therapy session the other day with grandson

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Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other

day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and

his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for

him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a

bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was

supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and

forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He

had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.

Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must

have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do you need

help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he

needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What do you

need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little closer,

but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head

between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so bad.

What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to

ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated

and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not

know how to ask for help!

Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten

him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow

the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him

she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember

the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in

math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he

doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with math.

Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact

his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher

will help him!

Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Oh yes also if you tell him that something is going to happen he wants

it to happen right after you tell him. It is hard for him to realize

that it will take four days say, it will happen in four days. So he

keeps asking if it is time and we have to keep telling him no, three

more days, two more days, one more day. Now today is the day.

Carolyn

Carolyn wrote:

> Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the

> other day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with

> him and his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was

> stressful for him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his

> stomach on a bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats

> and he was supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he

> swung back and forth lunging for the things she directed him to by

> staring at them. He had to look at her eyes and the one she was

> staring at.

>

> Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He

> must have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do

> you need help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked

> him if he needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What

> do you need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little

> closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung

> his head between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not

> to feel so bad.

>

> What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW

> to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was

> frustrated and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it

> TRUE he does not know how to ask for help!

>

> Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have

> gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He would

> not follow the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk

> work with him she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't

> seem to remember the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is

> not doing well in math and reading. He can read one on one as he

> sounds out words but he doesn't really like it as it is hard for him.

> Same with math.

>

> Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

> breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the

> fact his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the

> teacher will help him!

>

> Carolyn

>

[Guest guest]

Also each time afterwards he is quite rude and unfriendly pretty much

how he behave after school and now before school. I think he is just

having a really hard time figuring out what he is supposed to do. I can

see some similarities in him that I have. I have struggled with this all

my life also, just trying to figure out what people WANT from me. When I

was a little kid like him I would stand on the sidelines and watch

games, etc. and would not participate at least not until I was

absolutely sure what was expected of me. And still this troubles me a

lot but as a kid I got little reassurance that I was alright, my mom was

a perfectionist and you could never please her. So don't know what came

first the chicken or the egg.

This boy gets TONS of encouragement and is STILL like that. My daughter

asked me why we have to tell him so much that he is alright, he is NOT a

failure, she seems to think telling him once he should get it. I told

her some kids must not believe it, I don't KNOW why! I wonder if others

at school have told him he was stupid or something, I know his brother

has sometimes said really mean things to him and he also says mean

things to his brother.

Carolyn

Carolyn wrote:

>

> Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other

> day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and

> his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for

> him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a

> bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was

> supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and

> forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He

> had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.

>

> Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must

> have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do you need

> help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he

> needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What do you

> need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little closer,

> but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head

> between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so

> bad.

>

> What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to

> ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated

> and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not

> know how to ask for help!

>

> Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten

> him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow

> the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him

> she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember

> the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in

> math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he

> doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with math.

>

> Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

> breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact

> his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher

> will help him!

>

> Carolyn

>

>

[Guest guest]

It is not uncommon for kids with ASD to have problems remembering a

sequence of instructions.  Or a sequence of any kind.  We have had

the same car for the last 11 years and I still can't remember the

last three numbers of the registration.  The three letters I

remember because they make a word, but the numbers are random.  All

my phone numbers are programmed into the phone, as I have no hope of

remembering them.  When my son was younger, we had to remind his

teachers that he would not remember more than two or three

instructions, and where possible the instructions should be clearly

written out in order so he could follow them one at a time.  It took

us a while to work out that one reason he didn't do work in class

was because he was not explicitly told what to do.  Most kids, given

a worksheet in class, will fill it out and hand it in.  Ben woulld

simply stare at it, or into space.  He needed to be told by the

teacher "fill this in and I will collect it at the end of class." 

He needed to know if he had to do all of it, or only a part of it

before he started.  He is now about to begin year 12, but even last

year he lost marks because he would not hand anything in until the

teacher told him to do so.  And he still has trouble asking.  At

least this year all assigments and exams are set by the state, so he

knows what has to be done and when it is due.  He even has his final

exam timetable, which is good.  Lucas will learn to ask for help,

but don't expect it to happen over night - or perhaps even in this

decade.  And don't ever expect him to ask for directions when

driving

 

Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my

grandson had the other

day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going

with him and

his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was

stressful for

him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his

stomach on a

bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and

he was

supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he

swung back and

forth lunging for the things she directed him to by

staring at them. He

had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.

Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last

one. He must

have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him,

"Do you need

help?" and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I

asked him if he

needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said,

"What do you

need?" She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a

little closer,

but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and

hung his head

between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine,

not to feel so bad.

