Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 Oh Diane, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your garden. You were so excited about the prospect of gardening. Why don't you find out if there are community gardens in your area? Many areas have them. You are given a plot to do with as you like in the way of planting. The land is divided up and there are others planting their plots as well, so this could also be more fun as you could talk with your gardening neighbors. Some folks have been gardening the same plots for years, and are very knowledgeable. You might check with your Town or city offices about it. I was sad to see you had left the group, but glad we weren't the cause of your leaving. Chin up, if you can't have a community plot, why not have your hubby build you some large boxes and you can plant in them if you have a patio, porch or other outdoor spot you can call your own. Arianne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 That's a good point, Sharon. African Violets are a treasure to grow. Diane, there is an International Association of African Violet growers. That is a good plant in that they bloom on and off all year long, they aren't expensive to buy, and are available everywhere. They also are beautiful little plants. Why don't you try your hand at it? Arianne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 Hi Diane: Well, this situation sounds like a real pain in the neck to me. How old is this uncle? He sounds like a grumpy old person to me and I'm 62 so he's got to be 90 years old easy. Is this a place you absolutely have to live in? It sure would help your stress level in a big way if you weren't living where you are now. When I was married to my first husband, right after the wedding his mother asked him if she could live with us. He was her only child and she just couldn't adjust to the fact that he no longer lived with her. I nearly passed out when I heard this but when my ex-husband told her it wasn't a good idea, she made a suicide attempt (does anybody smell manipulation here?). So he ended up moving her into the apartment right below ours. It was a nightmare as she felt she could come over all the time and would be welcomed with open arms. This went on for four years until we saved up money to buy a house and then she wanted to move into that place, too. When she was told no that time, she decided not to speak to us for over a year. That actually lowered the stress level except that my ex was always worried that she was going to try to kill herself again. She lived to be 89 years old. If the old codger won't let you put some containers with plants in them out there, tell him that without plants you may very well go around the bend and when that happens there's no telling what could happen. lol What's your mother-in-law's input on this? If you are paying the same rent as the previous tenant, then you should be getting the same privileges. [snip]We don't have a rental agreement because the landlord is my mother-in-law, so everything was very casual. [snip] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 Hi Diane: Well, this situation sounds like a real pain in the neck to me. How old is this uncle? He sounds like a grumpy old person to me and I'm 62 so he's got to be 90 years old easy. Is this a place you absolutely have to live in? It sure would help your stress level in a big way if you weren't living where you are now. When I was married to my first husband, right after the wedding his mother asked him if she could live with us. He was her only child and she just couldn't adjust to the fact that he no longer lived with her. I nearly passed out when I heard this but when my ex-husband told her it wasn't a good idea, she made a suicide attempt (does anybody smell manipulation here?). So he ended up moving her into the apartment right below ours. It was a nightmare as she felt she could come over all the time and would be welcomed with open arms. This went on for four years until we saved up money to buy a house and then she wanted to move into that place, too. When she was told no that time, she decided not to speak to us for over a year. That actually lowered the stress level except that my ex was always worried that she was going to try to kill herself again. She lived to be 89 years old. If the old codger won't let you put some containers with plants in them out there, tell him that without plants you may very well go around the bend and when that happens there's no telling what could happen. lol What's your mother-in-law's input on this? If you are paying the same rent as the previous tenant, then you should be getting the same privileges. [snip]We don't have a rental agreement because the landlord is my mother-in-law, so everything was very casual. [snip] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 Hi Diane: Well, this situation sounds like a real pain in the neck to me. How old is this uncle? He sounds like a grumpy old person to me and I'm 62 so he's got to be 90 years old easy. Is this a place you absolutely have to live in? It sure would help your stress level in a big way if you weren't living where you are now. When I was married to my first husband, right after the wedding his mother asked him if she could live with us. He was her only child and she just couldn't adjust to the fact that he no longer lived with her. I nearly passed out when I heard this but when my ex-husband told her it wasn't a good idea, she made a suicide attempt (does anybody smell manipulation here?). So he ended up moving her into the apartment right below ours. It was a nightmare as she felt she could come over all the time and would be welcomed with open arms. This went on for four years until we saved up money to buy a house and then she wanted to move into that place, too. When she was told no that time, she decided not to speak to us for over a year. That actually lowered the stress level except that my ex was always worried that she was going to try to kill herself again. She lived to be 89 years old. If the old codger won't let you put some containers with plants in them out there, tell him that without plants you may very well go around the bend and when that happens there's no telling what could happen. lol What's your mother-in-law's input on this? If you are paying the same rent as the previous tenant, then you should be getting the same privileges. [snip]We don't have a rental agreement because the landlord is my mother-in-law, so everything was very casual. [snip] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 well if you dont have