Re: TIME ALONE!

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And can I just say, that my husband has been gone for a week visiting his

parents and I am sitting here at 11:50 pm, with all the kiddos in bed and I hate

to go to bed myself. It is so nice and peaceful and quiet. I treasure this

alone time to a point that it is scary! Sometimes I day dream about running off

and starting a new life ALONE. Okay, I would never do it but the thought can be

awfully appealing sometimes!

in TN

c ward wrote:

Thanks so much. That is interesting with pushing in the thing they are

starting to bite. I do stay very calm -- it is hard! How did you go about making

the transition to the calming chair?

And also, how did you know at 4 that they have ocd? What were their symptoms? My

12, soon to be 13 yr old son, has ocd, but he is so completely different than

this and never had symtoms at a young age. My 8 yr old daughter also has ocd but

again, is so different than this and never had problems at such a young age. I

guess I am asking anyone who reads this, what symptoms in such a young child can

result in an ocd diagnosis?

Thanks again.

Walter wrote:

Hi

My two boys are 4 years old, and sound very similar to your 3 year old. They

both have OCD. When their brains get stuck they sit in the calming chair. It

sounds like what you are already doing. They have to sit there until their brain

gets unstuck. There are times, especially when we first started this, where we

had to have them sit on our lap too. I always keep a flat disposition about

myself. The only words I say are when you relax, you can get down. When I have

to restrain them, they will sit on my lap, their arms are crossed across their

chest, and I hold their wrist gently enough so they can still move a little.

When they start kicking, I cross 1 leg over the top of their legs. Every 30

seconds I say, Do you want me to let go? Will you sit nice? Then they have to

sit in the calming chair by themselves til they are calm. I pull up a short

chair so I am eye level with them. The only words I say are, when you relax, you

can get down. Also, if he tries

to bite. genly push whatever he is biting into his mouth further. This forces

him to open his mouth and release as it is so uncomfortable and usually makes

them start to gag. I know this sounds horrible, but it works really well. We

still use the calming chair, but we hardly ever need to restrain anymore, or if

we do it is only for a minute or so now. I started using this when they were

just over 3.

I wish you luck

Discipline for 3 yr old

I have a question for all of you pros out there! My 3 yr old son,

, is showing signs of something ... ocd, sensory issues, etc.

Everything has to be " just right " and he doesn't like the feel of

anything. He also rages all of the time .... now what I can't quite

figure out if it is always real or if he is just trying to get his

way thought it's probably about 50/50.

Anyway, time outs don't work because he won't sit and I have to sit

on top of him to get him to stay there. I don't like spanking and

honestly, I don't think it would do any good and he would probably

try and smack me back! Taking away privileges doesn't work because

he really doesn't understand, so I do the only think I know how.

When he won't listen to me, I put him on my lap and wrap my arms

tightly around him and hold him until he relaxes and stops fighting

me. Sometimes this takes about 10 minutes and all the time he is

trying to kick me, bite me, smash his head against me, but eventually

he relaxes and says he's ready to get down. Then, he is like a

different little boy and is very good. It's like his brain has

gotten unstuck, or that is how it seems to me. Okay ... this went

well for about a week but now he seems to be getting worse with his

behavioral issues and I'm having to hold him more and more. Does

anyone have any suggestions for me? My other children never acted

this way! I'm kind of at a loss and would love some good parenting

advice.

Thanks!

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You are not alone in that thought, saddly....

c ward wrote:

And can I just say, that my husband has been gone for a week visiting

his parents and I am sitting here at 11:50 pm, with all the kiddos in bed and I

hate to go to bed myself. It is so nice and peaceful and quiet. I treasure this

alone time to a point that it is scary! Sometimes I day dream about running off

and starting a new life ALONE. Okay, I would never do it but the thought can be

awfully appealing sometimes!

in TN

c ward wrote:

Thanks so much. That is interesting with pushing in the thing they are starting

to bite. I do stay very calm -- it is hard! How did you go about making the

transition to the calming chair?

And also, how did you know at 4 that they have ocd? What were their symptoms? My

12, soon to be 13 yr old son, has ocd, but he is so completely different than

this and never had symtoms at a young age. My 8 yr old daughter also has ocd but

again, is so different than this and never had problems at such a young age. I

guess I am asking anyone who reads this, what symptoms in such a young child can

result in an ocd diagnosis?

Thanks again.

Walter wrote:

Hi

My two boys are 4 years old, and sound very similar to your 3 year old. They

both have OCD. When their brains get stuck they sit in the calming chair. It

sounds like what you are already doing. They have to sit there until their brain

gets unstuck. There are times, especially when we first started this, where we

had to have them sit on our lap too. I always keep a flat disposition about

myself. The only words I say are when you relax, you can get down. When I have

to restrain them, they will sit on my lap, their arms are crossed across their

chest, and I hold their wrist gently enough so they can still move a little.

