Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 It was the same with me. I lost it interest in the kiddie things, especially the roughhousing and stayed with the adults more. They didn't really mind because I was quiet. By the time I was 12 or so, I was actually able to participate in many of their conversations. The talk about world events, the economy and all that were much more interesting than slapping each other around or fighting over toys. In a message dated 3/23/2008 3:09:39 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, no_reply writes: From the age of eight onward, I enjoyed hangng out with the adults. Now, as an adult, all my cousins have kids and I see all of them engaging in the games that my cousins used to play when they were kids. But I see none of their kids wanting to hang out with the adults. It seems I was the only child in two generations that ever wanted to hang out with adults.AdministratorCreate a Home Theater Like the Pros. Watch the video on AOL Home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 From the age of eight onward, I enjoyed hangng out with the adults. Now, as an adult, all my cousins have kids and I see all of them engaging in the games that my cousins used to play when they were kids. But I see none of their kids wanting to hang out with the adults. It seems I was the only child in two generations that ever wanted to hang out with adults. Administrator I can see that. I went to them simply because it was expected, at least until I was about 13 or so when I completely lost interest, and wasn't often invited anymore anyway. Even so, I tended to avoid the social things like games and all that because of prior bad experiences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 wrote: " From the age of eight onward, I enjoyed hangng out with the adults. Now, as an adult, all my cousins have kids and I see all of them engaging in the games that my cousins used to play when they were kids. But I see none of their kids wanting to hang out with the adults. It seems I was the only child in two generations that ever wanted to hang out with adults. " I don't know any other kids that are or were like I was. I preferred to be alone and actually had far more fun when I was alone than when I had to deal with other people. If I had to deal with people, I would rather deal with intelligent adults. That being said ... I spent a lot of time alone since there was a dearth of intelligent adults in my environment when I was a child ... not unlike how things are these days. Hmmmmm ... the more things change, the more they stay the same. I still prefer to be alone. Raven Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " If I had to deal with people, I would rather deal with intelligent adults. That being said ... I spent a lot of time alone since there was a dearth of intelligent adults in my environment when I was a child ... not unlike how things are these days. " There were few intelligent adults to be had for conversation at parties when I was a kid either. Interestingly, I spent more time with the women than the men. The men tended to talk about four things: Hunting, fishing, sports and cars. The women's topics could wander around from subject to subject. Most of the time they were talking about church, gossip, recipes, who was pregnant, etc. But sometimes they talked philosophically about deeper things and it was interesting to hear them. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " If I had to deal with people, I would rather deal with intelligent adults. That being said ... I spent a lot of time alone since there was a dearth of intelligent adults in my environment when I was a child ... not unlike how things are these days. " There were few intelligent adults to be had for conversation at parties when I was a kid either. Interestingly, I spent more time with the women than the men. The men tended to talk about four things: Hunting, fishing, sports and cars. The women's topics could wander around from subject to subject. Most of the time they were talking about church, gossip, recipes, who was pregnant, etc. But sometimes they talked philosophically about deeper things and it was interesting to hear them. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad. Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ An observation... It's Easter Sunday, and while it is good that people are spending time with church and family, I notice that many of us are still posting here...whereas the Family Forum, which is primarily filled with NT parents, has no activity. I know from NT behavior that this will be a day of dinners in which guests are invited over and kids will be finding Easter eggs and Easter baskets. I have always found those activities to be unenjoyable. I much prefer spending time among folks I know where we can have quality conversations. I did go to church last night though. The Easter service was beautiful. Administrator No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG. Version: 7.5.519 / Virus Database: 269.21.8/1339 - Release Date: 3/22/2008 4:43 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 Thank God I missed out on all this Piñata stuff. Of course I didn't socialize much in youth and HATED (and still hate) Halloween for example. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 Thank God I missed out on all this Piñata stuff. Of course I didn't socialize much in youth and HATED (and still hate) Halloween for example. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 Thank God I missed out on all this Piñata stuff. Of course I didn't socialize much in youth and HATED (and still hate) Halloween for example. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 D'oh, I didn't say I was diagnosed Asperger's Syndrome (never heard of it at the time let alone Autism). LOTS of diagnoses before of all sorts that add up to A.S.!! Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ RE: An observation... Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad. Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG. Version: 7.5.519 / Virus Database: 269.21.8/1339 - Release Date: 3/22/2008 4:43 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 D'oh, I didn't say I was diagnosed Asperger's Syndrome (never heard of it at the time let alone Autism). LOTS of diagnoses before of all sorts that add up to A.S.!! Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ RE: An observation... Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad. Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. Randy Garrett Antioch, CA USA -----<---{(@ No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG. Version: 7.5.519 / Virus Database: 269.21.8/1339 - Release Date: 3/22/2008 4:43 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). " This list has been founded by Aspies, for Aspies. many of us have co-morbidities. We welcome you! " Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). " This situation is one that many autistics encounter. I hope you are ableto work things out. " I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. " I'm Missouri Synod Lutheran. I run the Christian Aspie Forum if you ever want to join that. It's for any Christian, so there is quite a mix of perspectives. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thechristianaspieforum/ " And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. " Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. " Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad.Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. " THIS Secret Society was formed originally for people from www.Aspergia.com to talk about deep topics. The Aspergia forum closed in 2004 and I think one of the reasons was that trolls and Aspie forums made the board chaotic. Here we try to have intelligent conversations. AS and HFA is always tops on the list, but we talk about anything else that is going on in our lives as well. Welcome to the group, and feel free to participate as you please. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). " This list has been founded by Aspies, for Aspies. many of us have co-morbidities. We welcome you! " Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). " This situation is one that many autistics encounter. I hope you are ableto work things out. " I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. " I'm Missouri Synod Lutheran. I run the Christian Aspie Forum if you ever want to join that. It's for any Christian, so there is quite a mix of perspectives. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thechristianaspieforum/ " And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. " Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. " Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad.Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. " THIS Secret Society was formed originally for people from www.Aspergia.com to talk about deep topics. The Aspergia forum closed in 2004 and I think one of the reasons was that trolls and Aspie forums made the board chaotic. Here we try to have intelligent conversations. AS and HFA is always tops on the list, but we talk about anything else that is going on in our lives as well. Welcome to the group, and feel free to participate as you please. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). " This list has been founded by Aspies, for Aspies. many of us have co-morbidities. We welcome you! " Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). " This situation is one that many autistics encounter. I hope you are ableto work things out. " I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. " I'm Missouri Synod Lutheran. I run the Christian Aspie Forum if you ever want to join that. It's for any Christian, so there is quite a mix of perspectives. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thechristianaspieforum/ " And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. " Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. " Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad.Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. " THIS Secret Society was formed originally for people from www.Aspergia.com to talk about deep topics. The Aspergia forum closed in 2004 and I think one of the reasons was that trolls and Aspie forums made the board chaotic. Here we try to have intelligent conversations. AS and HFA is always tops on the list, but we talk about anything else that is going on in our lives as well. Welcome to the group, and feel free to participate as you please. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). " This list has been founded by Aspies, for Aspies. many of us have co-morbidities. We welcome you! " Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). " This situation is one that many autistics encounter. I hope you are ableto work things out. " I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. " I'm Missouri Synod Lutheran. I run the Christian Aspie Forum if you ever want to join that. It's for any Christian, so there is quite a mix of perspectives. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thechristianaspieforum/ " And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. " Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. " Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad.Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. " THIS Secret Society was formed originally for people from www.Aspergia.com to talk about deep topics. The Aspergia forum closed in 2004 and I think one of the reasons was that trolls and Aspie forums made the board chaotic. Here we try to have intelligent conversations. AS and HFA is always tops on the list, but we talk about anything else that is going on in our lives as well. Welcome to the group, and feel free to participate as you please. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2008 Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 " Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful complication). " This list has been founded by Aspies, for Aspies. many of us have co-morbidities. We welcome you! " Anyway, I am not doing Easter as I don't know where the dinners are, I have no friends, no money, car is nearly out of gas, have no resources as I just moved to yet another city in my housing problems situation (SSI $870 & 7 year wait for subsidized housing). " This situation is one that many autistics encounter. I hope you are ableto work things out. " I don't think the two " local " churches that I'm mildly interested in (my roommate / " landlord " is Mormon, my choice in church is Lutheran) have websites so I can't find out if anything is going on I'm allowed to go to. I can't attend church as I frequently can't get to sleep at night so I always wake up LATE Sunday. " I'm Missouri Synod Lutheran. I run the Christian Aspie Forum if you ever want to join that. It's for any Christian, so there is quite a mix of perspectives. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thechristianaspieforum/ " And am really SCARED of groups & socializing these days. I've had a lot of bad experiences and have learned that my behavior is at times pretty bad for NT's who don't understand (the last Lutheran church was angry at me and didn't understand). High functioning Autism is hard to understand as well as severe hearing impairment. Deaf and Autistic can be better understood but most say I'm " not autistic or hearing impaired " and won't understand or help. " Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. " Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad.Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. " THIS Secret Society was formed originally for people from www.Aspergia.com to talk about deep topics. The Aspergia forum closed in 2004 and I think one of the reasons was that trolls and Aspie forums made the board chaotic. Here we try to have intelligent conversations. AS and HFA is always tops on the list, but we talk about anything else that is going on in our lives as well. Welcome to the group, and feel free to participate as you please. Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > > I did go to church last night though. The Easter service was > beautiful. > > > Administrator > It sounds nice. I cooked all day, to make a special dish for children requested by children. I know this is vague but let's say this--> I am a jew and i worked hard to make an enjoyable responsible day for 3 NT children, and although I had grandma's recipe penned by grandma, I got a it's so-so. My ASD son however was appreciatitive. Icon's like chocolate eggs and baskets are easier to get across than Purim. When i asked the christian children what Easter was about they said the Easter Bunny and chocolate. Needless to say i was feeling foolish and depressed by the end of the day, as well as beaten. It drives me crazy that there is no appreciation for anything. reading about it here brings tremdous comfort. That and today there is finally some sunlight Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > Oh my! I remember when Cub was 6, the neighbours who lived upstairs > from us had a party where there was a bunny pinata (go figure) and > they invited Cub to participate. > > They explained that kids would each have a turn at whacking the bunny > in the hopes of splitting it open and then candies would fall out. > Then all the kids were supposed to grab as many candies as they > possibly could before all the candies were picked up. > > Cub, being ever the careful planner, knew what he had to do. So when > his turn came, he looked for the part of the bunny that was > structurally weak from all the whacking. All the NTs were yelling at > him to get on with it and whack the stupid bunny. > > Suddenly, he whacked the bunny with such great force that it split > open. > > Now, the NTs expected that he would just back up from the excitement > of having been the one to whack the bunny open and the other kids > would dive in and start scooping up candy at which point, Cub would > set the bat aside and get on his hands and knees and start scooping > candy as well. > > No. > > Instead, he immediately dropped the bat, grabbed the bottom of his > shirt (which was loose and just the way he likes it) and a great deal > of candy fell IN to the pocket this action had created. > > The NT adults were very upset with him and started to tell him how > selfish he was and how he should share with the other kids and such. > Instead, I took him aside and suggested that he only keep a few > candies and return the rest to the floor for the other children. > > He was visibly upset because he had followed the NT instructions but > I reminded him that I could buy him far better candies than the cheap > ones that are found on the inside of pinata figures. He cried a > little and then realized that he really didn't want THEIR candies so > he returned them all to the floor for the NT children to fight over. > > Shortly after that, we went back to our apartment where we made > brownies together and the day after that, we bought some excellent > Easter candies at a greatly reduced price. > > Since then, Cub isn't one for those sorts of parties and chases and > hunts and such. He'd much rather wait until the day after and pick > up quality treats at better prices than the pre-event prices. > > Raven > As I was reading I anticipated Cub's actions, agreed with and have said the same thing about your reaction, and as a result avoid pinata's. By the way on Sat there was a Bunny Pinata. We fed animals at a farm A calf, live bunnys, goats, and pigs. We pet the barn cats and got to see what each type of aminal preferes to eat while all the other children fought over a pinata filled with cheap candies and toys. Funny story Raven and well done Cub. Mimi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > Oh my! I remember when Cub was 6, the neighbours who lived upstairs > from us had a party where there was a bunny pinata (go figure) and > they invited Cub to participate. > > They explained that kids would each have a turn at whacking the bunny > in the hopes of splitting it open and then candies would fall out. > Then all the kids were supposed to grab as many candies as they > possibly could before all the candies were picked up. > > Cub, being ever the careful planner, knew what he had to do. So when > his turn came, he looked for the part of the bunny that was > structurally weak from all the whacking. All the NTs were yelling at > him to get on with it and whack the stupid bunny. > > Suddenly, he whacked the bunny with such great force that it split > open. > > Now, the NTs expected that he would just back up from the excitement > of having been the one to whack the bunny open and the other kids > would dive in and start scooping up candy at which point, Cub would > set the bat aside and get on his hands and knees and start scooping > candy as well. > > No. > > Instead, he immediately dropped the bat, grabbed the bottom of his > shirt (which was loose and just the way he likes it) and a great deal > of candy fell IN to the pocket this action had created. > > The NT adults were very upset with him and started to tell him how > selfish he was and how he should share with the other kids and such. > Instead, I took him aside and suggested that he only keep a few > candies and return the rest to the floor for the other children. > > He was visibly upset because he had followed the NT instructions but > I reminded him that I could buy him far better candies than the cheap > ones that are found on the inside of pinata figures. He cried a > little and then realized that he really didn't want THEIR candies so > he returned them all to the floor for the NT children to fight over. > > Shortly after that, we