Nasty Neighbor

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...... " His wife may well deny anything is wrong, as these individuals are often

abusive spouses as well. " .....

They call it " co-dependency " and I've seen it happen so much. An older friend

of mine who is partially disabled with diabetes, osteo, possibly FMS, and a few

other ailments, has a 35 year old son that lives with her. He's a druggie,

works once in a blue moon for a few days, just long enough to get drug money

when he's not stealing from someone. The state pays him to clean house for her

at the tune of about $250 or so a month but he just waits for the check and

diapears for a few day to get loaded. After coming back, he crashes for several

days and then maybe will get up and vacuum but but does little else. She is

dependent on him as she cannot drive anyplace alone anymore and maybe once or

twice a month, he will go to the store with her. She is unable to break the

connection because she is dependant on him and she is lonely. Most people will

not go see her anymore because of him. He can get violent with her also, and the

Department of Aging has been called but he smoozed them and things go on. I

talk to her every day and make runs there with food and little gifts every month

so that she knows she has someon she can depend on. But that co-dependency is a

real bummer. My two daughters married losers and finally have found there way

clear after years of denial and co-dependency. Keep that person in your

thoughts and prayers because more than likely, she will deny that there is

anything going on and her husband will probably take it out on her when the

report is made. But keep in mind that she is an adult and can make the decision

to seek help but a small child doesn't have a choice and must depend on an adult

to do the right thing.

Well, I'll climb down from my soapbox(though I don't know how I got up here

feeling the way I do today)and close this epistle. Greetings to all of you and

wishes for a happy, positive day that is pain free. Love, prayers, and hugs.

Jan in CA +/:=)

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