RE: Re:any advice for a tired mom?

[Guest guest]

Hi Shauna!  May I ask what part of TX?  I’m out in West

TX, near Lubbock.

Tonya

From:

AutismBehaviorProblems

[mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ] On Behalf Of draeven@...

Sent: Wednesday, January 02, 2008 8:55 PM

To: AutismBehaviorProblems

Subject: Re:any advice for a tired mom?

Allie,

I

live in Texas so I don't have any advice about programs, etc. where you are,

but I do understand the stress you're under. Everyone here does. Just yesterday

I had to put a 'hold' on my 9 yo ASD son, face-down on the bed, because he was

mad about wanting to take Christmas cookies in his room and was fighting

and stabbing at me with a plastic fork. He backed off after realizing he

had gone too far, and was apologetic, but these type of scenarios are not cool.

All

I can tell you is if you are reporting basically good behavior for the last

year and suddenly it's gone bad, then maybe go back to square-one and look over

all of his traits, habits, and (bad behavior) triggers for differences occuring

in his lifestyle now. Extra stimulation, cold meds, new people, mommy busy,

anything. Really look long and hard at his daily life.

Take

time for yourself -I mean 'take' it. If you can get a few minutes with

earphones on and meditate or listen to music or the computer or anything that

relaxes you and reaffirms who you are then do it. That mess will be there

regardless, and it's ok, just reenergize yourself somehow in the day and you

can handle anything.

The

Quiet Warriors Among Us,

Shauna

P.S.

have you tried to find others in your area like you? they are out there...

[Guest guest]

Shauna

Yep I feel like we are back at square one, once again. Looking at

anything and everything.. things have not been " perfect " LOL but he has

really been cranky and irrirated since the beginning of Dec.. I have to

see if things settle once we get back to the " norma'l " routines.

It does seem that the smallest thing can stress him out, just as the

smallest thing can make him the happiest child in the world.

I know having the never ending " stuffy nose " has not been helping his

mood any. I have to find something to help build his immune system. He

is usually very heatlhy.. rarely gets more than the occassional sore

throat.

I have tried to find other parents with special needs kids. I have found

afew that I can relate to. Usually something happns where life gets too

busy or the kids have some sort of falling out or growing apart and we

stop talking. It seems hard for some of them to realize that its okt o

have adult friends without the kids being friends too..oh well.

Thanks for your email and thanks for everyones help, input and listening

to me vent!

Allie

(central wi)

[Guest guest]

Shauna,

do you know about the CPI training? http://www.crisisprevention.com 

It’s not a complete answer but will teach you how to restrain your son

safely.  I took the training through our local ESC.  Yours would be ESC-10 http://www.region10.org .  I know a lot of

folks are against restraint and what I liked about this program is it focuses

on prevention & diffusing the situation before a restraint is needed.  I’ve

used the techniques successfully with our son over the years.  He’s now

13.

Tonya

From:

AutismBehaviorProblems [mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ]

On Behalf Of draeven@...

Sent: Wednesday, January 02, 2008 8:55 PM

To: AutismBehaviorProblems

Subject: Re:any advice for a tired mom?

Allie,

I live in Texas so I don't have any advice about

programs, etc. where you are, but I do understand the stress you're under.

Everyone here does. Just yesterday I had to put a 'hold' on my 9 yo ASD son,

face-down on the bed, because he was mad about wanting to take Christmas

cookies in his room and was fighting and stabbing at me with a plastic

fork. He backed off after realizing he had gone too far, and was apologetic,

but these type of scenarios are not cool.

All I can tell you is if you are reporting basically

good behavior for the last year and suddenly it's gone bad, then maybe go back

to square-one and look over all of his traits, habits, and (bad behavior)

triggers for differences occuring in his lifestyle now. Extra stimulation, cold

meds, new people, mommy busy, anything. Really look long and hard at his daily

life.

Take time for yourself -I mean 'take' it. If you

can get a few minutes with earphones on and meditate or listen to music or the

computer or anything that relaxes you and reaffirms who you are then do

it. That mess will be there regardless, and it's ok, just reenergize yourself

somehow in the day and you can handle anything.

The Quiet Warriors Among Us,

Shauna

P.S. have you tried to find others in your area like

you? they are out there...