Advice

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Kristi, happy birthday (almost) to your little man! What is his name? Ugggh! I don't blame you for being upset over your ex's thoughtlessness. He sounds very immature! Have you told him how Wesley looks up to him and will eventually use the word too? Do you think he's doing it just to irritate you? Maybe you could try ignoring it and see if he stops.

Shari

Hi All!

I have a son who will be 1 this month on the 24th...woo-hoo! We have

been through so much and I am blessed to have him. The issue that it

bothering me right now is with is dad. We are divorced and he is

remarried and has pretty much nothing to do with him. Lately he has

been using the " r " word extremely too much! And I have repeatedly

asked him not to say that, to please think of another word to use. I

have explained that I REALLY don't like that word. But he says things

like " That's so retarded " or " are you retarded " , and I have said " you

mean, thats so stupid " . But he doesn't care and ignores my thoughts

and feelings on this matter. We also have a 2 year old boy(wesley)

together and I don't want that word to ever come out of his mouth, I

would cry trying to explain that one. I got so mad last night after

he used the word in a sentence while talking about him picking up

wesley, that I just hung up while he was in mid sentence. I sent him

a text asking him what it would take to make him quit using that

word. His reply was " I'm not fake i realize my son has a disability

but i don't think its fair to just change my vocab " . What an ass! I

replied and said so then its ok for someone to walk up and ask if our

son was retarded, that it will be ok cause he shouldn't have to

change his vocab either. I got no reply but once again when I met him

to let him get wesley for his weekend he used the word again. I just

want to scream and slap some since into his ignorant butt. What can I

do to explain to his ignorant self? If he keeps doing this after I

ask him to stop, one day I will probably slap him right in mid

sentence. Any advice please....

Kristi

~Praying for patience!~