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Hi Peggy and welcome back, although I'm sorry to hear that your

daughter's OCD is back... She certainly sounds like a very

insightful adolescent! Do you think she could have a talk with my 17

year old " treatment resistant " son??? That's great that she is

taking ownership and looking to help herself. I would follow her

lead in this. Since she already has experience with this and has

successfully challenged the thoughts she may be able to do this

herself.

From our experience with a teen and OCD they really do have to be on

board. So, if you see things progressing and getting worse, you might

mention the psychologist and see her response. From what we have

been told there is little point in doing CBT unless they are ready,

and in fact it goes against the treatment protocol, at least that is

what we have been told.

On the other hand sometimes at this age it can really increase in

severity, as we experienced and I have seen others post. Instability

with hormones and brain growing and changing can influence this I

think. So, it's good to keep an eye on it and just gage things

accordingly. For some this is the point at which they needed to add

medication, or anxiety remedy of some kind. Just good idea to be

prepared for this in case.

I would hope that your daughter's previous work combatting the

thoughts will serve her now, since ultimately the answer is to

challenge the thoughts.

You might want to check out the website -

westsuffolkpsych.homestead.com. Fred Penzel has some good articles

on it, and one for teens also.

Barb

Ontario, Canada

Son, 17, OCD, LD

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I'm back after about a 2 year break. My daughter (13 - will be 8th

> grader)has OCD tendencies. In 4th grade she had " bad thoughts "

that

> were intrusive and very disruptive. I put her on inositol and St

> 's Wort - explained what was happening (OCD) and put her in

> counseling for a few months. Things settled down very nicely.

>

> During the past year I have suspected things were going on again.

I

> suspected something was going on again, but she would deny it and

> refuse to take inositol again when I would ask. Last week she came

> to me and said the OCD was back. I gave her BrainLock to read and

> now she has asked to take the inositol and St 's again because

> the book recommends taking something when you start the program.

So

> nice to have her taking the responsibility for herself and asking

for

> it.

>

> At this point I am not planning on doing anything else unless there

> isn't improvement by September. Is this a mistake? I hesitate to

> do anything that isn't her choice since as an adolescent she has a

> tendency to get much more out of something if she chooses to do

it.

> I'm thinking if things don't improve for her she will be open to

> seeing a psychologist. There is one 30 miles from here that has

been

> great for a boy with OCD who is now in his 20's.

>

> Are there any great resources for teens? When she was in 4th grade

> she was much more open with us than she is now. I'd like to

provide

> her with a safe place to discuss what is going on with her.

>

> Thanks,

> Peggy

>

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Barb - Question...you mention that with a teen from what you have

been told, they really need to be on board..otherwise, unless they

are ready - there is little point in doing CBT? I know exactly what

that means...How do you know if they are really ready or willing to

do the homework - so to speak? And let me say, I am not quoting you

or taking your words to be gospel..it is more of a question so I can

understand more. Thanks

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > I'm back after about a 2 year break. My daughter (13 - will be

8th

> > grader)has OCD tendencies. In 4th grade she had " bad thoughts "

> that

> > were intrusive and very disruptive. I put her on inositol and St

> > 's Wort - explained what was happening (OCD) and put her in

> > counseling for a few months. Things settled down very nicely.

> >

> > During the past year I have suspected things were going on

again.

> I

> > suspected something was going on again, but she would deny it and

> > refuse to take inositol again when I would ask. Last week she

came

> > to me and said the OCD was back. I gave her BrainLock to read

and

> > now she has asked to take the inositol and St 's again

because

> > the book recommends taking something when you start the program.

> So

> > nice to have her taking the responsibility for herself and asking

> for

> > it.

> >

> > At this point I am not planning on doing anything else unless

there

> > isn't improvement by September. Is this a mistake? I hesitate

to

> > do anything that isn't her choice since as an adolescent she has

a

> > tendency to get much more out of something if she chooses to do

> it.

> > I'm thinking if things don't improve for her she will be open to

> > seeing a psychologist. There is one 30 miles from here that has

> been

> > great for a boy with OCD who is now in his 20's.

> >

> > Are there any great resources for teens? When she was in 4th

grade

> > she was much more open with us than she is now. I'd like to

> provide

> > her with a safe place to discuss what is going on with her.

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Peggy

> >

>

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" How do you know if they are really ready or willing to

do the homework - so to speak? "

Well now that would be the ten million dollar question. I can only

really speak to our own situation. In our case it's more a matter of

not being willing, and that we know by the strong negative response we

get from our son at the suggestion that he see his doctor, or any

doctor. His experience with doctors for the past two years has been

negative and I don't think he trusts anyone anymore and doesn't believe

they know what they are doing, or that they can help him. At this

point I'm not sure I disagree with him.

Honestly I think our son is actually doing a lot on his own, as he

seems to have figured out how to work through some things, so it is not

so much a lack of will, as not being willing to work with a doctor. In

the end I think it is up to each person to have an understanding of

their OCD and how it manifests and then to know how to handle it. If

he feels he can live his life adequately then that's his decision. If

at some point it is a barrier to something he wants to do I think his

motivation will shift, and in fact I think life presents these

opportunities daily for someone with OCD.

There are so many factors involved in being ready, willing and able.

Severity of the OCD, stability with medication and/or mood, maturity to

be self responsible(I'm thinking older kids). I think the will is

perhaps the last block once the other hurdles are crossed, and that one

is pretty individual. What makes one person rise beyond hardship and

another be pulled under? I think again, one has to see something

beyond the present circumstances, a life beyond illness and this

disorder. This I think is a process to coming to.

Not sure how much this helps, but this has been our experience with

this question.

Barb

-- In , " bacongirl999 "

wrote:

>

> Barb - Question...you mention that with a teen from what you have

> been told, they really need to be on board..otherwise, unless they

> are ready - there is little point in doing CBT? I know exactly what

> And let me say, I am not quoting you

> or taking your words to be gospel..it is more of a question so I can

> understand more. Thanks

>

>

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