Re: Terrible Dr. Appointment

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What state are you from?Sent from my iPhone

Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son (14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and just wanted to escape that place.

I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that keeps my son centered and happy.

I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for listening..

Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

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Sounds like what my son has. We have been lucky to find a great psychiatrist. I wouldn't take him back to her. Explain to his regular doc what happened and ask if there is anyone in that area that you can go to. If not, since he isn't on any meds as you said, you dont need to go to her.

On a side note, you say your son has ADHD and he isn't on meds? How are you doing that? If my son wasn't on his meds he would be completely unmanageable and unapproachable in anyway.Charity

-- When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the worldLife is not measured by the number of breaths we take-but by the moments that take our breath away.

No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.

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I would make a report to your insurance

company about her behavior and talk to whoever is in charge of her employment.

You NEVER should have this happen to you and you have every right to tell

someone what happened and request a new doctor. You shouldn’t get treated like

this by a professional and if she’s hired through your insurance they should

have someone who you can call and tell what happened.

S.

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of Adina

Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012

10:48 AM

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re:

Terrible Dr. Appointment

What state are you from?

Sent from my iPhone

Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the

one we loved didn't get her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't

ever remember being treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45

minutes behind, my son (14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she

called us back he was so groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During

our conversation,something I said about our first psychiatrist must have

ruffled her feathers because she began to tell me how much more education she

had than a regular psychiatrist,she belittled me with questions about what have

I learned about this disorder,what was I doing for my child. At one point when

I was answering her question she asked me if I was going to shut up or would I

like her to just sit there and listen the whole session. After that I didn't

say a word,I fought back tears and just wanted to escape that place.

I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is

stable,he goes to a Spectrum

School,he is off all meds

and doing very well. When he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through

reading,sites like this one and talking to professionals/parents/organizations.

I will never be an expert on Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is

finding that happy balance that keeps my son centered and happy.

I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her

but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he

doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for

listening..

Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

[Guest guest]

Don't take your child back! That doctor was totally unprofessional! If it had been me..I might not have held back my words. It is bad your options are limited but, a doctor like that is no help to you or anyone else.

[Guest guest]

First thing you should do it write everything down while it is still fresh in

your mind. Be as specific as possible. Then contact that office and find out who

is 'in charge'. I would talk to that person's supervisor first. You might even

talk to the dr too. Tell her how her lack of support/kindness made you feel. I

would also contact your insurance company and file a complaint there too. You

can also file a complaint against with the Better Business Bureau and your local

medical board.

Sorry you had such a horrible experience. As for your child's medical care...I

would see if you could see someone else in the practice but if not then I would

think you should just use a regular pediatrician. It doesn't sound like he

needs a specialist...especially if he isn't on any meds.

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> Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get

her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being

treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son

(14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so

groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something

I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she

began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she

belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what

was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she

asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and

listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and

just wanted to escape that place.

> I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is

stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When

he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and

talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on

Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that

keeps my son centered and happy.

> I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her

but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he

doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for

listening..

> Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

>

[Guest guest]

I would ask for a referral elsewhere. The way she acted is detrimental towards

both you and your son. You should never have to be involved in something that

makes you feel bad, when it's goal is to help you cope.

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> Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get

her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being

treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son

(14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so

groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something

I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she

began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she

belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what

was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she

asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and

listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and

just wanted to escape that place.

> I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is

stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When

he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and

talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on

Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that

keeps my son centered and happy.

> I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her

but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he

doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for

listening..

> Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

>

[Guest guest]

About bad docs, which you would know, and which would really be a problem here in podunky Wausau.  It would take a major city like Chicago, and major connections at that to properly diagnose such a condition, and even that would be shaky.  I’ll just have to stick with my diagnosis, which I shall pretty much keep to my self, but if you lived with him a few days, you would surely agree with me, I bet big stakes on that. www.tkufahl.info From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of AdinaSent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 10:48 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Terrible Dr. Appointment What state are you from?Sent from my iPhone Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son (14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and just wanted to escape that place. I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that keeps my son centered and happy.I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for listening..Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

[Guest guest]

Thank you first off for the support and advice.. I live near Lakeland Florida. I

don't have my son on meds anymore because he has been on ADHD meds since he was

about 6 or 7 with no real results.The last one he got weined off just

recently(Intuniv). In the begining ADHD is what they said he had and up until

last year I knew nothing else was going on. My son will be 15 yrs old this

weekend and I have found that as long as I project positive,I keep to a routine

and warn him in advance about changes he seems to stay stable. I have for most

my son's life been there for him, I was fortunate enough to not have to work

most of his life. I in turn am the " choosen " parent. If Iam stressed he begins

to come undone,so I put on a smile. Sounds wierd but it works.

