & decorated it.

Craig has decided he wants a real tree this year for our family

tree...we usually do 3 large ones but one of the artificial ones is

getting too puny. But with this cold weather I don't know if we'll

ever get warm enough to go walk my MIL's property to cut a tree. Gee,

it's so cold in TN it was in the teens last night. I don't know how

those of you north of us stand frigid winters!!!!!! This is weather we

usually don't have except in Jan-Feb. We finally broke down & bought a

kerosene heater, our HVAC thermometer is up 12 degrees so far, from 60

to 72. I think we really need a new HVAC but like everything else in

life, it will have to wait 'til I'm out of college.

Debi

[Guest guest]

I doubt you did anything wrong. Kids are kids. You love them and they you.

And some of ours just don't like the anything out of the norm. Now, say

you had a tree up everyday of every year, and then it was gone, I am sure it

would cause distress. So this might be the opposite. Just guessing. I

know a lot of things put Kay out of whack, just not Xmas. But crowds,

people, loud noises, soft touches....and on and on.

On Sat, Nov 22, 2008 at 9:35 PM, loren hofmeister wrote:

> Funny that you should mention that. In my bachelor days when I was too

> busy going out to be bothered with all that, I used to have a small fake

> tree that was pre decorated that I kept in a box in the attic. On

> Christmas Eve, I would pull it out of the box and set it on the table,

> plug it in and there it was - instant Christmas tree! I was told that

> that was too tacky, but I may have to resort to doing something like that

> again. Unknown to us my daughter was terrified of Santa Claus and my son

> called it the " Santa Hoax " (prior email thread) My son doesn't even want

> any presents this year – just money so he can buy another car. (not that

> there is anything wrong with the car he has) I can't help thinking that I

> must have done something terribly wrong somewhere along the line. If only

> I could figure out what it was – I'd go back and fix it…..

>

> Loren

>

>

> How soon

> > Date: Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:34:24 -0800 (PST)

> >

> > How soon does everyone put up there christmas tree's?

> >

> > We have to put ours up at pretty much the last minute as the

> > anticipation for our Amy gets to much. Then she starts thinking

> that

> > we have been forgotten by Santa as she checks under the tree every

> > day. We can put up other decorations in the home but definately not

> > the tree.

> >

> > How about everyone else ?

> >

> > in Aus

> >

> > Make the switch to the world's best email. Get Yahoo!7 Mail!

> > http://au.yahoo.com/y7mail

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Many years ago when my kids were little, an elderly neighbor of mine

gave us all her Christmas stuff. She said she was too old to put it up

and now that her kids were grown and gone and her husband had passed

away it just wasn't worth the trouble, plus she wasn't physically able.

She and her husband used to be teachers. When I opened the boxes I

found all these ornaments that had been made by their children and their

previous students. Many were hand-made and many were engraved. I

looked at them all and realized they must have meant a lot to her. So I

purchased a plain artificial wreath and wired all the ornaments to it.

My kids helped by selecting where each would go. Then I packed the

wreath in an easy to store box and gave it to her. She loved it. She

was so touched. She could put up that one wreath and have many of her

Christmas memories right there. I think this is a great idea for folks

who have a hard time decorating (or for folks who have cats who love to

climb trees!)

-- Cassie

Debi wrote:

> You're doing better than my mom with trees. She's 58 yrs old, I cannot

> recall the last time she had a Christmas tree...probably in 1988, the

> last Christmas I was at home and probably only then because I went &

> got it & decorated it.

>

> Craig has decided he wants a real tree this year for our family

> tree...we usually do 3 large ones but one of the artificial ones is

> getting too puny. But with this cold weather I don't know if we'll

> ever get warm enough to go walk my MIL's property to cut a tree. Gee,

> it's so cold in TN it was in the teens last night. I don't know how

> those of you north of us stand frigid winters!!!!!! This is weather we

> usually don't have except in Jan-Feb. We finally broke down & bought a

> kerosene heater, our HVAC thermometer is up 12 degrees so far, from 60

> to 72. I think we really need a new HVAC but like everything else in

> life, it will have to wait 'til I'm out of college.

