Re: Peeing on floor

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I think I can jump in here. I have a 10 yr old, who did this very

same thing. I began to notice the room he shares with my 5 yr old smelled

like urine. When I asked him, he denied it. One night my husband went

upstairs and caught him in the corner of his room peeing. He also said it was

an accident, but I didn't think so. It was usually when we corrected him or

took away a priviledge, like tv, etc. I took him to a urologist. They found

he had some problems that could be contributing to this. They put him on

medication. So the first thing to do is to rule out all medical causes, then

go from there. I also took my son to a psychologist, because even though he

had physical problems, I still felt some of this was due to behavior also. We

found out did this because he was angry at us. So with the help of the

psychologist, we set up a chart of rewards and punishments. We set specific

rules that were a must, and the punishment if those rules were broken. Then

we went on a rewards system. I got a rewards basket, filled with

certificates, like staying up later, a movie, money, a night out with mom or

dad, a movie rental, game rental, etc. If accomplished his goal for the

week he got to choose from the basket. It's important to make the rewards

stuff the kid likes. We allowed to help us fill the basket with stuff

he likes. We also learned to choose our battles. There are times, we could

give in a little. We began focusing on the good things did and

praising him for it and only punishing when absolutely neccessary. I know I

was guilty of punishing for the wrong doing, because can be so

frustrating. I sometimes forgot the praise when he did something right or

good. We noticed a big differrence in a very short time. The peeing stopped,

because was no longer angry or felt as if he was being punished all the

time. He knew the rules and the consequences for breaking them, but he also

got praise for doing well and rewarded for being so good, because for him, it

was a struggle. he loved the praise and approval and began working for the

rewards. He's not perfect by any means, after all, who is? However, things

are better. I hope this helped, god be with you, Sharon