RE: Nasty Neighbor - OT

[Guest guest]

Thank you Penny,

I had thought of this also, but didn't want to over react or cause more

problems. But you are right. Children are precious and should be protected.

Too many people are afraid to report these kinds of things for the reasons

that I have said. I just hate this situation and want it to go away. Like

you said, what about the next child who may be afraid to tell his/her

parents. It has to be stopped. Thanks for backing up what I already knew

that I had to do. Sometimes you just need someone to reinforce your

thoughts.

Love and Hugs

Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

Stacey, I urge you to report this and the previous incidents to the

local police. I work for the district attorney office, and see this

kind of behavior everyday. If he is willing to ask Wyatt, you can

better belive he has offered it and worse to others. There needs to

be a record. He needs to know that that kind of behavior is not

igonred, its not tolerated. Im sorry the wife will get hurt, but too

bad. Friday I had to be in the room with a 4year old girl while the

da went over her testimony. She had to describe what her own father

did to her. Some people are very sick in this world. Please just make

a phone call and describe the situation.

Ok, off the soap box...

Penny

> Wyatt and I were cuddling and watching cartoons tonight before he

went to bed

> when he told me something that is really bothering me. He likes to

play with

> the boy next door. He said that the last time he was there that

the boy's

> father, Bob, told him that he has a movie of naked ballet dancers

that are

> dancing. Now, why would anyone think that this is appropriate to

say to a

> 6-year-old. I asked Wyatt if he watched the movie and he said that

he told

> Bob that he didn't want to see it and didn't. I had a problem with

this man

> a couple of years ago. He propositioned me one day when I was

outside

> cutting grass and exposed himself a couple of times. I told him in

no

> uncertain terms that I was not interested and that his wife is a

friend of

> mine. After that, I avoided him and ignored him when I did see

him. I

> stopped going over for coffee with his wife and the problem more or

less

> seemed to go away. Now this. I am extremely disturbed by this, to

be

> polite. I could handle what he did to me, I am an adult, but DON'T

MESS WITH

> MY CHILD! I guess I am going to have to do what I tried to avoid.

Talk to

> his wife and explain the problem to her. I hate to do this, but

she should

> know also. She is such a sweet person and I dread the thought of

alienating

> her, but my son comes first. I did question Wyatt and he said that

Bob did

> not touch him or make him look at anything, but what would possess

a grown

> man to say such a thing to a young boy. I also told Wyatt that I

am really

> proud of him telling me this and that it would be a good idea not

to go over

> there anymore. I feel bad for him because his friend lives there

and its

> right next door, but I also feel that it is a dangerous place for

him. I

> really hate the thoughts that are in my head right now. I know

this if

> really off the track, but I just had to get it out.

> Thanks for listening.

> Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

I agree, Penny. This guy is a pervert and what he has done already (that

we know about) is bad enough to report him.

Sorry, Stacey! Keep an eye on Wyatt and don't allow him to go over there

anymore.

[ ] Re: Nasty Neighbor - OT

> Stacey, I urge you to report this and the previous incidents to the

> local police. I work for the district attorney office, and see this

> kind of behavior everyday. If he is willing to ask Wyatt, you can

> better belive he has offered it and worse to others. There needs to

> be a record. He needs to know that that kind of behavior is not

> igonred, its not tolerated. Im sorry the wife will get hurt, but too

> bad. Friday I had to be in the room with a 4year old girl while the

> da went over her testimony. She had to describe what her own father

> did to her. Some people are very sick in this world. Please just make

> a phone call and describe the situation.

> Ok, off the soap box...

> Penny

>

> > Wyatt and I were cuddling and watching cartoons tonight before he

> went to bed

> > when he told me something that is really bothering me. He likes to

> play with

> > the boy next door. He said that the last time he was there that

> the boy's

> > father, Bob, told him that he has a movie of naked ballet dancers

> that are

> > dancing. Now, why would anyone think that this is appropriate to

> say to a

> > 6-year-old. I asked Wyatt if he watched the movie and he said that

> he told

> > Bob that he didn't want to see it and didn't. I had a problem with

> this man

> > a couple of years ago. He propositioned me one day when I was

> outside

> > cutting grass and exposed himself a couple of times. I told him in

> no

> > uncertain terms that I was not interested and that his wife is a

> friend of

> > mine. After that, I avoided him and ignored him when I did see

> him. I

> > stopped going over for coffee with his wife and the problem more or

> less

> > seemed to go away. Now this. I am extremely disturbed by this, to

> be

> > polite. I could handle what he did to me, I am an adult, but DON'T

> MESS WITH

> > MY CHILD! I guess I am going to have to do what I tried to avoid.