As far as the Dr involved, I felt defeated when she spoke to me that way. The

reason I believe I clammed up is for my son. He has been through so much these

past couple of years. Middle school was rough,the kids were cruel to him in many

ways. Even now with him being in a spectrum school I still panic at times. I

have felt for so many years that my husband and I were the only ones that could

protect him,I had little trust for anyone because I felt like they would judge

me or not accept him/me for the way my child was/is. I want to have faith in

people but when you endure so much at the hands of another because they don't

know,understand or lack compassion it makes you very unwilling to put yourself

out there. Time heals all I believe,in time I will become more trusting.

Thank you again for the advice. I have a lot to think about before I take

action.

Have a wonderful day,

Kathy

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> Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get

her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being

treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son

(14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so

groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something

I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she

began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she

belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what

was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she

asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and

listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and

just wanted to escape that place.

> I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is

stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When

he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and

talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on

Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that

keeps my son centered and happy.

> I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her

but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he

doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for

listening..

> Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

>

[Guest guest]

Please do not go back to this doctor!!! How horrible that she made you feel

this way. Please be sure to post reviews of her online at sites like

RateMDs.com and healthgrades.com so other people don't waste their time and

money going to her.

I live in a smaller town a couple hours from DC. It is very hard to find good

doctors. I just keep searching and asking questions and read reviews online.

We go to developmental ped about 2 hrs away once per year. He's at a teaching

hospital in Charlottesville, VA. It sounds like your son is pretty stable so

you may be able to go further, less often, as well.

Although my 7 yo son had anxiety issues, ocd, odd, depression, etc. when he was

enrolled in school, they have completely disappeared since we started

homeschooling this year. We don't do meds and we follow an all-natural diet as

best we can.

Good luck!

Kristy in VA

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> Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get

her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being

treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son

(14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so

groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something

I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she

began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she

belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what

was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she

asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and

listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and

just wanted to escape that place.

> I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is

stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When

he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and

talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on

Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that

keeps my son centered and happy.

> I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her

but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he

doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for

listening..

> Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

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[Guest guest]

I think younger a really good mom, congratulations for holding it together! Keep trying other doctors, it is good to have one in the wings if you need one.

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Re: Terrible Dr. Appointment

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Sat, Jan 7, 2012 3:38:56 PM

Please do not go back to this doctor!!! How horrible that she made you feel this way. Please be sure to post reviews of her online at sites like RateMDs.com and healthgrades.com so other people don't waste their time and money going to her.

I live in a smaller town a couple hours from DC. It is very hard to find good doctors. I just keep searching and asking questions and read reviews online. We go to developmental ped about 2 hrs away once per year. He's at a teaching hospital in Charlottesville, VA. It sounds like your son is pretty stable so you may be able to go further, less often, as well.

Although my 7 yo son had anxiety issues, ocd, odd, depression, etc. when he was enrolled in school, they have completely disappeared since we started homeschooling this year. We don't do meds and we follow an all-natural diet as best we can.

Good luck!

Kristy in VA

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> Last month my son went to a new Child Psychiatrist(the one we loved didn't get her contract extended)This new one is a beast, I can't ever remember being treated so badly by a professional. She was running 45 minutes behind, my son (14)fell asleep in the waiting room. By the time she called us back he was so groggy that he didn't speak the whole session. During our conversation,something I said about our first psychiatrist must have ruffled her feathers because she began to tell me how much more education she had than a regular psychiatrist,she belittled me with questions about what have I learned about this disorder,what was I doing for my child. At one point when I was answering her question she asked me if I was going to shut up or would I like her to just sit there and listen the whole session. After that I didn't say a word,I fought back tears and just wanted to escape that place.

> I feel rather defeated now even though I know I have done my best. My son is stable,he goes to a Spectrum School,he is off all meds and doing very well. When he was first diagnosed I learned a lot through reading,sites like this one and talking to professionals/parents/organizations. I will never be an expert on Autism but my main focus isn't learning it is finding that happy balance that keeps my son centered and happy.

> I'm just not sure what to do now,I don't plan on ever taking him back to her but my choices on other doctor's like her is limited. If he isn't on meds he doesn't need to go see anyone unless he has an issue. Any Ideas? Thanks for listening..

> Btw.. my son has Autism,Adhd,Ocd,mood disorder,anxiety disorder.

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