Re: Re: Driver's test today

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Wow! Congratulations to him - awesome! Good luck with letting him behind the

wheel without you, though!

Beth

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Well, he passed with a 96. The lady told him he was one of three who

passed all day long. Most failed, which kind of freaked me out.

Now the hard part comes. Letting him out of my sight to drive. @@

Yikes!

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In a message dated 3/21/2008 1:47:42 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

BJClosner@... writes:

I see that with Josh too, LT. Questioning, questioning. . Lots of

doubts. He knows which way to go to get to certain places, yet still

asks and need (his word) " confirmation " .

BJ - have him drive as much as possible. Drive with him as much as you

possibly can. Whenever dd questioned anything we would simply say " what do YOU

think? " Each time we would additionally explain that she will be driving by

herself and cannot rely on what other people tell her - someone won't always

be here. Driving is a HUGE responsibility (as we all know) and as difficult

as it is for our kids, they have to work extra hard to overcome the OCD issues

when behind the wheel. We told dd that if she was not ready/able to make

this decisions on her own, she was not ready to be driving.

We know they can make the decisions themselves - they need to understand

that too. It's actually a good tool to use with OCDers. They see that you

trust them to do it - I think it helps them push a little more against the

questioning thing.

I remember when dd first started driving - GIRL!!! the questions she asked

while behind the wheel really, really scared me. For a while I thought she

would never be able to drive alone. Honestly - she would be sitting first in

line at a red light waiting to straight and INSIST that we confirm which

traffic she will be merging with when the light turned green. My husband & I

would throw looks at each other... like... " AAAAHHHHHHHH!!! " knowing she would

be out on her own in the car soon.

Slowly, those questions stopped - mostly I think because we stopped

answering them. Be firm with the " what do YOU think you should do... " and " if

you

can't make these decisions yourself, you're not ready to drive. " They of

course will have a lot of dumb first-time driver questions that are legitimate

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as an parent of an OCDer, you're constantly questioning yourself over " is that

OCD or 1st time driver " ??? hahaha...

Anyway, 'nuf said. So - I'm assuming he passed the test???

LT

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Congratulations to your son! Our daughter (also 16) is not in a place with her

ocd to drive at this point but we're hoping with the right help she can soon.

We need to get the staring rituals under control-not condusive to driving!

Wow-what a boost to him that he was one of only three all day-fabulous!

svdbyhislove wrote:

Well, he passed with a 96. The lady told him he was one of three who

passed all day long. Most failed, which kind of freaked me out.

Now the hard part comes. Letting him out of my sight to drive. @@

Yikes!

BJ

>

> Okay, wish us luck today. Josh is going in to take his driver's test

> this afternoon. I'm hoping his anxiety doesn't get the best of him.

> I'm hoping we come home with a license. )

>

> These milestones for our kids are always tougher than it is for the

> average kid.

>

> BJ

>

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