Guest guest Posted May 16, 2002 Report Share Posted May 16, 2002 In addition to dittoing (I am sure that isn't a word, but oh well!) I would suggest using social stories and social webs/maps. I have found them to be useful with a variety of kids but usually kids who are higher functioning and have pretty good reading skills. Any way you can help to predict a situation or visually walk the kiddo through a problem or concern area is usually pretty helpful. ANy of Carol Gray's books would be really helpful in learning the generic " rules " of writing such stories or using these strategies. They are fantastic though, because you can change/adapt them to meet the needs of any learner! I am not a huge fan of medication-but I think there are some out there which address anxiety issues-I would use this as a last resort. Making a video of a particularly stressful situation or something he obsesses about and using it as a teaching tool may also be helpful. You could pair a social story with it-or if you are extra technological you could edit in your story or comments. I am not sure how to go about doing that as it is way to technologically advanced for me, but I have seen it done by a few electronically gifted dads. Hope you find something useful for your little guy...Good luck-and post back in a while to let us know if you found any strategies that worked out! --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2008 Report Share Posted February 11, 2008 You may want to talk with a psychologist about relaxation techniques you can try with her. Pam Who's never won? Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on AOL Music. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2008 Report Share Posted February 11, 2008 I put my son on B vitamins when he was twelve for his anxiety and nightmares and it’s been great he’s now fourteen and has very minimal anxiety issues and no nightmares. I wouldn’t know about giving them to a three year old though. sincerely Joyce What we do in this life, echo's in Eternity Maximus Decimus Baridius From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Whitewave Lotus Sent: Monday, February 11, 2008 9:15 AM Subject: ( ) Anxiety issues Hi... My daughter just turned 3 and I find that she is really having what SEEMS to be anxiety issues. We live in a duplex (we have the left and they have the right side of this big " house " ) and when my daughter hears them walking around she gets really scared to the point that she wants me to pick her up. She talks about " next door " and other things that I've been saying to her for a long time but she is still anxious about it. I didn't think it was as bad as it used to be but now that I've been cutting back on her Noggin/TV viewing and it's quieter in our place (ahhhh), she can hear them more. The only thing that seems to help is playing her music to sort of drown it out. But I'd rather work on the problem than just avoid it too. Lately, she has been giving me a VERY hard time in the morning when I'm trying to get her ready for preschool (9am - 1pm mon-fri special program). We were having no problems with this at all and now EVERYTHING is a fight from getting dressed to eating breakfast to getting the coat on. She actually gets hysterical at times and cries (really cries, not the fake kind) saying " no school!! no school!! " . It really breaks my heart but every time... we're halfway there in the car and she's as happy as a clam! Get to school and she's all smiles and barely takes the time to say 'bye' to me. (Don't let the door hit you in the aaa on the way out! " LOL!) I know that emotional problems are typical for Asperger's but at this age I'm not sure what to do about it. I think it's making her sleep worse too. She's now back to waking up at night and she just doesn't go back to sleep right away. I have to stay with her and usually fall asleep next to her but last night when I would wake up and carefully get up to go back to my bed, she would wake up! She's sleeping very lightly. I am am a poor sleeper... without meds I am a very light and anxious sleeper. I take medication for anxiety/depression and mood stabilization (don't know if I'm officially diagnosed as bipolar or not) so I know there might be a genetic component to this. I know they have linked bipolar and autism in families. Should I take her to a child psychologist? A psychiatrist? I am NOT willing to medicate her at this point (last resort) so I'm thinking the psychologist? Can they actually do anything at her age? Anyone have any experience with one and their young child? I'm going to look for some homeopathic and herbal help for this which is how I treat any illnesses or injuries...anyone else have info I can use in this realm? Thanks, Jen Mom to Emery, 3 yrs, Asperger's Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2008 Report Share Posted February 11, 2008 3 years old was a very tough year for my dd, now 6. She talked about " the neighbors " and was very frightened...all the different sounds freaked her out. I realized one problem was that she didn't really know what " the neighbors " were -- we had used that term, and used it to explain the sounds, but never made the connection to PEOPLE. I also realized she thought that " the neighbors " were IN the wall - she pointed to a half wall/breakfast buffet thing, referencing " the neighbors " . So, we introduced her to the neighbors and repeatedly referred to " the neighbors, you know, the people living in the