Son's Perceptions Don't Match Reality -Can You Help?

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Hello all,My 9 year old son has Asperger's and we moved to a new school district for him to start his 4th grade year in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. We thought moving to a community with kids all around would be better for our son, Sammy.Anyway, he now takes the bus both to school and home. On a Monday morning he told me that he has been bullied (hit and thrown over a seat) on the bus on the way home, the ride to school seems fine (he rides a different bus to school than he does home so the kids are

different). He named two kids on the bus that are bullying him. These two kids live in our neighborhood and Sammy has played with them on two occasions, but they are much more into throwing the football when my Sammy would rather read a book, play chess or do a science experiment. He tries so hard to fit in but these boys (and their moms) don't seem to care if Sammy is excluded. Finally in November, Sammy stopped trying to play with them. Anyway, these are the two kids he named as the bullies. I called the school principal and the principal talked to Sammy and Sammy told him a date of one the latest "attacks". The principal pulled the bus tape and watched it with the bus driver and discovered that nothing happened. UGH!Now what do I do? I don't want to

devalue Sammy's feelings (he already has such a low self-esteem) and I know that Sammy honestly believes these attacks are happening to him. His perceptions of reality are so false. What should I do? How do I bring it up to him without him saying to me, "You never believe me" and "You always side with the teachers" etc...My husband and I have no idea how to raise our very smart but obviously very sensitive child who seems to live in his own world. It is very lonely here in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. I so appreciate this group as there aren't any support systems in place where we now live.Can anyone offer an opinion?~Carly (mother to Sammy, age 9, ASD, Depression, ADHD) (White Bear Lake, MN) To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 6:59 PM Subject: Re: Re: oo

I know this makes me mad. My kids are PDD-NOS and I dont know what we would do without all the therapy and stuff. My daughter is 4.5 and would still run out into traffic if I wasnt holding on to her. She doesn't understand like othe kids. I am scared we are going to lose are services for her. And my son just turned 2 and cant talk. We are going to a specialist nest month. But what are we parents going to do when they take away what little help we have From: Alan

Shapiro <alanshapiro@... To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 10:07 AM Subject: Re: Re: oo

this is outrageous! Society will end up paying later when all of these kids are older, and didnt receive the services they needed. My son's not yet formally diagnosed, but I am going to get that diagnosis asap. does anyone k now when this takes affect? From:

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Saturday, January 21, 2012 11:03 PM Subject: Re: oo

I saw this too. According to the folks at Yale, the new criteria would exclude 75% with Asperger syndrome and 85% with PDD-NOS. It even excludes 25% of those dxed with "classic autism". These findings were based on a study of about 375ish people dxed back in 1993. I read that there's an additional study being conducted right now and it's based on a larger group of 1000. Hopefully, more changes to the proposed criteria will be made in order to include those already diagnosed. I wholeheartedly agree with Molloy from Autism NZ: changing the definition of autism will not make the condition go away.

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