> Talk to

> > his wife and explain the problem to her. I hate to do this, but

> she should

> > know also. She is such a sweet person and I dread the thought of

> alienating

> > her, but my son comes first. I did question Wyatt and he said that

> Bob did

> > not touch him or make him look at anything, but what would possess

> a grown

> > man to say such a thing to a young boy. I also told Wyatt that I

> am really

> > proud of him telling me this and that it would be a good idea not

> to go over

> > there anymore. I feel bad for him because his friend lives there

> and its

> > right next door, but I also feel that it is a dangerous place for

> him. I

> > really hate the thoughts that are in my head right now. I know

> this if

> > really off the track, but I just had to get it out.

> > Thanks for listening.

> > Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

I agree w/Penny that it should be reported. Like you said, the wife

will more than likely be very hurt. As far as the boys not playing

together maybe you can make sure they play outside where you can see

them and not allow your son to be over there inside the house. This

will be very hard but it needs to be done. Especially with everything

that is going on right now with kids being kidnapped! It's hard to

tell kids the reasoning why you don't want them playing with other

kids or why you don't want them around other people. I have 6 and 3

year old daughters that play with the same kids on our block. One of

the girls lives down at the opposite end of the street. I'm not real

crazy about the girl but it's not her fault. I don't allow the girls

to go down there because her mom is a serious druggie. I tell my

girls that I can't keep an eye on them when they are that far away.

The dad died a few years ago and the mom always has different people

over at the house. The girl just turned 8 and she knows way too much

for her age. I feel bad for the girl but yet I don't want my kids

influenced by her either. I try to make sure that when she is over at

the house that I am always checking on them. Sometimes even sneaking

up on them so I can make sure there is no " funny business " or " bad

talk " going on. The things we do for our kids! Never thought I'd have

to do these things with my kids.

Good luck and I hope things turn out okay!

Protect you baby as long as you can!

Keri in MI

> Wyatt and I were cuddling and watching cartoons tonight before he

went to bed

> when he told me something that is really bothering me. He likes to

play with

> the boy next door. He said that the last time he was there that

the boy's

> father, Bob, told him that he has a movie of naked ballet dancers

that are

> dancing. Now, why would anyone think that this is appropriate to

say to a

> 6-year-old. I asked Wyatt if he watched the movie and he said that

he told

> Bob that he didn't want to see it and didn't. I had a problem with

this man

> a couple of years ago. He propositioned me one day when I was

outside

> cutting grass and exposed himself a couple of times. I told him in

no

> uncertain terms that I was not interested and that his wife is a

friend of

> mine. After that, I avoided him and ignored him when I did see

him. I

> stopped going over for coffee with his wife and the problem more or

less

> seemed to go away. Now this. I am extremely disturbed by this, to

be

> polite. I could handle what he did to me, I am an adult, but DON'T

MESS WITH

> MY CHILD! I guess I am going to have to do what I tried to avoid.

Talk to

> his wife and explain the problem to her. I hate to do this, but

she should

> know also. She is such a sweet person and I dread the thought of

alienating

> her, but my son comes first. I did question Wyatt and he said that

Bob did

> not touch him or make him look at anything, but what would possess

a grown

> man to say such a thing to a young boy. I also told Wyatt that I

am really

> proud of him telling me this and that it would be a good idea not

to go over

> there anymore. I feel bad for him because his friend lives there

and its

> right next door, but I also feel that it is a dangerous place for

him. I

> really hate the thoughts that are in my head right now. I know

this if

> really off the track, but I just had to get it out.

> Thanks for listening.

> Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

Dearest Stacey...I think you should report this to the police and

Children's Protective Services. I am so glad Wyatt talked with you. For

Wyatt's safety, living so close to this man, this creepazoid's own

child, as well as the neighborhood children, this needs to be documented

and an eye kept on him. There is NO acceptable reason for what he said

to Wyatt.

Many hugs of safety & peace for Wyatt & you...

Love Always...

Tess

[Guest guest]

Hi Stacey,

Yes, that was completely inappropriate. I am surprised you didn't

call the police when he exposed himself to you. I understand that you

and the wife were friends, but that wouldn't be enough for me.

I guess it's your call about the propositioning and the exposure, but

I would definitely tell the boy's mom what Wyatt said about movie. Is

there a way that Wyatt and the other boy can still be friends, just

not at the boy's house? It would really be a shame if they couldn't

see each other, although I understand Wyatt's safety is paramount.