What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did

not know HOW to

ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He

was frustrated

and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it

TRUE he does not

know how to ask for help!

Thinking about it though he has been like this all along.

I have gotten

him educational toys that he never would play with! He

would not follow

the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk

work with him

she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't

seem to remember

the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not

doing well in

math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out

words but he

doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with

math.

Do any of you think your children are like this? If so

this is a

breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride,

embarrassment or the fact

his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help

the teacher

will help him!

Carolyn

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My still has a hard time asking for help. And he sometimes gets so frustrated with things, if I try to help without being asked, he really freaks out! When he is not freaking out, I often remind him about asking for help, especially if something is coming up that I think he might need help with. But when the time comes, he will never ask. In school when he needs help, he will just sit in his desk and won't ask. The teachers sometimes think he is wasting time not doing the work. They are starting to learn that he wants to learn, just doesn't know how to ask for help.

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- therapy session the other day with grandson

Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, "Do you need help?" and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, "What do you need?" She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so bad.What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not know how to ask for help!Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with math.Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher will help him!Carolyn

[Guest guest]

also finds it difficult to judge time - but in the other way. If the teacher tells him he has 2 weeks to complete an assignment, in his mind 2 weeks is such a long time, he can't even think about starting. Then he forgets about it until after the assignment is due! We are trying to get teachers to ask him about assignments and to break them down a bit, like to have so much done in 3 days, then a bit more3 days after that etc. Some teachers are very helpful, some are not!!

This goes for things he enjoys too. For example, we are planning a trip to Disneyworld in November - I'm so excited I am always looking at Disney's website, making plans, thinking about what we should do and see. When I talk to him about it he is very disinterested - because it is too far away. To him it's not worth thinking about because it won't happen for such a long time, so much time that he can't comprehend it.

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- Re: therapy session the other day with grandson

Oh yes also if you tell him that something is going to happen he wants it to happen right after you tell him. It is hard for him to realize that it will take four days say, it will happen in four days. So he keeps asking if it is time and we have to keep telling him no, three more days, two more days, one more day. Now today is the day.CarolynCarolyn wrote:> Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the > other day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with > him and his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was > stressful for him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his > stomach on a bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats > and he was supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he > swung back and forth lunging for the things she directed him to by > staring at them. He had to look at her eyes and the one she was > staring at.>> Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He > must have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, "Do > you need help?" and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked > him if he needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, "What > do you need?" She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little > closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung > his head between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not > to feel so bad.>> What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW > to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was > frustrated and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it > TRUE he does not know how to ask for help!>> Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have > gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He would > not follow the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk > work with him she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't > seem to remember the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is > not doing well in math and reading. He can read one on one as he > sounds out words but he doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. > Same with math.>> Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a > breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the > fact his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the > teacher will help him!>> Carolyn>

[Guest guest]

This is also like . I think school can be so frustrating for them that when they are done, they don't have the energy to be polite and kind. That frustration just has to come out any way it can. This is improving as gets older, thank goodness! He's 14 now but when he was Lucas's age, he could be really rude and sometimes violent too.

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- Re: therapy session the other day with grandson

Also each time afterwards he is quite rude and unfriendly pretty much

how he behave after school and now before school. I think he is just

having a really hard time figuring out what he is supposed to do. I can

see some similarities in him that I have. I have struggled with this all

my life also, just trying to figure out what people WANT from me. When I

was a little kid like him I would stand on the sidelines and watch

games, etc. and would not participate at least not until I was

absolutely sure what was expected of me. And still this troubles me a

lot but as a kid I got little reassurance that I was alright, my mom was

a perfectionist and you could never please her. So don't know what came

first the chicken or the egg.

This boy gets TONS of encouragement and is STILL like that. My daughter

asked me why we have to tell him so much that he is alright, he is NOT a

failure, she seems to think telling him once he should get it. I told

her some kids must not believe it, I don't KNOW why! I wonder if others

at school have told him he was stupid or something, I know his brother

has sometimes said really mean things to him and he also says mean

things to his brother.

Carolyn

Carolyn wrote:

>

> Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other

> day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and

> his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for

> him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a

> bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was

> supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and

> forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He

> had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.

>

> Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must

> have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, "Do you need

> help?" and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he

> needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, "What do you

> need?" She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little closer,

> but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head

> between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so

> bad.

>

> What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to

> ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated

> and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not

> know how to ask for help!

>

> Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten

> him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow

> the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him

> she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember

> the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in

> math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he

> doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with math.

>

> Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

> breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact

> his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher

> will help him!

>

> Carolyn

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I can relate to what you are saying.  My son is the same.

