Guest guest Posted March 16, 2012 Report Share Posted March 16, 2012 My son and I participate in a social skills group once a week. He learns social skills with other children with similar dx to him while all the parents are in a parent group. Tonight we discussed whether or not we have told our kids about their dx and how we told and if we haven't told them, why not? I was the only person in the group who has told and so I am curious about how others feel about this. I told when he was 4. He was taking a bus to Easter Seals for OT, had speech, had behaviorist visits and people coming to the house messing with him and I thought he should know why we do all that. I told him that 1/2 of his brain works extra fast and that is why he is so good at memorizing directions and tiny details most people don't even notice and that 1/2 of his brain works a little slower and that's why we do all these extra things to help him get better at stuff. It was very simple and childlike. He is now 8 and since our first discussion we have added to it. He knows his cousins have autism but he knows he isn't like them so I have explained that it is a spectrum and what that means and he is able to understand that... he is quite intelligent. I have also explained to him that there are all types of people that have all different types of challenges like being blind or deaf, missing a limb or in a wheelchair.... I added how blessed we are that we didn't have to deal with any issues like that and how cool it is that he was given such wonderful gifts along with the challenges and that some people's challenges can't be improved and we are very lucky that we can always work to try to improve where he does have challenges. He thought that all sounded pretty cool and feels pretty good about it. I was glad that if there was only 1 parent in that group who has told that it was me. Whew.... got that outta the way. So it made me wonder what the other parents were waiting for. I didn't ask. I don't know why. So I'll ask you guys...... if you haven't told your child... what are you waiting for? What would make a particular time the " right time " . Robison (author of Look Me In The Eye) was diagnosed in his 40s and was able to look back on his life... including his childhood and say " Oooohhh..... that explains everything! " I am grateful it is already just naturally in our vocabulary and there won't ever be a shock.... can't wait to hear other opinions or stories...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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