Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 How do you manage violent/aggressive behavior in a young child that is a danger to himself and others? Redirecting,positive reinforcement, negative consequences, logical/natural consequences, problem solving, thinking time etc all are useless on him. He is too young for most shrinks to medicate, but he cannot manage his behavior nor can we. I am near the end of my rope with him and I am so tired of hearing that it is just developmental or that he is all boy. I just want to scream " Look, dr so-and-so- he is not typical he has FASD and maybe other stuff and in need of the correct treatment program! " It just broke my heart this morning when my daughter told me that " Sometimes___hurts me. Sometimes he hits me. Sometimes he pushes the baby down. " The worst one... " Sometimes he hits mommy. " I really didn't think that the other kids were aware that our son hit me too. The other kids have told me that they would like it if our son went away for a while and just stopped hurting them. I love all of my children, I feel so helpless. Our son has gone to stay with his grandparents for a while as our family needs a break from him. I am tired of being in survival mode isn't there anything better than this? How can our family survive our son, he is just 2 1/2 and just tearing us and my marriage apart. My heart is breaking. I love my son, but I don't know that I can raise him,at what seems like the other children's expense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 > > How do you manage violent/aggressive behavior in a young child that is > a danger to himself and others? Redirecting,positive reinforcement, > negative consequences, logical/natural consequences, problem solving, > thinking time etc all are useless on him. > He is too young for most shrinks to medicate, but he cannot manage his > behavior nor can we. I am near the end of my rope with him and I am so > tired of hearing that it is just developmental or that he is all boy. > I just want to scream " Look, dr so-and-so- he is not typical he has > FASD and maybe other stuff and in need of the correct treatment program! " > It just broke my heart this morning when my daughter told me that " > Sometimes___hurts me. Sometimes he hits me. Sometimes he pushes the > baby down. " The worst one... " Sometimes he hits mommy. " I really didn't > think that the other kids were aware that our son hit me too. The > other kids have told me that they would like it if our son went away > for a while and just stopped hurting them. I love all of my children, > I feel so helpless. > Our son has gone to stay with his grandparents for a while as our > family needs a break from him. I am tired of being in survival mode > isn't there anything better than this? How can our family survive our > son, he is just 2 1/2 and just tearing us and my marriage apart. > My heart is breaking. I love my son, but I don't know that I can raise > him,at what seems like the other children's expense. > my son was 2 when he started meds i would get him tested for biploar care my son has adhd/autism/ biplora cause they can help him but most wont cause hes young and they dont care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Hi mom2lotsandlots, I've just joined the group here and would like to learn a lot about behaviour in my ASD daughter. She is 3 1/2. She is not really violence but lots of screaming going on. I've just found out that she did that when her tummy is uncomfortable or basically something is not right. I don't know anything about your son's background but what I know from Dr bock's book. The first thing you have to do is to change your son's diet. Is he verbal? If he's not , it is most likely that he feels so uncomfortable with his own body and the negative reactions happen (agressive and violence). I've done GFCF diet for a few months and there was not much different in cognitive and behaviour and I now have started SCDiet for 7 months. So far, so good. There are so many diets around that you can try and feel comfortable with. I know this helps tremendously for my daughter. She is still non verbal but she is following directions much better now. Next step just to find out what his body needs (mineral & vitamins). If you do the biomed without changing the diet first, most likely you are wasting your money. Hope this help. Leena Mum of Clarice Belle, 3 1/2 yo, severe ASD, non verbal > > How do you manage violent/aggressive behavior in a young child that is > a danger to himself and others? Redirecting,positive reinforcement, > negative consequences, logical/natural consequences, problem solving, > thinking time etc all are useless on him. > He is too young for most shrinks to medicate, but he cannot manage his > behavior nor can we. I am near the end of my rope with him and I am so > tired of hearing that it is just developmental or that he is all boy. > I just want to scream " Look, dr so-and-so- he is not typical he has > FASD and maybe other stuff and in need of the correct treatment program! " > It just broke my heart this morning when my daughter told me that " > Sometimes___hurts me. Sometimes he hits me. Sometimes he pushes the > baby down. " The worst one... " Sometimes he hits mommy. " I really didn't > think that the other kids were aware that our son hit me too. The > other kids have told me that they would like it if our son went away > for a while and just stopped hurting them. I love all of my children, > I feel so helpless. > Our son has gone to stay with his grandparents for a while as our > family needs a break from him. I am tired of being in survival mode > isn't there anything better than this? How can our family survive our > son, he is just 2 1/2 and just tearing us and my marriage apart. > My heart is breaking. I love my son, but I don't know that I can raise > him,at what seems like the other children's expense. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Thank goodness for grandparents. I kept my grandson for three weeks or more when his mother said he was so aggressive that he couldn't stay at home with the other children. She actually asked me to keep him, but before I could make arrangements for legal custody of him she wanted him back. I wish I had been able to get custody of him. He did well at my house because it is just my husband and me, and we are quiet. At his home it is loud and overly stimulating for him with the other three children who argue, fight, and scream etc. Fortunately, they have learned to tone it down if they don't want to get Karac upset. His mother has also learned to recognize when he is getting agitated and has learned how to help him gain control. Trust me I understand what you are going through. I have been bitten, pinched, and slapped on the head. I have had him attack me when I was driving the car and when I was sleeping. One time he yanked me up by the hair of my head and bounced me up and down until I thought he was going to kill me. There is hope; Karac is now 15 and he is not on any medication and aggression is not a problem any more. He still gets agitated sometimes, but he, his mother, and I have learned what to do, and probably you and your family will learn how to protect yourselves and help him until he learns how to help himself. God bless, Pat K**************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape. http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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