 

also finds it difficult to judge

time - but in the other way. If the teacher

tells him he has 2 weeks to complete an

assignment, in his mind 2 weeks is such a

long time, he can't even think about

starting. Then he forgets about it until

after the assignment is due!  We are trying

to get teachers to ask him about assignments

and to break them down a bit, like to have

so much done in 3 days, then a bit more3

days after that etc. Some teachers are very

helpful, some are not!!

This goes for things he enjoys too. For

example, we are planning a trip to

Disneyworld in November - I'm so excited I

am always looking at Disney's website,

making plans, thinking about what we should

do and see. When I talk to him about it he

is very disinterested - because it is too

far away. To him it's not worth thinking

about because it won't happen for such a

long time, so much time that he can't

comprehend it.

 

Estevan, SK

Canada 

 

 

 

 

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From:

Carolyn

Date:

01/07/12 17:42:35

To:

autism-aspergers

Subject:

Re: therapy session the

other day with grandson

 

 

Oh yes also if you tell him that

something is going to happen he wants

it to happen right after you tell him. It

is hard for him to realize

that it will take four days say, it will

happen in four days. So he

keeps asking if it is time and we have to

keep telling him no, three

more days, two more days, one more day.

Now today is the day.

Carolyn

Carolyn wrote:

> Hello all, wanted to share the

therapy session my grandson had the

> other day. He has been going on

Thursdays and I have been going with

> him and his mother. This was the

third time he has gone and it was

> stressful for him as it got more

challenging. She had him hang by his

> stomach on a bungee swing and

sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats

> and he was supposed to pick them up

using this grabber thingy. So he

> swung back and forth lunging for the

things she directed him to by

> staring at them. He had to look at

her eyes an! d the one she was

> staring at.

>

> Well there was this one he could not

reach it was the last one. He

> must have lunged for it ten times at

least and she said to him, "Do

> you need help?" and he did not say

anything. Even his mom and I asked

> him if he needed help but he never

asked. Then his teacher said, "What

> do you need?" She was waiting for him

to ask her to move it a little

> closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he

got frustrated and came and hung

> his head between his mom and I and we

reassured him he was fine, not

> to feel so bad.

>

> What surprised us then was when the

teacher said he did not know HOW

> to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if

I believe this yet. He was

> frustrated and embarrassed and felt

like a total failure but is it

> TRUE he does not know how to ask for

help!

>

> Thinking about it though he has been

like this all along. I have

> gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He

would

> not follow the steps even if I told

him. When she was doing some desk

> work with him she had to tell him

each step as he did it. He couldn't

> seem to remember the instructions in

a sequence. So at school he is

> not doing well in math and reading.

He can read one on one as he

> sounds out words but he doesn't

really like it as it is hard for him.

> Same with math.

>

> Do any of you think your children are

like this? If so this is a

> breakthrough but I don't know if it

is pride, embarrassment or the

> fact his little brain cannot realize

that if he asks for help the

> teacher will help him!

>

> Carolyn

>

 

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My Sammy has the very same problem. He has such a high IQ but he gets poor grades becAuse he won't ask for help. How do you deal with it?

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My still has a hard time asking for help. And he sometimes gets so frustrated with things, if I try to help without being asked, he really freaks out! When he is not freaking out, I often remind him about asking for help, especially if something is coming up that I think he might need help with. But when the time comes, he will never ask. In school when he needs help, he will just sit in his desk and won't ask. The teachers sometimes think he is wasting time not doing the work. They are starting to learn that he wants to learn, just doesn't know how to ask for help.

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- therapy session the other day with grandson

Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do you need help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What do you need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a

little closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so bad.What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not know how to ask for help!Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with

math.Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher will help him!Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Hi , that is great you are going to Disneyland. We went a few years

ago, my son, his two kids and my daughter's two older kids. Lucas did

not go and I don't know if I'll ever be up to taking him. Anyway my son

Jeff is a software engineer and he has taken his kids many times so he

has it down pat. He ordered advanced books, not sure what they are

called, but with them we did not ever have to wait in lines. Everything

was paid for in advance. Also he had everything planned in advance

exactly where we would go all I had to do was to keep his baseball cap

in my sight and follow it with the two kids I had charge of. You won't

believe this but not once but TWICE I plodded right into the men's

bathroom, I had such a fear of losing him the crowd!

We flew in one day, stayed at a motel across the street with a swimming

pool, the boys had one room the girls one room. We got up ate breakfast

nearby, and went to the park the next day, and two more days in a row,

and flew back home the 5th day and Jeff had to drive us home from

Portland about 100 miles. Sadly at the time my son Marty was at home and

his caregiver had taken him to the hospital because he had gotten

pneumonia back and I had to stay five nights with him there!