When they start kicking, I cross 1 leg over the top of their legs. Every 30

seconds I say, Do you want me to let go? Will you sit nice? Then they have to

sit in the calming chair by themselves til they are calm. I pull up a short

chair so I am eye level with them. The only words I say are, when you relax, you

can get down. Also, if he tries

to bite. genly push whatever he is biting into his mouth further. This forces

him to open his mouth and release as it is so uncomfortable and usually makes

them start to gag. I know this sounds horrible, but it works really well. We

still use the calming chair, but we hardly ever need to restrain anymore, or if

we do it is only for a minute or so now. I started using this when they were

just over 3.

I wish you luck

Discipline for 3 yr old

I have a question for all of you pros out there! My 3 yr old son,

, is showing signs of something ... ocd, sensory issues, etc.

Everything has to be " just right " and he doesn't like the feel of

anything. He also rages all of the time .... now what I can't quite

figure out if it is always real or if he is just trying to get his

way thought it's probably about 50/50.

Anyway, time outs don't work because he won't sit and I have to sit

on top of him to get him to stay there. I don't like spanking and

honestly, I don't think it would do any good and he would probably

try and smack me back! Taking away privileges doesn't work because

he really doesn't understand, so I do the only think I know how.

When he won't listen to me, I put him on my lap and wrap my arms

tightly around him and hold him until he relaxes and stops fighting

me. Sometimes this takes about 10 minutes and all the time he is

trying to kick me, bite me, smash his head against me, but eventually

he relaxes and says he's ready to get down. Then, he is like a

different little boy and is very good. It's like his brain has

gotten unstuck, or that is how it seems to me. Okay ... this went

well for about a week but now he seems to be getting worse with his

behavioral issues and I'm having to hold him more and more. Does

anyone have any suggestions for me? My other children never acted

this way! I'm kind of at a loss and would love some good parenting

advice.

Thanks!

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I'm with you, . Let's both run away and have a nice vacation.

) How does Hawaii sound. lol

I only have one child with OCD, but my hubby has it too. Between the

two of them, it can be exhausting. I have such admiration for those

of you who have multiple kids with it.

BJ

> Hi

> My two boys are 4 years old, and sound very similar to your 3 year

old. They both have OCD. When their brains get stuck they sit in the

calming chair. It sounds like what you are already doing. They have to

sit there until their brain gets unstuck. There are times, especially

when we first started this, where we had to have them sit on our lap

too. I always keep a flat disposition about myself. The only words I

say are when you relax, you can get down. When I have to restrain

them, they will sit on my lap, their arms are crossed across their

chest, and I hold their wrist gently enough so they can still move a

little. When they start kicking, I cross 1 leg over the top of their

legs. Every 30 seconds I say, Do you want me to let go? Will you sit

nice? Then they have to sit in the calming chair by themselves til

they are calm. I pull up a short chair so I am eye level with them.

The only words I say are, when you relax, you can get down. Also, if

he tries

> to bite. genly push whatever he is biting into his mouth further.

This forces him to open his mouth and release as it is so

uncomfortable and usually makes them start to gag. I know this sounds

horrible, but it works really well. We still use the calming chair,

but we hardly ever need to restrain anymore, or if we do it is only

for a minute or so now. I started using this when they were just over 3.

> I wish you luck

>

>

> Discipline for 3 yr old

>

> I have a question for all of you pros out there! My 3 yr old son,

> , is showing signs of something ... ocd, sensory issues, etc.

> Everything has to be " just right " and he doesn't like the feel of

> anything. He also rages all of the time .... now what I can't quite

> figure out if it is always real or if he is just trying to get his

> way thought it's probably about 50/50.

>

> Anyway, time outs don't work because he won't sit and I have to sit

> on top of him to get him to stay there. I don't like spanking and

> honestly, I don't think it would do any good and he would probably

> try and smack me back! Taking away privileges doesn't work because

> he really doesn't understand, so I do the only think I know how.

> When he won't listen to me, I put him on my lap and wrap my arms

> tightly around him and hold him until he relaxes and stops fighting

> me. Sometimes this takes about 10 minutes and all the time he is

> trying to kick me, bite me, smash his head against me, but eventually

> he relaxes and says he's ready to get down. Then, he is like a

> different little boy and is very good. It's like his brain has

> gotten unstuck, or that is how it seems to me. Okay ... this went

> well for about a week but now he seems to be getting worse with his

> behavioral issues and I'm having to hold him more and more. Does

> anyone have any suggestions for me? My other children never acted

> this way! I'm kind of at a loss and would love some good parenting

> advice.

>

> Thanks!

>

>

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