Sharon

[Guest guest]

Oh Sharon-

I am thinking of you today, and remembering just how exhausting

caring for our loved ones can be.

Sending you hugs of strength, keeping you in my thoughts and

prayers.-

Sandie

-- LadySmilingAtU@... wrote:

hello all

i was sitting here crying got myself worked up in to a migraine, ugh

donnie left today for 1 week to go visit his mom, her birthday is next week.

i told donnie before he left that i kknew it was gonna be a bad week but dad

has had some temper flareups ad has been yelling at my dogs for nothing and

even used his walker to push away the blind dog who didnt realize he was in

dads way!!!! but little did i know that it would get this bad only 9 hours after

donnie left, by the way donnie voluteered to come back home tomorow but i

told him he earned his break and to stay there, atl east for now.

i come home from bowling at 930, tired and ready for bed, when janet comes

out the door, says we need to talk now, i didnt even get in the door. we sit

outside and she tells me the incidients of the nite.

she tells me that within minutes of her being alone with him, he immediately

goes into 'sex mode' as she called it. she says that he was using extreme

vulgar words, and i wont go into the words themselves, but some words rhyme

with

bunt, stick, duck, to name a few. he made her so upset she was in tears as

she told me. he treated her worse than one would imagine being used to a

street whore. she took her frustrations out on my bathroom it is spotless )

but

thats not acceptable, she apoogized for complaining to me adn hoped i wasnt

upset with HER!!! i reassured her that i wasnt upset with her, adn waas proud

she came to me about it, but wished she had called me instead. and i could

have come hom e. or at least called him and set him straight. i told her that

noone could pay her enough for her to put up with that behavior. after all she

is a siter in my house and not working in a nh/al/ hosp situation. where it

may be 'part of the job'. she agreed to let me go talk to dad and see what he

said before deciding tocome back or not.

well as i confronted dad, he did the total denial, she is a liar, etc, when

she walked in the room, i asked her to listen adn wait outsdie his room while

i approached him with it, and he yelled you f**** tattle tail. well i laughed

to myslef, since obviulsy if she was a tattle tail, then he did do it, i

knew he had and i kknew he knew he did it. and i said dont you think you owe

janet an apology. he said no, and again called her tattle tail. i said ok dad

what did she tell, he looked at me with those innocent eyes and said calmly

'that i want to **** her' i said oh so you did say those things and he treid

to

say no but realized he himself told on himself. i said daddy tell janet

youre sorry please,

he said janet iam sorry please,

well she agreed to comeback, and try anotehr week, she is going to watch him

and keep my kitchen spotless but now for 5 hours its gonna cost me 75. but i

figured with daddy acting that way and her still wanting to come and drive 1.5

hours each way, and i get a clean kitchen too, than that was not an

unreasonable amount bacuse when she cleans, i mean she cleans.

i told dad, that the cost of the sitter went up becuase of his actions, and

he apologized. i hope he can get a grip because i dont know what to do, oh

she threatened dad wiht if she doesnot come back that he was gonna get a mean

old fat lady sitting him and she may just sit on him and thn what would he do??

but i threatened him with something worse, donnies friend melvin would

become the new sitter, he weighs 344 after losing 100lbs and he would sit on

dad

if thats what it took, i told dad that and he said oh no he wouldnt take my

crap, i want janet, so i said ok, you want janet then you BEHAVE!!!

but on hte upnote today, lawyer came today, dad passed all the 'senilty

questions' and i now have a power of attorney, a medical directive, a will, and

when my grandmother calls the attorney he wll transfer deed from hers and dads

name to mine adn dads name. so yipeeeeeee that was done. now i just gotta wait

for originals to be mailed to me and then i can correct the bankaccounts and

get me added to rest of it!!!! yippeeeeee

sigh it is now 444, so i need to try to seep somemore

and by the way , Rev Jimbo happened to instant message me right after i

signed on, cryiing buckets, adn said hi, what a wonderful hi that was!!!

hugs to all, sharon m

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

laughter is a breath of fresh air!

[Guest guest]

courage, i will try that, but we found he shovels it so fast in his mouth

and packs it so full that he choked on pasta, but i a m game i miss my

pasta!!!! hugs, sharon m

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

laughter is a breath of fresh air!

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon.. I wish you the best birthday ever!  As usual I'm a little late.

 Betsy