Boy was I ever glad to get home. Also I worked out at the gym for three

months before we went and that was the best thing I ever did, walking on

the treadmill several times a week because I had to walk for about five

days straight, and very few benches to sit on for old people. It cost me

$1,500 for our share of the trip.

Just some hints.

Carolyn in OR ;o)

wmgodfrey@... wrote:

>

> also finds it difficult to judge time - but in the other way.

> If the teacher tells him he has 2 weeks to complete an assignment, in

> his mind 2 weeks is such a long time, he can't even think about

> starting. Then he forgets about it until after the assignment is due!

> We are trying to get teachers to ask him about assignments and to

> break them down a bit, like to have so much done in 3 days, then a bit

> more3 days after that etc. Some teachers are very helpful, some are not!!

> This goes for things he enjoys too. For example, we are planning a

> trip to Disneyworld in November - I'm so excited I am always looking

> at Disney's website, making plans, thinking about what we should do

> and see. When I talk to him about it he is very disinterested -

> because it is too far away. To him it's not worth thinking about

> because it won't happen for such a long time, so much time that he

> can't comprehend it.

>

> Estevan, SK

> Canada

> /--*/ Re: therapy session the other day with

> grandson

>

> Oh yes also if you tell him that something is going to happen he wants

> it to happen right after you tell him. It is hard for him to realize

> that it will take four days say, it will happen in four days. So he

> keeps asking if it is time and we have to keep telling him no, three

> more days, two more days, one more day. Now today is the day.

>

> Carolyn

>

> Carolyn wrote:

> > Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the

> > other day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with

> > him and his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was

> > stressful for him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his

> > stomach on a bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats

> > and he was supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he

> > swung back and forth lunging for the things she directed him to by

> > staring at them. He had to look at her eyes and the one she was

> > staring at.

> >

> > Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He

> > must have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do

> > you need help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked

> > him if he needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What

> > do you need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little

> > closer, but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung

> > his head between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not

> > to feel so bad.

> >

> > What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW

> > to ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was

> > frustrated and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it

> > TRUE he does not know how to ask for help!

> >

> > Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have

> > gotten him educational toys that he never would play with! He would

> > not follow the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk

> > work with him she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't

> > seem to remember the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is

> > not doing well in math and reading. He can read one on one as he

> > sounds out words but he doesn't really like it as it is hard for him.

> > Same with math.

> >

> > Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

> > breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the

> > fact his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the

> > teacher will help him!

> >

> > Carolyn

> >

>

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My kids both are like this. they are working with an SLP in this area of asking quesitons and also the idea of showing interest and paying attention to what is going on around them or in a book. " Reading between the lines " and such. 

I wouldn't know if he doesn't know HOW to ask a question, but according to our SLP it's pretty common that these kiddos don't. I know it is with my kids. Also with sequencing like you mentioned as well as following many directions, forget it! For now.

 

Hello all, wanted to share the therapy session my grandson had the other

day. He has been going on Thursdays and I have been going with him and

his mother. This was the third time he has gone and it was stressful for

him as it got more challenging. She had him hang by his stomach on a

bungee swing and sprinkled a bunch of toys on the mats and he was

supposed to pick them up using this grabber thingy. So he swung back and

forth lunging for the things she directed him to by staring at them. He

had to look at her eyes and the one she was staring at.

Well there was this one he could not reach it was the last one. He must

have lunged for it ten times at least and she said to him, " Do you need

help? " and he did not say anything. Even his mom and I asked him if he

needed help but he never asked. Then his teacher said, " What do you

need? " She was waiting for him to ask her to move it a little closer,

but he didn't ask. Finally he got frustrated and came and hung his head

between his mom and I and we reassured him he was fine, not to feel so bad.

What surprised us then was when the teacher said he did not know HOW to

ask for help! Wow. I don't know if I believe this yet. He was frustrated

and embarrassed and felt like a total failure but is it TRUE he does not

know how to ask for help!

Thinking about it though he has been like this all along. I have gotten

him educational toys that he never would play with! He would not follow

the steps even if I told him. When she was doing some desk work with him

she had to tell him each step as he did it. He couldn't seem to remember

the instructions in a sequence. So at school he is not doing well in

math and reading. He can read one on one as he sounds out words but he

doesn't really like it as it is hard for him. Same with math.

Do any of you think your children are like this? If so this is a

breakthrough but I don't know if it is pride, embarrassment or the fact

his little brain cannot realize that if he asks for help the teacher

will help him!

Carolyn