house (it was an apartment building actually) next to us. " That helped alot. Another issue was the sounds from the pipes in the walls so we did some toilet flushing (my dh upstairs flushing it), while I was downstairs with her with walkie-talkies and listening to the water in the wall flow after the flush and such -- and showing her the pipes under the kitchen sink and lots of plumbing talk for awhile. We moved (for other reasons), to a place with much better sound proofing and that also helped. But around that time, she was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder, and along those lines, auditory was an area where she was very sensitive, and along with the sensory diet, that seemed to lessen and she stopped panicking with every light sound. That was also a time when some of the tv she was watching made more sense to her -- stuff that never bothered her before in a Disney movie say, she all of the sudden understood - someone is scared/hurt/etc...so we stopped watching tv for the most part. I'm not alot of help on the school issue...I urge you to respect her hesitancy, look into what is going on at school, and do some detective work to find out what is bothering her. We are unschoolers, so I'm biased beyond that :-) More recently, we have also read a book called " What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety " (What to Do Guides for Kids) - amazon sells it. And it was a great help but I am not sure if she would have understood it at 3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2008 Report Share Posted February 13, 2008 Hi... Thanks for the reply. My daughter really loves the neighbors and I call them by name saying " that's Christy and Bernie and ... " It seems to help a tiny bit but not that much.The school issue is in flux at the moment. My daughter just moved to a lower functioning class to a higher functioning class on Monday where most of the other kids have language and social skills like she does. She gave me a problem on Monday morning and yesterday my husband took her to school because I was so sick with the flu so that was a novelty... not much problem. We'll see if in the new class she will be happier to go. So far it seems like she really likes it. Jen :)On Feb 11, 2008 7:16 PM, <toemizanol@...> wrote: 3 years old was a very tough year for my dd, now 6. She talked about " the neighbors " and was very frightened...all the different sounds freaked her out. I realized one problem was that she didn't really know what " the neighbors " were -- we had used that term, and used it to explain the sounds, but never made the connection to PEOPLE. I also realized she thought that " the neighbors " were IN the wall - she pointed to a half wall/breakfast buffet thing, referencing " the neighbors " . So, we introduced her to the neighbors and repeatedly referred to " the neighbors, you know, the people living in the house (it was an apartment building actually) next to us. " That helped alot. Another issue was the sounds from the pipes in the walls so we did some toilet flushing (my dh upstairs flushing it), while I was downstairs with her with walkie-talkies and listening to the water in the wall flow after the flush and such -- and showing her the pipes under the kitchen sink and lots of plumbing talk for awhile. We moved (for other reasons), to a place with much better sound proofing and that also helped. But around that time, she was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder, and along those lines, auditory was an area where she was very sensitive, and along with the sensory diet, that seemed to lessen and she stopped panicking with every light sound. That was also a time when some of the tv she was watching made more sense to her -- stuff that never bothered her before in a Disney movie say, she all of the sudden understood - someone is scared/hurt/etc...so we stopped watching tv for the most part. I'm not alot of help on the school issue...I urge you to respect her hesitancy, look into what is going on at school, and do some detective work to find out what is bothering her. We are unschoolers, so I'm biased beyond that :-) More recently, we have also read a book called " What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety " (What to Do Guides for Kids) - amazon sells it. And it was a great help but I am not sure if she would have understood it at 3. Messages in this topic (4) Reply (via web post) | Start a new topic Messages | Files | Photos | Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2008 Report Share Posted February 13, 2008 I meant that she moved FROM a lower functioning class INTO a higher functioning one.Jen :)On Feb 13, 2008 9:53 AM, Whitewave Lotus <vivonocuore@...> wrote: Hi... Thanks for the reply. My daughter really loves the neighbors and I call them by name saying " that's Christy and Bernie and ... " It seems to help a tiny bit but not that much. The school issue is in flux at the moment. My daughter just moved to a lower functioning class to a higher functioning class on Monday where most of the other kids have language and social skills like she does. She gave me a problem on Monday morning and yesterday my husband took her to school because I was so sick with the flu so that was a novelty... not much problem. We'll see if in the new class she will be happier to go. So far it seems like she really likes it. Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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