Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 One of our neighbors tried when her typical daughter had lots of problems on the playground (choking). She wasn’t able to because the children involved were under 10 years old. This was a few years ago and I don’t know if the age limit is still in effect. Tonya From: Texas-Autism-Advocacy [mailto:Texas-Autism-Advocacy ] On Behalf Of daisies48 Sent: Thursday, November 20, 2008 9:15 AM To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy Subject: Bullies: How far do we go to stop them? Has anyone filed a police report? Is this what to do in order to make bullies, their parents & caretakers more responsible? This is the second major incident & now the bully is recruiting other older boys to beat up on my child.....I hate to go to the extreme but the boy's daddy appears to have his own issues and the mother is useless. The daycare workers can only file an incident report.... I really don't want to go to this extreme, just can't seem to make it stop! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 I believe the age of ten you're referring to is the age at which you can take legal action against the other child.I missed the original post on this subject. However, please understand that usually the child who is the perpetrator also has issues and may well have their own disabilities. I actually had a situation where a middle school aged child threatened to push my own daughter off of the back of the band riser row where they sat next to each other. And she'd been known to do it to others. However, my daughter also knew that she had her own "counselor" in special education at the school. So I went to talk to the assistant principal about the situation, and he quickly offered to talk to the girl (obviously not very surprised at this report). I declined, saying that I was sure my daughter would face serious retaliation if that happened. However, I asked him to discuss the situation with her counselor since she appeared to be a special education student, and probably emotionally disturbed.That ended my daughter's immediate torment by the girl, although that girl eventually had a serious violent melt down in high school and never returned to our school.Not all bullies are emotionally disturbed. Some are victims of abuse themselves. Some have anger management issues. Remember that your own child will be better off if you attempt to get to the root of the problem, rather than invoke criminal or disciplinary authorities. An assault charge or disciplinary action doesn't help your child much, if the kid continues to hit him (or her). If there's any way to get the parents and/or school to evaluate the child's need for counseling and provide it if there is a need, I think you'll have a better chance at longer term peace. Feller Heiligenthal Attorney at Law www.studentslawyer.net studentslawyer@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2008 Report Share Posted December 4, 2008 RE: Bullies.. I must be in agreement with on this one as many children that are 'bullied' are possibly in the same placement as the bully and will suffer from some type of retaliation for any criminal action taken. Since the majority of those that are bullying are in SED or other Spec Ed Classes they may be acting upon a ' manifestation of their disability ' . This does not at all excuse this within our society but does excuse them from some parameters of the Law. If a bully is known to be in regular ed and is a teen, I would have a different viewpoint altogether. But I must say that I have had cases turn out much better when action was taken within the Administration of the school. It's hard to hear that your child has or is being pushed around by another and I know personally how that feels. But we must look at the 'long run' and we know that all kids will be kids..their disability is always second to the fact they are kids. Generally a phone call or two or an in person visit to the Principal of the school or counselor as stated in 's email is very effective. If this doesn't work then you can always have a not so friendly Advocate give them a call ... or if you want to enlist an Attorney you could do so as well.. that would be your right. I always handle cases such as this with 'kid gloves' because I don't want the child that is already being harassed to have to take more from a friend of the bully. It would be nice to say " Lock em up and throw away the key " ... that would answer our moment to moment frustrations..but in all reality it wouldn't make a better society for us to live in. If you need some assistance email me on my personal yahoo acct. and I can possibly help. Sometimes it does alot of good to take the frustrated party out of the picture and let someone that can call them do so with a Firm and 'down to business' approach. I am not an attorney, I am a reg. Civil Rights Lobbyist and Educational Advocate. I do not charge parents for helping them... I know attorneys must keep a practice going so I am not saying anything bad about anyone.. just stating if you need help we must stick together and help each other. E. , Sr. The Office of Advocacy for Autistic Children ===================== Posted through Grouply, the better way to access your Yahoo Groups like this one. http://www.grouply.com/?code=post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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