Thank you!

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--- In ModOasis , " free_spirit_etc "

> But I still SO much want to put a positive spin on this whole

> thing.... Believing he " let me go " so I could heal. But that doesn't

> explain the harshness of the manner he used...which is why I

> keep " waiting " for the " softening " email...The email that tells me he

> didn't leave because he can't stand to be with me anymore...but he

> left because he doesn't want to hold me back from my healing....That

> he let me go from LOVE - not disgust.... That seems so important to

> me.

>

Dear Free -- this paragragh reminds me of an experience that still

creeps me out when I think about it. Maybe when you're feeling better

I'll tell ya more about it. I was dumped like that on New Year's day,

'96. The guy is an author and lives in the Hollywood Hills (by

himself, in a mansion). Not only was it abrupt, not only did he treat

me with disgust (and violence), but he also went on to publish

humiliating stuff about it. He didn't use my name, but there were

enough references so everyone knew. I didn't think I'd survive.

Anyway, he had secrets. Some I discovered while spending time at his

house, some I heard about after the fact. I'd gotten too close, and I

got burned. As a result, I'm much stronger today. I've never been

involved with anyone like him again. Looking back, I can't believe the

way I allowed myself to be manipulated.

I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear right now, but

from my perspective (having gone through that experience) the farther

you stay away the better for you. I doubt he's going to send you any

email, but if he does don't respond (yes, I know we're not supposed to

give advise...I'm just getting such a strong sense about that guy)

That " it's over " email he sent -- with the use of caps -- not from a

healthy mind or a good place. It ain't about you, darlin' -- none of it.

ugg (sorry, bad flashback)

liquid sunshine

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Thank you all for my Birthday wishes! I have had a wonderful month,

My sweethearts birthday is April 1, and we went to the coast for 3

days around the 9th. Went to dinner last nite, got each other

bicycles for our b-days, (When did the bicycles get so freakin small?!?)

and the rest of the month-just work,work, work.

I hope to get to the support group meeting may & june, then it will be

a while before I can go again.

My goal this year to lose a pound a week -sucks. Basically just

sucks. No matter what I try, I cant seem to lose. I keep going up and

down. But I keep trying. No magic pill here.

Other than that, I just keep on keeping on.

Thanks for all the wishes! I love you all,and read every day -even if

I dont post much.

Sharon in Onyx

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> My goal this year to lose a pound a week -sucks. Basically just

> sucks. No matter what I try, I cant seem to lose. I keep going up and

> down. But I keep trying.

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Sharon

Happy belated B-day.

I have been wondering how your dieting has been going. Have you had

any success? Even with the bouncing up and down has there been a basic

decline in your weight? Congrats on your efforts. At least with your

efforts you shouldn't be seeing a continuing UP of weight. Sigh...You

have a very stubborn body!

I'm also courious, What do you think you are doing that is the most

Positive to your overall health and weight? I really love the Bikes

for Birthday...use them often!

Hugs

JO