Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others

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WOW- my daughter will do the same thing. It grosses me right out, but I'm the

type of person where if there's a choice between an easy to swallow, gross

liquid, and a huge flavorless horse pill, I'll take the pill every last time.

Pills vs liquid for me. If I have a cough, or a cold, I dread taking the liquid

meds. I'm almost as bad as kids.

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us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have any

of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or friends?

> > > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin

dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful

things.

> > > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and

better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED

(selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with

brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids have

no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't work or

whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not parenting the

right way.

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actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me sad.

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This makes me laugh. But in a good way. My daughter would hold pills for ever and her one seizure med is more than nasty. She can swallow pills but will not. She can swallow the apple sauce and spit out the pills.Judy Friesner Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:14:29 -0000To: <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others I'm a bit behind as I have been catching up on ll my email from when I was in the hospital...My 6 year old won't swallow any meds and when he was given antibiotics, I decided to crush them and tried to hide them in food. SOmehow he could always tell. He complained of the taste, so I tried to teach him how to swallow them. Now, this is what gets me. He would put it in his mouth and let it dissolve! He hated the taste and would fight me about swallowing it (afraid he was going to choke, but it was only half a pill), yet he would sit there and taste it while he let it dissolve! Not sure what we will do if he ever gets on meds!> >> > Hey, everyone,> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or friends?> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful things.> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not parenting the right way.> > I can't help but feel that secretly they think my bad parenting is actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me sad.> > > >> > >  > > > > > > > > >  >

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Hi, I just joined the list today. A bit about me before I comment.  I am a mom with High Functioning Aspergers. I have two sons, both High Functioning Autism.  Oldest is 18, youngest, 7.  My 18-year-old has this same issue. He cannot swallow any pills whatsoever.  He isn't sure why, might be the fear of choking, but we do know he has a very acute gag reflex, that probably plays a role in it too.  He basically just takes the pills, crushes them and puts them in toast with jelly.  He had to do this twice a day when he was on antibiotics for an infected, ingrown toenail.  He has been this way all his life and I have given up trying to " teach " him to swallow a pill.

My 7-year-old, on the other hand, can swallow anything with no trouble, doesn't matter the size either. I bought him chewable vitamins, thinking it would be easier for him (he was about 3), and he refused to chew them, which is odd, since he has a chewing thing anyway. The vitamins where huge, but he would swallow them anyway.  Now, I just get him the regular vitamins, and he takes them with no problem.

I don't know why my sons are both autistic, yet different with this issue, but I've learned that it's not worth the battle to get stuff down my oldest's throat. He'll get it done on his own, one way or another.

Thanks,Ashton

 

I'm a bit behind as I have been catching up on ll my email from when I was in the hospital...

My 6 year old won't swallow any meds and when he was given antibiotics, I decided to crush them and tried to hide them in food. SOmehow he could always tell. He complained of the taste, so I tried to teach him how to swallow them. Now, this is what gets me. He would put it in his mouth and let it dissolve! He hated the taste and would fight me about swallowing it (afraid he was going to choke, but it was only half a pill), yet he would sit there and taste it while he let it dissolve! Not sure what we will do if he ever gets on meds!

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> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or friends?

> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful things.

> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not parenting the right way.

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Just wanted to say HELLO and WELCOME to Aston!! I'm not autistic myself, but I have three kids. One boy, 9 w/ Asperger's and two NT children, girl 7, and another boy 5. At the very moment I homeschool my son w/ Aspergers and the other to go to the local elem school, but maybe not next yr. To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, March 21, 2012 8:58 PM Subject: Re: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others

Hi, I just joined the list today. A bit about me before I comment. I am a mom with High Functioning Aspergers. I have two sons, both High Functioning Autism. Oldest is 18, youngest, 7. My 18-year-old has this same issue. He cannot swallow any pills whatsoever. He isn't sure why, might be the fear of choking, but we do know he has a very acute gag reflex, that probably plays a role in it too. He basically just takes the pills, crushes them and puts them in toast with jelly. He had to do this twice a day when he was on antibiotics for an infected, ingrown toenail. He has been this way all his life and I have given up trying to "teach" him to swallow a pill.

