Re: An Interesting Paradox

[Guest guest]

Dearest Friend and Sister Ali; Such a grand post. Yes, we all spend too much time pondering on what makes others tick, how to interact with them, and how to find harmony. It is a melodious challenge- there will always be someone who is different that what we first see them as, just as equally as they will (over time) change their opinions of who we also are. I could not agree more that it all starts and ends within the self. Who we are, our intentions, how we view others and life itself. Our main shortcoming is our emotions. In an instant, they manifest. We become happy, sad, ~judgemental~ and the sorts. No one is capable of disturbing the flow which we are. It is the thoughts and feelings which we alone manifest within the grey blob of doom aka the mind. When others upset or anger us, why did we let this happen? Why did we not take the breath, the moment, to use skillful means, awareness, and compassion to readjust whatever event

just wrecked our day. It is our responsibility and ours alone. Patience is our best friend. Compassion To All, Randy

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[Guest guest]

My Sweet Friend Ali,

All I said, honestly after reading this was WOW! This was

sooooooooo thought-provoking and amazing! You have such a gift! I

honestly can say, it is so much easier to " fall " into the " societal,

judging self " when I look at myself. You have started many a wheels

a spinnin, my dear! hehe That is a VERY GOOD thing! It puts so

much into perspective! I have been having my own little pity party,

blaming everyone else is so much easier...But is so NOT FAIR! Not

fair to the beautiful people whom I am closest to and to all of my

other brothers and sisters I have yet to meet. I just am sitting

here just in total awe, really...

I do truly feel a deep respect for all beings, but I still do

feel that I may have only nearly scratched the surface with knowing

my cherished ones and first and foremost, I have learned some of

myself and whom I AM, but I must say, this is definitely a time to

write in my journal! I am saving this post, so that I may really

define ME, so that as my Daddy used to say, I can " Give 100% of

myself and not give 50/50 for I am only giving half of myself to

everone. " His words, with yours, I humbly feel resonate what I need

to do for myself. Become truly whole. Thank you so much, my sweet

friend and much love and blessings to you for this wonderful message

of love!! Namaste, LUNA---

In , " alisonkain " <alisonkain@...>

wrote:

>

>

> Have you ever noticed how much time we spend attempting to get to

know

> someone only to arrive at the epiphany that, in some ways, we rarely

> ever really fully know another? How many times have you said, " I

> thought I knew them so well, but... " ?

>

>

> Consider this...most of us spend most of our time looking outward;

one

> of the greatest reasons we do this is to develop relationships of

> various types (e.g.work, love, friends, etc...) in all their

glorious

> myriad of complex, simple,beautiful, difficult various shapes and

types.

> Still, I've noted that seldom have these relationships been built

upon a

> very solid foundation since we use them (albeit usually

unconsciously)

> to avoid getting to know ourselves first and well. Odd, wouldn't

you

> agree?

>

> What would happen if we spent even half as much time attempting to

know

> ourselves (and not in an arrogant nor narcissistic manner) as we do

> others? Would we come to the know the depths of who we truly are -

and

> not by labels or demographic-esque language? In short, the gist of

the

> question becomes, if we spent as much time looking to understand

our own

> motives, our thoughts, our fears, our hopes, our joys, would we

> sincerely know ourselves well enough to even begin to realize all

that

> we are this day and can be at any given point?

>

> I postulate this then for your consideration: would the very act of

> knowing ourselves not also allow for the furthering and deepening

of our

> various relationships; their structure, their essence, their

beauty?

> Why? In what ways would this help? (You may be asking those

questions

> now.) I believe, in my own humble estimation and experience,that

the

> very art of undertaking the act of knowing one's truest self leads

to

> less desire to blame others for our faults, stops blockades from

being

> erected by us out of fear of being hurt, stops justifying

maltreatment

> of others, leads to greater respect for self and therefore

subsequently

> also others, and, last but not least, aids in ending or healing our

> base/root (often shared or common) fears. I humbly suggest that it

is

> in the course of learning who we are that we can also begin to truly

> know and see the truth of who others are. We can also stop trying

to

> label or pigeon-hole these cherished souls we love into categories

that

> don't befit them or do justice to their importance to us; we can

simply

> enjoy and accept them as they are, or leave them if things cannot

work

> out despite the presence of love (in whatever form it may take) all

> while learning to love and accept our own selves more.