rental agreement then he should not have problem i think that there not much he can do if you do as long as they are not pernment, put them out during day pull them in at night.thats terrable to live with a person that denies a person simple pleasures,grow the spices in your window at leat you can have some granding planes.they smell good in you house .and live it up. hugs nanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 well if you dont have rental agreement then he should not have problem i think that there not much he can do if you do as long as they are not pernment, put them out during day pull them in at night.thats terrable to live with a person that denies a person simple pleasures,grow the spices in your window at leat you can have some granding planes.they smell good in you house .and live it up. hugs nanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 Arianne wrote: > Oh Diane, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your garden. You > were so excited about the prospect of gardening. > Why don't you find out if there are community gardens in your area? >******************************************************************* Hi! Just had to tell a story about a community garden here in Seattle. It was back in about 1976-1977 era. A lot of people were coming to Seattle from Vietnam and Cambodia. They were people used to growing their own veggies and such. These people were given space along the freeway in an area safe from the road but visible to all passing by. Several (about fifty or so...) of the growers had planted marijuana! It wasn't discovered until the plants were about three feet high..the state was so embarassed! it was a hoot to read about...the growth was burned out and you didn't want to get too close to the smoke...unless of course you wanted to... I believe Pea patches and community gardens are a wonderful idea. Another idea...do you live in a cul-de-sac? those usually have a commuity garden attached don't they? A lot of them are left untended but some are just beautiful and much appreciated by all the residents. God Bless, Daphne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 Arianne wrote: > Oh Diane, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your garden. You > were so excited about the prospect of gardening. > Why don't you find out if there are community gardens in your area? >******************************************************************* Hi! Just had to tell a story about a community garden here in Seattle. It was back in about 1976-1977 era. A lot of people were coming to Seattle from Vietnam and Cambodia. They were people used to growing their own veggies and such. These people were given space along the freeway in an area safe from the road but visible to all passing by. Several (about fifty or so...) of the growers had planted marijuana! It wasn't discovered until the plants were about three feet high..the state was so embarassed! it was a hoot to read about...the growth was burned out and you didn't want to get too close to the smoke...unless of course you wanted to... I believe Pea patches and community gardens are a wonderful idea. Another idea...do you live in a cul-de-sac? those usually have a commuity garden attached don't they? A lot of them are left untended but some are just beautiful and much appreciated by all the residents. God Bless, Daphne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 > Hi Diane: > Well, this situation sounds like a real pain in the neck to me. ******************************************************************** Hi Diane, OK so I have another GREAT! idea.. While your uncle is out in the yard puttering around, follow him and critique everything he does....after a while he will get so upset he will say..... " IF YOU THINK YOU CAN DO IT BETTER!!! " then you will have your garden, it shouldn't take more than a day or two....You see, I have eight brothers and a long time hubby (22 years) it works every time..men hate to be critiqued... Good luck! Daphne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2004 Report Share Posted March 23, 2004 > Hi Diane: > Well, this situation sounds like a real pain in the neck to me. ******************************************************************** Hi Diane, OK so I have another GREAT! idea.. While your uncle is out in the yard puttering around, follow him and critique everything he does....after a while he will get so upset he will say..... " IF YOU THINK YOU CAN DO IT BETTER!!! " then you will have your garden, it shouldn't take more than a day or two....You see, I have eight brothers and a long time hubby (22 years) it works every time..men hate to be critiqued... Good luck! Daphne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Daphne: That happened not to far from here several years back. I live in a very rural area. I can't remember how it happened but, somehow or other these young men got caught growing MJ in a chicken coup. They had been doing it for years and had made a fortune until they were caught. What was even funnier is that most of the people in the county knew they were doing it. I get the distinct impression that our former sheriff was in on it somehow and that is why they were never busted. When the new sheriff was voted in, he busted them wide open. Sam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Daphne: That happened not to far from here several years back. I live in a very rural area. I can't remember how it happened but, somehow or other these young men got caught growing MJ in a chicken coup. They had been doing it for years and had made a fortune until they were caught. What was even funnier is that most of the people in the county knew they were doing it. I get the distinct impression that our former sheriff was in on it somehow and that is why they were never busted. When the new sheriff was voted in, he busted them wide open. Sam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Daphne: That happened not to far from here several years back. I live in a very rural area. I can't remember how it happened but, somehow or other these young men got caught growing MJ in a chicken coup. They had been doing it for years and had made a fortune until they were caught. What was even funnier is that most of the people in the county knew they were doing it. I get the distinct impression that our former sheriff was in on it somehow and that is why they were never busted. When the new sheriff was voted in, he busted them wide open. Sam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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