went back to our apartment where we made > brownies together and the day after that, we bought some excellent > Easter candies at a greatly reduced price. > > Since then, Cub isn't one for those sorts of parties and chases and > hunts and such. He'd much rather wait until the day after and pick > up quality treats at better prices than the pre-event prices. > > Raven > As I was reading I anticipated Cub's actions, agreed with and have said the same thing about your reaction, and as a result avoid pinata's. By the way on Sat there was a Bunny Pinata. We fed animals at a farm A calf, live bunnys, goats, and pigs. We pet the barn cats and got to see what each type of aminal preferes to eat while all the other children fought over a pinata filled with cheap candies and toys. Funny story Raven and well done Cub. Mimi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > Oh my! I remember when Cub was 6, the neighbours who lived upstairs > from us had a party where there was a bunny pinata (go figure) and > they invited Cub to participate. > > They explained that kids would each have a turn at whacking the bunny > in the hopes of splitting it open and then candies would fall out. > Then all the kids were supposed to grab as many candies as they > possibly could before all the candies were picked up. > > Cub, being ever the careful planner, knew what he had to do. So when > his turn came, he looked for the part of the bunny that was > structurally weak from all the whacking. All the NTs were yelling at > him to get on with it and whack the stupid bunny. > > Suddenly, he whacked the bunny with such great force that it split > open. > > Now, the NTs expected that he would just back up from the excitement > of having been the one to whack the bunny open and the other kids > would dive in and start scooping up candy at which point, Cub would > set the bat aside and get on his hands and knees and start scooping > candy as well. > > No. > > Instead, he immediately dropped the bat, grabbed the bottom of his > shirt (which was loose and just the way he likes it) and a great deal > of candy fell IN to the pocket this action had created. > > The NT adults were very upset with him and started to tell him how > selfish he was and how he should share with the other kids and such. > Instead, I took him aside and suggested that he only keep a few > candies and return the rest to the floor for the other children. > > He was visibly upset because he had followed the NT instructions but > I reminded him that I could buy him far better candies than the cheap > ones that are found on the inside of pinata figures. He cried a > little and then realized that he really didn't want THEIR candies so > he returned them all to the floor for the NT children to fight over. > > Shortly after that, we went back to our apartment where we made > brownies together and the day after that, we bought some excellent > Easter candies at a greatly reduced price. > > Since then, Cub isn't one for those sorts of parties and chases and > hunts and such. He'd much rather wait until the day after and pick > up quality treats at better prices than the pre-event prices. > > Raven > As I was reading I anticipated Cub's actions, agreed with and have said the same thing about your reaction, and as a result avoid pinata's. By the way on Sat there was a Bunny Pinata. We fed animals at a farm A calf, live bunnys, goats, and pigs. We pet the barn cats and got to see what each type of aminal preferes to eat while all the other children fought over a pinata filled with cheap candies and toys. Funny story Raven and well done Cub. Mimi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > From the age of eight onward, I enjoyed hangng out with the adults. > > Now, as an adult, all my cousins have kids and I see all of them > engaging in the games that my cousins used to play when they were > kids. But I see none of their kids wanting to hang out with the > adults. > > It seems I was the only child in two generations that ever wanted to > hang out with adults. > > > Administrator > That was me as well, but bu 12 the adults were boring too, so i would wander off on my own to explore when the weather was good. I was thrilled to go alone and just look at all the stuff people pass by and never see Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > From the age of eight onward, I enjoyed hangng out with the adults. > > Now, as an adult, all my cousins have kids and I see all of them > engaging in the games that my cousins used to play when they were > kids. But I see none of their kids wanting to hang out with the > adults. > > It seems I was the only child in two generations that ever wanted to > hang out with adults. > > > Administrator > That was me as well, but bu 12 the adults were boring too, so i would wander off on my own to explore when the weather was good. I was thrilled to go alone and just look at all the stuff people pass by and never see Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > > Hi, I'm new here (but not a newbie to the List Servers). I was diagnosed > 9/2003 at age 43. And am severely Hard of Hearing (a wonderful > complication). > > Anyway, a LOT of people (Aspies or not) don't have connections, we are a > " secret society " of the poor, disabled, etc. Alone, lost, sad. > > Dang, kind of spoiled everyone's holiday! Please enjoy, it is precious. > > Randy Garrett > Antioch, CA USA > -----<---{(@ Certainly I don't feel you spoiled anything. When you spend a lifetime lloking from the outside of society it can be nervewracking to even being to want to do anything with anyone for any reason. Hopefully having a place to share your thoughts and have a voice will bring you comfort. hello by the way from mimi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. yes to teach them the value of all life, too bad many NT's don't seem to care about that (although they like to say they do) makes them feel special LOL I know I am not funny but sometimes you just have to laugh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 > Most people do not understand autism. I have found that even though many people are religious, they still may not be accepting individuals, and they may not see that God made everyone differently for a purpose. yes to teach them the value of all life, too bad many NT's don't seem to care about that (although they like to say they do) makes them feel special LOL I know I am not funny but sometimes you just have to laugh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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