RE: Yvette Re: How many parents still...

[Guest guest]

HI Yvette and CAthy

Grace is also like this, I could let her have a shower now although she

would not come out washed, she just enjoys the feeling of the water, she starts

her teeth and I finish them, she also cannot do snap fastenings or buttons and

her shoes have velcro or are slip on. Again, most of the time she is very

compliant especially if 'handled' in the right way! She will be nine in April.

She will go to wash her face but it comes back usually looking no different

and we still have to tell her to wash her hands and flush, I do not think it

is lack of hygeine just she forgets or have something better to do!

Tony

[Guest guest]

Hi Yvette,

Our girls sound very similar. will be 9 in February. also

has trouble with snaps and buttons due to fine motor issues and she

only wears slip-on type shoes, not only because of the dexterity

required to tie laces, but because she has a string " obsession " and

she would be constantly messing with the laces.

I really don't mind doing these things for her (she's such a sweet

angel) and she does try to help me and is very cooperative, and seems

very grateful for the help I give her.

> Hi ,

>

> My dd is going to be 9 in March & I still bathe her & wash her hair

> every

> night & brush her teeth. She has difficulty snapping her jeans due

> to hand

> strength & can not tie her shoes yet.

>

> Hygiene is definitely an issue so I will help her until she can do it

> herself.

>

> I am so with you on this!!

>

>

>

> Yvette A.

>

> There are definitely certain things I will not compromise on, and

> hygiene, diet and elimination are the main three. gets about

> 80% of her calories and nutrition from a " kitchen sink " smoothie I

> make for her in the afternoon, and she refuses to take it any other

> way than me feeding it to her with a spoon (it's about the

> consistency of frozen yogurt). People who witness this often ask me,

> " Are you still going to be feeding her like that when she's 20? " And

> my answer is " If that's what it takes to get her to eat it, you're

> darn right I am! " Same goes for personal care and grooming. It's

> really about the health aspects for me mainly.

>

>

>

>

>

>> Same here Debi, while my ASD daughter is only 5. I think it's

>> pretty normal

>> that I have to bathe her and brush her teeth -

>>

>>

>> On 11/29/08, Debi <fightingautism@ <mailto:fightingautism%

>> 40yahoo.com>

> yahoo.com> wrote:

>>>

>>> I do. She is 9, I still have to verbally prompt her to wash hair,

>>> rinse hair, and esp. brush teeth.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

hannah is 14...will not wear dresses, but, will not wear anything with zippers

or buttons, i buy slip on shoes or ones with velcroe where i can......not sure

about next year and school, whether i can find some appropriate, will have to go

look in shop and ask around.

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls@...: cathybuckley@...: Mon, 1 Dec

2008 09:47:12 -0800Subject: Re: Yvette Re: How many parents

still...

Hi Yvette,Our girls sound very similar. will be 9 in February. also

has trouble with snaps and buttons due to fine motor issues and she only wears

slip-on type shoes, not only because of the dexterity required to tie laces, but

because she has a string " obsession " and she would be constantly messing with

the laces.I really don't mind doing these things for her (she's such a sweet

angel) and she does try to help me and is very cooperative, and seems very

grateful for the help I give her.On Dec 1, 2008, at 9:06 AM, Yvette

wrote:> Hi ,>> My dd is going to be 9 in March & I still bathe her

& wash her hair > every> night & brush her teeth. She has difficulty snapping

her jeans due > to hand> strength & can not tie her shoes yet.>> Hygiene is

definitely an issue so I will help her until she can do it> herself.>> I am so

with you on this!!>>>> Yvette A.>> There are definitely certain things I will

not compromise on, and> hygiene, diet and elimination are the main three.

gets about> 80% of her calories and nutrition from a " kitchen sink " smoothie I>

make for her in the afternoon, and she refuses to take it any other> way than me

feeding it to her with a spoon (it's about the> consistency of frozen yogurt).

People who witness this often ask me,> " Are you still going to be feeding her

like that when she's 20? " And> my answer is " If that's what it takes to get her

to eat it, you're> darn right I am! " Same goes for personal care and grooming.