You should be extremely proud of Wyatt. Sounds like you already have

good lines of communication and that's so critical. You need to have

your child feel like he/she can tell you anything. That speaks

volumes to how good of a mother you are.

Love and hugs,

Al in IL

[Guest guest]

, this man is creepy, and I agree with everyone else that you should

call the authorities. Maybe you could discuss it with the wife first,

though, to cushion the blow a little. I'm certain she'll resent you for

bringing this to light, but if you're saving a child from terrible emotional

pain it's worth it.

I'm sorry that you and Wyatt have to face something like this right now, but

I'm thankful that the situation isn't worse (if you know what I mean).

Love and hugs,

Carol

[ ] Nasty Neighbor - OT

Wyatt and I were cuddling and watching cartoons tonight before he went to

bed

when he told me something that is really bothering me. He likes to play

with

the boy next door. He said that the last time he was there that the boy's

father, Bob, told him that he has a movie of naked ballet dancers that are

dancing. Now, why would anyone think that this is appropriate to say to a

6-year-old. I asked Wyatt if he watched the movie and he said that he told

Bob that he didn't want to see it and didn't. I had a problem with this man

a couple of years ago. He propositioned me one day when I was outside

cutting grass and exposed himself a couple of times. I told him in no

uncertain terms that I was not interested and that his wife is a friend of

mine. After that, I avoided him and ignored him when I did see him. I

stopped going over for coffee with his wife and the problem more or less

seemed to go away. Now this. I am extremely disturbed by this, to be

polite. I could handle what he did to me, I am an adult, but DON'T MESS

WITH

MY CHILD! I guess I am going to have to do what I tried to avoid. Talk to

his wife and explain the problem to her. I hate to do this, but she should

know also. She is such a sweet person and I dread the thought of alienating

her, but my son comes first. I did question Wyatt and he said that Bob did

not touch him or make him look at anything, but what would possess a grown

man to say such a thing to a young boy. I also told Wyatt that I am really

proud of him telling me this and that it would be a good idea not to go over

there anymore. I feel bad for him because his friend lives there and its

right next door, but I also feel that it is a dangerous place for him. I

really hate the thoughts that are in my head right now. I know this if

really off the track, but I just had to get it out.

Thanks for listening.

Stacey in PA

[Guest guest]

Stacey,

That is absolutely horrible-all of it. Actually talking to his wife is the

least to do, me I would be calling the police about it!

Temple

[Guest guest]

Stacey...That is so scary. I would check this man out

through the county sex offenders site. When I was

checking ours out...I found a guy who used to be at

the ball field watching my son's games. I would talk

to him and since he was handicapped, I didn't see any

problem in him watching a game that a friend's son was

playing in. Needless to say, I was very upset when I

saw his photo and I called the friend and had her

check out that site. She did and told him in no

uncertain terms to show up at one of her son's games

again. You never know who is living next to you.

There was a bicycle rapist that it took a year to find

and when I found out that he lived within blocks of my

home, I had a good talk with my daughter.

I know that the wife is your friend but a lot of women

live in denial and do not want to see or know these

things. I hope that you only let Wyatt play with his

friend at your house. Iris

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[Guest guest]

Hi everyone...I don't know if any of you have

experienced the problem of your children's friends'

parents not acting in an appropriate way. So many

households have parents that could care less what

their kids see on TV. My daughter was shown a porn

film when she was seven by her two friends. The

friends' father left it out on top of his TV. When I

found out I called my children's Father and read him

the riot act and then called this man and asked him

how he could be so irresponsible. He said that he was

the only one that had the key to the box where he kept

them and never left them out. I told him that he must

have forgotten at least once because his daughters

played that movie for my daughter. I then demanded

that the children's father never allow them to be at

that person's house. I can be ever vigilant but I

can't control what happens when they are with their

father and that worries me.

My oldest son was invited to a senior party that the

parents had provided margarita machines and then these

young adults were leaving and driving. What idiots!

I make sure that my kids' friends' parents know that I

don't allow them to go anywhere else unless I am

called and they definitely can't be dropped off at the

mall to hang out. I don't feel as though the mall is

a good babysitter.

They are always mad at me for being overprotective but

when I hear of things like what happened to Stacey's

son I become more resolved to protect them and I don't

care if anyone thinks I am too strict. Let me know if

you have all experienced this. Hugs. Iris

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