>

> Let's throw away personas, masks, veneers, labels and demographic

> information when we look at who we are because, again, in my humble

> opinion, we are NOT who we present to another in the course of one

> persona or another, be it our job label, or our marriage status, or

our

> parental status; we are souls living a human life with special

gifts,

> purposes, loves, desires, hopes, joys, fears, sorrows and

struggles.

> This, my dear friends, is who we really are - at least to me. *soft

> smile*

>

> The short version? The crux?

>

> To have the capacity to sincerely deeply know another requires us to

> know ourselves first and foremost; truly, deeply and wholly. We do

it

> backwards too often and expect to find ourselves in another; hence

the

> paradox.

>

> Original work of: Alison Kain 2007 - posted in my Blog on MySpace

> (Eternally A Seeker)

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Alison,

This is so true thank you for your inlightment.

Peace and Love,

Lynn

--- In , " alisonkain " <alisonkain@...>

wrote:

>

>

> Have you ever noticed how much time we spend attempting to get to

know

> someone only to arrive at the epiphany that, in some ways, we rarely

> ever really fully know another? How many times have you said, " I

> thought I knew them so well, but... " ?

>

>

> Consider this...most of us spend most of our time looking outward;

one

> of the greatest reasons we do this is to develop relationships of

> various types (e.g.work, love, friends, etc...) in all their

glorious

> myriad of complex, simple,beautiful, difficult various shapes and

types.

> Still, I've noted that seldom have these relationships been built

upon a

> very solid foundation since we use them (albeit usually

unconsciously)

> to avoid getting to know ourselves first and well. Odd, wouldn't

you

> agree?

>

> What would happen if we spent even half as much time attempting to

know

> ourselves (and not in an arrogant nor narcissistic manner) as we do

> others? Would we come to the know the depths of who we truly are -

and

> not by labels or demographic-esque language? In short, the gist of

the

> question becomes, if we spent as much time looking to understand

our own

> motives, our thoughts, our fears, our hopes, our joys, would we

> sincerely know ourselves well enough to even begin to realize all

that

> we are this day and can be at any given point?

>

> I postulate this then for your consideration: would the very act of

> knowing ourselves not also allow for the furthering and deepening

of our

> various relationships; their structure, their essence, their

beauty?

> Why? In what ways would this help? (You may be asking those

questions

> now.) I believe, in my own humble estimation and experience,that

the

> very art of undertaking the act of knowing one's truest self leads

to

> less desire to blame others for our faults, stops blockades from

being

> erected by us out of fear of being hurt, stops justifying

maltreatment

> of others, leads to greater respect for self and therefore

subsequently

> also others, and, last but not least, aids in ending or healing our

> base/root (often shared or common) fears. I humbly suggest that it

is

> in the course of learning who we are that we can also begin to truly

> know and see the truth of who others are. We can also stop trying

to

> label or pigeon-hole these cherished souls we love into categories

that

> don't befit them or do justice to their importance to us; we can

simply

> enjoy and accept them as they are, or leave them if things cannot

work

> out despite the presence of love (in whatever form it may take) all

> while learning to love and accept our own selves more.

>

> Let's throw away personas, masks, veneers, labels and demographic

> information when we look at who we are because, again, in my humble

> opinion, we are NOT who we present to another in the course of one

> persona or another, be it our job label, or our marriage status, or

our

> parental status; we are souls living a human life with special

gifts,

> purposes, loves, desires, hopes, joys, fears, sorrows and

struggles.

> This, my dear friends, is who we really are - at least to me. *soft

> smile*

>

> The short version? The crux?

>

> To have the capacity to sincerely deeply know another requires us to

> know ourselves first and foremost; truly, deeply and wholly. We do

it

> backwards too often and expect to find ourselves in another; hence

the

> paradox.

>

> Original work of: Alison Kain 2007 - posted in my Blog on MySpace

> (Eternally A Seeker)

>