It's> really about the health aspects for me mainly.>> >> On Nov 29, 2008,

at 5:37 PM, Theresa wrote:>>> Same here Debi, while my ASD daughter is only 5. I

think it's>> pretty normal>> that I have to bathe her and brush her teeth

->>>>>> On 11/29/08, Debi <fightingautism@ <mailto:fightingautism% >>

40yahoo.com>> yahoo.com> wrote:>>>>>> I do. She is 9, I still have to verbally

prompt her to wash hair,>>> rinse hair, and esp. brush teeth.>>>>>> [Non-text

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[Guest guest]

Chez if you get stuck give me a yell since its warm alll the time up here they

tend to keep a decent range of slip on runners or loafers in the shops.

 

Melting in NQ.

>>>>>> I do. She is 9, I still have to verbally prompt her to wash

hair,>>> rinse hair, and esp. brush

teeth.>>>>>>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I don't mind either because my dd is also very sweet & cooperative & like

your dd is very appreciative. I have taught her to say please & thank you

which makes it so much easier too.

Yvette A.

Re: Yvette Re: How many parents still...

Hi Yvette,

Our girls sound very similar. will be 9 in February. also

has trouble with snaps and buttons due to fine motor issues and she

only wears slip-on type shoes, not only because of the dexterity

required to tie laces, but because she has a string " obsession " and

she would be constantly messing with the laces.

I really don't mind doing these things for her (she's such a sweet

angel) and she does try to help me and is very cooperative, and seems

very grateful for the help I give her.

> Hi ,

>

> My dd is going to be 9 in March & I still bathe her & wash her hair

> every

> night & brush her teeth. She has difficulty snapping her jeans due

> to hand

> strength & can not tie her shoes yet.

>

> Hygiene is definitely an issue so I will help her until she can do it

> herself.

>

> I am so with you on this!!

>

>

>

> Yvette A.

>

> There are definitely certain things I will not compromise on, and

> hygiene, diet and elimination are the main three. gets about

> 80% of her calories and nutrition from a " kitchen sink " smoothie I

> make for her in the afternoon, and she refuses to take it any other

> way than me feeding it to her with a spoon (it's about the

> consistency of frozen yogurt). People who witness this often ask me,

> " Are you still going to be feeding her like that when she's 20? " And

> my answer is " If that's what it takes to get her to eat it, you're

> darn right I am! " Same goes for personal care and grooming. It's

> really about the health aspects for me mainly.

>

>

>

>

>

>> Same here Debi, while my ASD daughter is only 5. I think it's

>> pretty normal

>> that I have to bathe her and brush her teeth -

>>

>>

>> On 11/29/08, Debi <fightingautism@ <mailto:fightingautism%

>> 40yahoo.com>

> yahoo.com> wrote:

>>>

>>> I do. She is 9, I still have to verbally prompt her to wash hair,

>>> rinse hair, and esp. brush teeth.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

hello everyone prolly doesnt know me but I have the same probs. with my 4 yr.

old she cant do half as much as my 3 yr old and she gets mad as tells me shes

not my baby anymore she is very upset that she cant do somethings like him but i

try to help her.She is a very vocal child also.If I go somewhere and she cant

she will scream at the top of her lungs til I dont go or she gets to go.Anyone

got any suggestions on how to fix this problem?If so please drop me a line ty so

much Joyce

>>>>>> I do. She is 9, I still have to verbally prompt her to wash

hair,>>> rinse hair, and esp. brush

teeth.>>>>>>

[Guest guest]

Hi Joyce

I have same problem with my eight and a half year old, If I have to go out

and she cannot come, I just leave making sure all windows are locked and then

lock doors as I go and leave my huisband or whoever is looking after her to

deal with the fall out! Sorry I have tried all sortrs over the years! So if

anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear from them! I have similar

problems leaving her at places, school brownies etc, although since her dog has

been working she has improved at being left at other places.

Tony

[Guest guest]

hi all

we`ve been going through this for over 4 yrs and it wasn`t until last yr my

girl (who is 9 now) to understand that when i leave i do come back sooner

or later... all we did was stage 1> sneak out and i was back 99% of the

time before she new i was gone. my other half and other kids had to help by

keeping her busy .. after awhile we started on stage 2 ..

stage 2 > i gave kiss, cuddle , told her i would be back soon im just going

to ........ my other half would hold her while i walked out and he would

get her to wave bye throu the window ..

stage 3 > i walk out my girl waves and says bye ... sometimes we go back to

stage 2 ... but not that often

on doing this i have also taken her with me as a treat and she understands

that now ....

it took a very long time to get somewhere on me leaving her .. it all came

down to is have a plan and everyone involed does the same thing. and she

will understand it.

cheers

Michele

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