My 7-year-old, on the other hand, can swallow anything with no trouble, doesn't matter the size either. I bought him chewable vitamins, thinking it would be easier for him (he was about 3), and he refused to chew them, which is odd, since he has a chewing thing anyway. The vitamins where huge, but he would swallow them anyway. Now, I just get him the regular vitamins, and he takes them with no problem.

I don't know why my sons are both autistic, yet different with this issue, but I've learned that it's not worth the battle to get stuff down my oldest's throat. He'll get it done on his own, one way or another.

Thanks,Ashton

I'm a bit behind as I have been catching up on ll my email from when I was in the hospital...

My 6 year old won't swallow any meds and when he was given antibiotics, I decided to crush them and tried to hide them in food. SOmehow he could always tell. He complained of the taste, so I tried to teach him how to swallow them. Now, this is what gets me. He would put it in his mouth and let it dissolve! He hated the taste and would fight me about swallowing it (afraid he was going to choke, but it was only half a pill), yet he would sit there and taste it while he let it dissolve! Not sure what we will do if he ever gets on meds!

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> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not parenting the right way.

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TY and hi. Both my boys are in public school, the youngest is in the IEP program, and also goes weekly to speech/occupational therapy.  He wears a SPIO suit everyday and it seems to help him get through the day with less movement and more concentration.  His teachers have noticed a difference.  I homeschooled my oldest until he was 11, the youngest fights me too much, so it's easier to have him schooled elsewhere. 

I was the same way as a kid but my mom refused to put us in school, so she homeschooled all 4 of us. I had no diagnosis of Aspergers until 2 years ago when my youngest was diagnosed and it opened a huge can of worms in our home, but at least all 3 of us had an explanation for why we do what we do.

Am looking for  compression suit for me and my oldest as well. I could use it tonight (it's 4am and I've been up all night again), as my symptoms are off the charts due to being sick.  Thanks for the welcome.  I will be posting often as I don't have any other support for when my son has his meltdowns and I need someone to talk to.

Ashton

 

Just wanted to say HELLO and WELCOME to Aston!!  I'm not autistic myself, but I have three kids.  One boy, 9 w/ Asperger's and two NT children, girl 7, and another boy 5.    At the very moment I homeschool my son w/ Aspergers and the other to go to the local elem school, but maybe not next yr. 

 

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, March 21, 2012 8:58 PM Subject: Re: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others

 

Hi, I just joined the list today. A bit about me before I comment.  I am a mom with High Functioning Aspergers. I have two sons, both High Functioning Autism.  Oldest is 18, youngest, 7.  My 18-year-old has this same issue. He cannot swallow any pills whatsoever.  He isn't sure why, might be the fear of choking, but we do know he has a very acute gag reflex, that probably plays a role in it too.  He basically just takes the pills, crushes them and puts them in toast with jelly.  He had to do this twice a day when he was on antibiotics for an infected, ingrown toenail.  He has been this way all his life and I have given up trying to " teach " him to swallow a pill.

My 7-year-old, on the other hand, can swallow anything with no trouble, doesn't matter the size either. I bought him chewable vitamins, thinking it would be easier for him (he was about 3), and he refused to chew them, which is odd, since he has a chewing thing anyway. The vitamins where huge, but he would swallow them anyway.  Now, I just get him the regular vitamins, and he takes them with no problem.

I don't know why my sons are both autistic, yet different with this issue, but I've learned that it's not worth the battle to get stuff down my oldest's throat. He'll get it done on his own, one way or another.

Thanks,Ashton

 

I'm a bit behind as I have been catching up on ll my email from when I was in the hospital...

My 6 year old won't swallow any meds and when he was given antibiotics, I decided to crush them and tried to hide them in food. SOmehow he could always tell. He complained of the taste, so I tried to teach him how to swallow them. Now, this is what gets me. He would put it in his mouth and let it dissolve! He hated the taste and would fight me about swallowing it (afraid he was going to choke, but it was only half a pill), yet he would sit there and taste it while he let it dissolve! Not sure what we will do if he ever gets on meds!

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> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or friends?

> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful things.

> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not parenting the right way.

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