Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > Wow, first the bar soap and now THIS!!! He is really doing well! > Happy dance!!!! > > Now - I have to wonder about the next birthday that comes along, will > it be back to " exact days " or...? I bet if the same situation > happens, he might moan at first but again get past it OR it won't > bother him at all. > > Hope he's been smiling since! > > I just called (two hours after he joined party) and he's still in there, happy as can be. I don't know about the future, but I think I'd best let this " victory " sink in for awhile so I can relish the feeling! :-) (Uh, my son too, hopefully!) I told my husband a week ago that he needed to take the day off work in order to take my son to this party because I knew I'd be a bit of a basket case over it. I'm kind of superstitious ( " knock wood " seems to be my mantra lately) so I hate to get too excited, but yeah, these little victories seem pretty much the stepping stones to the Happy Dance. ;-) Of course, then my other voice reminds me that every time one OCD habit is given up, another soon takes its place, right? OK, I will think pozzzzzzzzzz-it-ive! Cheery Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 That is terrific, Cat! Hopefully, when this situation arises again, he can remember how he overcame it this time and draw strength from that, so he can push through again. Here's hoping. BJ > > Just wanted to share. > > My 11 yr old son has this long list of " rules " in his head that make > family life difficult at times. One that's been set in stone for many > years is that he will never celebrate or acknowledge a birthday (his > or anyone else's) unless it is the exact birthday of the person in > question. No amount of cake & ice cream, nor any other bribe or > coercion, can sway him. I guess I don't have to tell this crowd that > such a simple thing as that has caused problems with friends and > relatives over the years. > > A month ago, a boy in my son's much-beloved Dungeons & Dragons group > announced that he'd be having a special D & D party for his birthday. > His mom was going all out with party ideas. Our regular game leader > was putting together an extra-special game for this day, a finale the > group had been working up to for the past six months, and my son > couldn't wait. That is, until he discovered that it would not fall on > the kid's exact birthday. From that point on, we have watched our son > shed tears, have fits, moan, groan, argue and melt down in agony > because he was certain his " absurdities " as he calls them would not > allow him to attend. It was a sad phase, to say the least. > > My husband and I tried a bit of reasoning, but you know how effective > that is (with my son, zilch!) so as hard as it was, we backed off and > just let him be. This is a kid who rarely, if ever, allows himself to > cry, and every day for the past week he's shed real tears over this as > the party day loomed. > > Well, I guess my subject line gives away the ending, but this morning > my husband brought him to the party (my son insisted he would just sit > outside the door the whole time). An hour and a half into it, he > suddenly gave up and went in and joined the group. > > Can I say Hooray twice in a month? (the last time was over his finally > using bar soap). > > HOORAY! > > Cat > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 ******************** Can I say Hooray twice in a month? (the last time was over his finally using bar soap). HOORAY! ***************** Wow! You certainly may! HOORAY!!!! Good for him! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2008 Report Share Posted March 28, 2008 Cat, That's great news! Don't worry about other OCD behaviors cropping up. If you are seeing a general improvement I'd be optimistic! Sinead Re: another small victory > Wow, first the bar soap and now THIS!!! He is really doing well! > Happy dance!!!! > > Now - I have to wonder about the next birthday that comes along, will > it be back to " exact days " or...? I bet if the same situation > happens, he might moan at first but again get past it OR it won't > bother him at all. > > Hope he's been smiling since! > > I just called (two hours after he joined party) and he's still in there, happy as can be. I don't know about the future, but I think I'd best let this " victory " sink in for awhile so I can relish the feeling! :-) (Uh, my son too, hopefully!) I told my husband a week ago that he needed to take the day off work in order to take my son to this party because I knew I'd be a bit of a basket case over it. I'm kind of superstitious ( " knock wood " seems to be my mantra lately) so I hate to get too excited, but yeah, these little victories seem pretty much the stepping stones to the Happy Dance. ;-) Of course, then my other voice reminds me that every time one OCD habit is given up, another soon takes its place, right? OK, I will think pozzzzzzzzzz- it-ive! Cheery Cat ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your home page. http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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