Re: Liposuction anyone?

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I have been reading this thread and at this point want need to comment.

lets start at 14

My first sexual experience was a rape, a " friend " was helping me run

away from home, I was to stay somewhere alone but that didn't happen so

we went to his house

His mother was home and I did scream but I am not a big person and I

wasn't at 14. (um his mother never budged)

I was in and out of psycologists offices and a psyche ward that landed

me with my father shortly after my experience (oh and mom said I did it

unpurpose)

by 16

I was pregnant (after a 2 year relationship and my first consentual act)

I have had been abused by family, neighbors and relatives (so read

first time)

I was thrown out of dad's house after refusing to abort

went back to mom's had to move out or succeed at suicide

I forced myself to college(not wanting to be a bad example for my baby

daughter)

My daughter stayed with my mom (who then refused to returm my daughter)

I had to fight.

there is a rape 2 at 18 but that is inconsequencial except as a result

to avoid all men I gained 80lbs. 207 lbs 5ft tall frame

I worked three jobs to set up a home and moved in with a boyfriend (to

make ends meet)

I spent a month living in a van

I worked 70 hrs a week

got through 2 years of college and was pregnant (1st daughter was 6 at

the time)I was married this time but, that marriage was doomed to

failure for too many reasons to recount.

Hub was a slob we kept being thrown out and I had become his caregiver

too.

I " let " everyone victimize me (mom, dad, cousin, uncle, grandparents)

I had nowhere to hide, and not much to look foward to.

The final straw was when hubby one tried to offer me to his boss (boss

told me this half hopeful) My reward for my 80pd weight loss

(I am not that pretty that men should have gone that far out of their

way to abuse me but I think my smallness of stature and my

accessability, made me a good target) as if reason can be applied

Not that people were nice to me when I was heavy. Once someone called

me a dog to my face as though I was deaf

So divorce and on to hubby two. I thought I made a list like Raven but

I was trusting and hubby 2 sounded loyal, a good partner, and seemed to

understand me even now it is hard for me to hate him the way I should.

I am even leaving out ugly bits (can you believe it???)

so what is my point. Randy I had every excuse not to lose weight until

I did it, every reason to not leave a bad relationship utill I had to

(both times for the sake of my children)Every reason to never finish

school and be untrained as I was discouraged all my life.

I have cried,worked,pushed,pulled, and even tried to be everything and

nothing.

For the record hubby 2 got a new gf 2 weeks after our son was dx'd(has

left me in fiancial straits, and I couldn't move now if I were being

beaten daily(as I haven given up everything to get someplace finally)

No one can make you take the first step, but rest assured you are not

alone. Every thing I did was small (so small, I fit what I could, a

bit at a time, I pushed myself to change if not for me then for the

people I had made promises to) I said I can't every day and then I did

because I had to. I don't know how old you are Randy, but Raven is a

living testament to can do

in short, we do have experience, we can , we have and we will. You

might want to create the desire to make change for someone else. Make

your goal your mother's urn, prove your ex wrong, best your roommates.

Refuse to be a statistic, a fateacompli (do not conform!) do not do as

told or expected do not lay down and not get up. Watch some anime man!

love mimi

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" No one can make you take the first step, but rest assured you are not

alone. Every thing I did was small (so small, I fit what I could, a

bit at a time, I pushed myself to change if not for me then for the

people I had made promises to) I said I can't every day and then I did

because I had to. "

I want everyone on this forum to seriously consider what Mimi has said

here. Every time we gripe, we CAN attempt to change our situations.

Sometimes, we fail, but sometimes we succeed. In any case, we will not

know what will happen until we try.

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