Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 Hi, I understand what your daughter is going through because my son too was in the same moment your daughter is experiencing now. How active is she to attend school sports or any other school sponsored activity outside her circle of people she knows from her classes. Highschool years were tough for him and by senior was so depressed. But thankfully playing on a basketball team the coach recognized his weakness and encouraged his own son who was on the team to befriend him.. He has been a friend ever since and does show compassion for my sons social skill weakness. They hang out together with other people on a regular basis. But then someone new will come into the circle and not accept my son for his weaknesses. My son is very persistent but has learned to understand not everyone will be his friend. It is a great struggle and sure does tug at my heartstrings but I pray that someday he will have better relationships. Perseverance has helped my son. Whatever is your daughters talents make it a goal to pursue and the opportunities it may bring. --- lwieland1 wrote: > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > trouble with > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > period. We're still > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > auditory processing > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > and want to have > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > She's smart. She's > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > We've tried so many > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > sad. > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 One of the ways OCD affects this is hanging on to friendships long after they're over. Just doesn't get that friends move on sometimes. There is a girl at school who was her best friend at the first of the year because the girl was new and didn't have anyone to hang with. They did lots together. But it wasn't a real friendship. It was like they were just acting, if that makes sense. My daughter's need to have someone to call her own was much greater than the need to have it be authentic. Since the beginning of the year though, her " best friend " has moved on and made other friends who she does stuff with outside of school. Those are real friendships. You can see it when her face lights up when they're around at school. It's like my daughter is now someone she has to put up with. My daughter still thinks she's her best friend. She isn't. It's clear to everyone but my daughter. She's got no one else at the moment so she continues to hang on. It's awful. The girl's mom and I are friends so this is particularly awkward. She continues to invite my daughter to things her daughter's doing with her other friends. I don't want her to go!!!! It prevents her moving on. What would you all do in this situation? Do your kids have trouble with this? > > > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > > trouble with > > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > > period. We're still > > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > > auditory processing > > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > > and want to have > > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > > She's smart. She's > > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > > We've tried so many > > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > > sad. > > > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________\ ____________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 One of the ways OCD affects this is hanging on to friendships long after they're over. Just doesn't get that friends move on sometimes. There is a girl at school who was her best friend at the first of the year because the girl was new and didn't have anyone to hang with. They did lots together. But it wasn't a real friendship. It was like they were just acting, if that makes sense. My daughter's need to have someone to call her own was much greater than the need to have it be authentic. Since the beginning of the year though, her " best friend " has moved on and made other friends who she does stuff with outside of school. Those are real friendships. You can see it when her face lights up when they're around at school. It's like my daughter is now someone she has to put up with. My daughter still thinks she's her best friend. She isn't. It's clear to everyone but my daughter. She's got no one else at the moment so she continues to hang on. It's awful. The girl's mom and I are friends so this is particularly awkward. She continues to invite my daughter to things her daughter's doing with her other friends. I don't want her to go!!!! It prevents her moving on. What would you all do in this situation? Do your kids have trouble with this? > > > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > > trouble with > > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > > period. We're still > > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > > auditory processing > > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > > and want to have > > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > > She's smart. She's > > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > > We've tried so many > > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > > sad. > > > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________\ ____________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 4, 2008 Report Share Posted May 4, 2008 - Like you, because I knew early that something wasn't quite right, I have overprotected her especially when it comes to social situations. It's hard not to when they seem to misunderstand just about everything. I do need to back off and just let her learn the hard way. > > > > > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > > > trouble with > > > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > > > period. We're still > > > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > > > auditory processing > > > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > > > and want to have > > > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > > > She's smart. She's > > > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > > > We've tried so many > > > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > > > sad. > > > > > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________\ > ____________ > > Be a better friend, newshound, and > > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 One of the things I find soooo frustrating is the constant need to adjust her medications. When they're working, THEY'RE WORKING. Not much need to jump in and speak for her and think for her and explain her to others. But when they aren't working, it's pretty bad. That's when I feel I have to run the show. Otherwise, she falls flat on her face and doesn't understand why. I guess I need to do a better job of explaining what the meds do for her and how they help. I am sooo tired of adjusting meds. I've been doing this for 5 years now, lots and lots and ups and down. Sometimes I felt so burned out. > > > > > > > > > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > > > > > trouble with > > > > > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > > > > > period. We're still > > > > > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > > > > > auditory processing > > > > > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > > > > > and want to have > > > > > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > > > > > She's smart. She's > > > > > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > > > > > We've tried so many > > > > > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > > > > > sad. > > > > > > > > > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________\ > > > ____________ > > > > Be a better friend, newshound, and > > > > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > > http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. > Try > > it now. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 I know. I am usually hopeful and just keep moving on. I'm just in valley #1,324, in a series of peaks and valleys, hopes and disappointments, joys and frustrations. We've had our share of joys and successes and for those I'm so proud. She's an amazing girl. > > > > > > > > > > > My daughter, who will be 14 in June, has always had > > > > > > trouble with > > > > > > friends. Making them, keeping them, having them > > > > > > period. We're still > > > > > > having trouble. Between the OCD, the ADHD and the > > > > > > auditory processing > > > > > > difficulties, she is just never the one girls like > > > > > > and want to have > > > > > > around. I understand why but it's heartbreaking. > > > > > > She's smart. She's > > > > > > pretty. And she sits at home on the weekends. > > > > > > We've tried so many > > > > > > things to help her along. Still, she struggles. So > > > > > > sad. > > > > > > > > > > > > Any advice? Does this get better with age? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________\ > > > > ____________ > > > > > Be a better friend, newshound, and > > > > > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > > > http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. > > Try > > > it now. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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