Stacey and Wyatt

[Guest guest]

Dear Stacey: Please, please, please report this neighbor. You don't want to

have that on your mind if he does it again. When I was a child, you didn't tell

anyone about it to save face for the family, as a result I had 6 years of

someone like this neighbor until I was 12 and put an end to it myself. It's

taken many years of reading, praying, and getting rid of the guilt feelings even

though it was not my fault. You are a good mother and you owe it to your son

and his friend. His friend might even be in harm's way. Many years ago, I

belonged to a single parent's group at the university here. Someone who had

been in the group for a long time and was even president when all this happened.

He asked me out when my youngest daughter was 5 or 6 to a theme park. My older

daughter was on a trip with my mother. I thought it would be fun for the two of

us. He started out buying her a few things that I thought was a little to much

and when I put the kabash on the buying things for her, he ended up not talking

to me. I thought that was strange. A couple of years later, I received a call

from the Sheriff's department. This man who claimed he had two kids away at

college, in truth did not have any kids. He was always taking in young women

from the group to help them get on their feet as he had a large house by

himself. These women in hindsight were always parents of very young, blond,

fair, girls. At this time, he had rented to a a young woman with a daughter and

a son who was a few years older. One day, the boy went into the garage and

found several videos and he brought them in to view. On the video's were young,

blond headed, little girls and one was his sister. The boy called the police.

He got wind of it before he got home from work that day and disappeared. By the

grace of God, my daughter was not one of them, all because I was alert to what I

felt was inappropriate. Your neighbor's actions are inappropriate and he needs

to be stopped. Having been close to situations like this, I know what it can do

to a family. It's a tough decision but my prayers and the prayers of all the

group are with you. I know you will do what is right for you. Love, prayers,

and hugs. Jan in CA

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[Guest guest]

Dear Jan...I am so sorry that you had to endure that

predator...God bless you. Thank goodness you were

aware of what could happen to your daughter and

prevented it. I am very vigilant with my daughter to

the point that I won't let her stay the night with any

friends that have single fathers (unless I know them

well) or older brothers. We still want to believe in

the goodness of people (and there are many that are)

that sometimes we have our heads in the sand.

When I was a girl, my grandfather always gave me a

creepy feeling. When I was 15 he grabbed me coming

out of the bathroom. I slapped him and told him he

had better never touch me. I was a very strong girl

and could take care of myself but yet I never told

anyone until I was in my thirties. My cousin, sister

and I were all talking and they also had run-ins with

him. I remember seeing him with my sister without a

shirt sitting on his lap and he was rubbing her chest

and back. It creeped me out but I don't think I ever

realized why I was uneasy.

My mother has had such a hard time all her life.

After my sister and I had talked I asked my mother if

she had been abused. She said she didn't think so but

that it was possible. I have my suspicion that she

was.

I never take any chances and I have always talked to

my children about not believing any threats against me

or their Father and that any creep that would try

anything abusive is a coward and they must tell me. It

is really scary out there and we must pay attention to

what our children say! I am very proud of Stacey; she

has a very strong sense of herself and her

responsibilities and was very brave in the face of a

difficult position...beware of mother lion!

Wishing you a restful evening. Iris

Janetta Tully <camommacat2@...> wrote:

> Dear Stacey: Please, please, please report this

> neighbor. You don't want to have that on your mind

> if he does it again. When I was a child, you didn't

> tell anyone about it to save face for the family, as

> a result I had 6 years of someone like this neighbor

> until I was 12 and put an end to it myself. It's

> taken many years of reading, praying, and getting

> rid of the guilt feelings even though it was not my

> fault. You are a good mother and you owe it to your

> son and his friend. His friend might even be in

> harm's way. Many years ago, I belonged to a single

> parent's group at the university here. Someone who

> had been in the group for a long time and was even

> president when all this happened. He asked me out

> when my youngest daughter was 5 or 6 to a theme

> park. My older daughter was on a trip with my

> mother. I thought it would be fun for the two of

> us. He started out buying her a few things that I

> thought was a little to much and when I put the

> kabash on the buying things for her, he ended up not

> talking to me. I thought that was strange. A

> couple of years later, I received a call from the

> Sheriff's department. This man who claimed he had

> two kids away at college, in truth did not have any

> kids. He was always taking in young women from the

> group to help them get on their feet as he had a

> large house by himself. These women in hindsight

> were always parents of very young, blond, fair,

> girls. At this time, he had rented to a a young

> woman with a daughter and a son who was a few years

> older. One day, the boy went into the garage and

> found several videos and he brought them in to view.

> On the video's were young, blond headed, little

> girls and one was his sister. The boy called the

> police. He got wind of it before he got home from

> work that day and disappeared. By the grace of God,

> my daughter was not one of them, all because I was

> alert to what I felt was inappropriate. Your

> neighbor's actions are inappropriate and he needs to

> be stopped. Having been close to situations like

> this, I know what it can do to a family. It's a

> tough decision but my prayers and the prayers of all

> the group are with you. I know you will do what is

> right for you. Love, prayers, and hugs.

> Jan in CA

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