a stickler for rules

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My son is almost nine and has been diagnosed with ADD, anxiety and

OCD. He sees everything in black in white (no gray areas for him -

cannot understand sarcasm, etc) and is a real stickler for rules. He

is also very competitive and since he follows the rules feels that

everyone else should as well. Unfortunately, when others don't follow

the rules, he has meltdowns. At 9, he is getting a little too old for

this behavior and I am afraid his classmates will disassociate from

him. (He goes to a wonderful school- and is part of a EH Collab

classroom although his is basically mainstreamed for most of the day

in his regular classroom - but it is in another town - with weekend

and afterschool activities it is hard enough to get afterschool

playdates, I hate for him not to have any friends at school).

Any ideas on how I can get him to ease up? He is meeting with a new

therapist next week (he last one, who he loved, moved out of town) and

I am hoping she might have some ideas.

Dawn