>

> Debi

>

>

--

-- Cassie Zupke

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[Guest guest]

we to usually put of our tree up as part of out thanksgiving day dinner

and family time. We are of giving my huge tree to my grand baby for her

to have at her house this year and we are of buying a new smaller sort

of tree.

We have a cat who likes of to steal all of the ornaments she can so we

have to make sure they do not break easily.

we are of having of a big feast that day but not having any family

people coming to our home. I to just want of quiet family time alone.

we usually prepare for several days favorite desserts and things and

the night before side sorts of things and then morning of we begin of

the main foods.

the church of us always sponsers of our family and gives of me a huge

food basket things full of groceries and then several tickets to the

churches huge christmas play which brings in thousands of people from

all over and even out of state travelers come because of the quality of

the play and the message for the season. one of the things I to like is

that in one part the kings do ride into the sancuary place on real

camels who are of huge and then they have of rams and goats and ponies

and horses things too. there is of much color and dancing and music

and diologes. it to me is of my most cherished christmas gift. I tolook

for ward to going every year just to see of it. there is of some scenes

that are of loud and thunder effects happen and so cant take of my

grand baby yet for fear the sounds might be of too real and cause her

fears of it.

I to like of the celbrating things around christmas but the actual day

of is of not as a favored part. after the gifts are of done i to just

be of need alone time and such to de-escalate from the last 4 weeks of

preparing and celebrating of it in my own way.

this year me and my grand baby will watch much of the santa shows and

such together and have of treats and snuggle to my office room watching

them.

I to miss of her greatly right now.

sondra

>

[Guest guest]

What a wonderful idea & how thoughtful

you are!

Yvette A.

Sent from my iPhone

On Nov 23, 2008, at 2:32 AM, Cassie Zupke

wrote:

> Many years ago when my kids were little, an elderly neighbor of mine

> gave us all her Christmas stuff. She said she was too old to put it up

> and now that her kids were grown and gone and her husband had passed

> away it just wasn't worth the trouble, plus she wasn't physically

> able.

> She and her husband used to be teachers. When I opened the boxes I

> found all these ornaments that had been made by their children and

> their

> previous students. Many were hand-made and many were engraved. I

> looked at them all and realized they must have meant a lot to her.

> So I

> purchased a plain artificial wreath and wired all the ornaments to it.

> My kids helped by selecting where each would go. Then I packed the

> wreath in an easy to store box and gave it to her. She loved it. She

> was so touched. She could put up that one wreath and have many of her

> Christmas memories right there. I think this is a great idea for folks

> who have a hard time decorating (or for folks who have cats who love

> to

> climb trees!)

>

> -- Cassie

>

> Debi wrote:

>

> > You're doing better than my mom with trees. She's 58 yrs old, I

> cannot

> > recall the last time she had a Christmas tree...probably in 1988,

> the

> > last Christmas I was at home and probably only then because I went &

> > got it & decorated it.

> >

> > Craig has decided he wants a real tree this year for our family

> > tree...we usually do 3 large ones but one of the artificial ones is

> > getting too puny. But with this cold weather I don't know if we'll

> > ever get warm enough to go walk my MIL's property to cut a tree.

> Gee,

> > it's so cold in TN it was in the teens last night. I don't know how

> > those of you north of us stand frigid winters!!!!!! This is

> weather we

> > usually don't have except in Jan-Feb. We finally broke down &

> bought a

> > kerosene heater, our HVAC thermometer is up 12 degrees so far,

> from 60

> > to 72. I think we really need a new HVAC but like everything else in

> > life, it will have to wait 'til I'm out of college.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> >

>

> --

>

> -- Cassie Zupke

> Director, Open Doors Now

>

> Click the link below to join our new Open Doors Now group

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