Info needed for this family

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I found the following in a forum and wanted to help her but didn't know how. Any information that I can pass on? It's a very sad situation. Thanks.

Jen

My BFF since high school has an older sister (in her 30's) who’s IQ is literally right at 70. I would consider her pretty high functioning.

Her older sister has been able to work, found love, move out on her own, marry and now has 3 children (all boys), her middle boy has been diagnosed (2 years ago now) with Aspergers.

Raising children is hard enough, added to the fact that she and her hubby are both of a lower IQ than most parents, they are trying to raise a special needs child themselves.

My friends sister has been experiencing "stomach" pain for several months now, she finally went to the Dr. yesterday and found out she is 7 MONTHS PREGNANT with baby #4.

I do have experience with special needs, but not on an Asperger's level, I know their family (immediate family, there is no extended family outside of her real dad, step mom and sister) as a whole suffers so much because the parents are just not capable of properly handling a special needs child.

My friend and her sisters real dad and step mom are REALLY pushing her older sister to sign over custody of the middle boy to the state and just put him in a home, they are telling her, she wont be able to see him any more, they are pretty "cold" grandparents and have even compared the middle boy to a dog, my BFF knows her sister is easily convinced of things and knows her parents intentions, we are wondering if there isn't something that would be a win/win for everyone, like an open adoption or maybe a home he can live in and be better cared for, but she'd still be allowed to see him as often as she'd like.

This girl is not what you'd think of as "retarded", she can carry on a conversation, drive, cook, shop (not well, but she can), pay bills, love her kids, not so great with hygiene, but she is VERY aware and I just pray there is a mom on here that can help her, as a mom myself, I am in tears just at the thought of what "could" happen here. PLEASE send any ideas or information ASAP

She understands and agrees that she can not take care of the new baby, plus the other 3 she has now and wants to find out if her parents are right and all she can do is just sign him over to the state or is there something else....