Re: Social story (or?) about constructive criticism

[Guest guest]

The Pacer Center has a whole website devoted to bullying.

http://www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org/ It's designed for kids including

games and things.

They also have a Bullying Prevention website at www.

<http://www.pacer.org/bullying/index.asp> pacer.org/bullying/index.asp .

Tonya

From: Texas-Autism-Advocacy

[mailto:Texas-Autism-Advocacy ] On Behalf Of Di

Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2008 12:15 AM

To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy

Subject: Social story (or?) about constructive

criticism

Hi everyone~

I have a friend (in another state) who is seeking help for her 12-

13yo with HFA. He had a meltdown in school this week (crying under

his desk...not a good look for a boy in his last year of middle

school!) becaise other kids were picking on him. When his mom

finally got him calm and able to talk about it, the gist of the deal

was, he had drawing paper out, and the students around him were

trying to prompt him to put it away, that it wasn't time for art.

Apparently this isn't the first time this has happened, and the young

man just doesn't " get " that they were not picking on him, and were in

fact probably just trying to be helpful She was wondering if there

is a book/video/social story about the difference between

bullying/being picked on, versus telling him what to do to be

helpful. I don't know of any but I figured some of y'all might. She

probably doesn't have time to write one, she's trying to start a

restaurant in addition to doing medical transcription at home. She

has a " hab worker " , who, from the sound of it, is probably a high

school or college student...so no help there. If anyone has any

suggestions, I'd be happy to pass them along. They're both pretty

frustrated right about now!

TIA!

Diane.

[Guest guest]

Here is a message board posting that lists a bunch of different

social stories that are available online. It might be worth a look to

see if you can find one for the topic you need. http://www.autism-

pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14154

Also, this website has a great page on social stories, and how to

write your own: http://www.polyxo.com/socialstories/

Caldwell, M.Ed.

A Charlotte Mason Education - Adapting Literature, Art, and Classical

Studies for Students with Autism

http://www.positivelyautism.com/volume3issue01/

>

> Hi everyone~

>

> I have a friend (in another state) who is seeking help for her 12-

> 13yo with HFA. He had a meltdown in school this week (crying under

> his desk...not a good look for a boy in his last year of middle

> school!) becaise other kids were picking on him. When his mom

> finally got him calm and able to talk about it, the gist of the

deal

> was, he had drawing paper out, and the students around him were

> trying to prompt him to put it away, that it wasn't time for art.

> Apparently this isn't the first time this has happened, and the

young

> man just doesn't " get " that they were not picking on him, and were

in

> fact probably just trying to be helpful She was wondering if there

> is a book/video/social story about the difference between

> bullying/being picked on, versus telling him what to do to be

> helpful. I don't know of any but I figured some of y'all might.

She

> probably doesn't have time to write one, she's trying to start a

> restaurant in addition to doing medical transcription at home. She

> has a " hab worker " , who, from the sound of it, is probably a high

> school or college student...so no help there. If anyone has any

> suggestions, I'd be happy to pass them along. They're both pretty

> frustrated right about now!

>

> TIA!

>

> Diane.

>

[Guest guest]

Rather than a social story I would have an astute counselor or teacher who is

sympathetic and understanding lead a small meeting btw 2-3 of the boys and this

student and let the boys explain what they were trying to do to help. I would

coach the boys on autism and let the group work out signals so the student w/au

can follow their lead.

I would be very selective and instructive with supportive boys who have a

heart to help this kid. Most teens are kind when they know the neurology of what

is going on.

Di wrote:

Hi everyone~

I have a friend (in another state) who is seeking help for her 12-

13yo with HFA. He had a meltdown in school this week (crying under

his desk...not a good look for a boy in his last year of middle

school!) becaise other kids were picking on him. When his mom

finally got him calm and able to talk about it, the gist of the deal

was, he had drawing paper out, and the students around him were

trying to prompt him to put it away, that it wasn't time for art.

Apparently this isn't the first time this has happened, and the young

man just doesn't " get " that they were not picking on him, and were in

fact probably just trying to be helpful She was wondering if there

is a book/video/social story about the difference between

bullying/being picked on, versus telling him what to do to be

helpful. I don't know of any but I figured some of y'all might. She

probably doesn't have time to write one, she's trying to start a

restaurant in addition to doing medical transcription at home. She

has a " hab worker " , who, from the sound of it, is probably a high

school or college student...so no help there. If anyone has any

suggestions, I'd be happy to pass them along. They're both pretty

frustrated right about now!

TIA!

Diane.

[Guest guest]

I agree...my son, Joe, sometimes reacts negatively to a simple direction because

he perceives it as criticism. I'm sure the kids were truly just trying to help

him out but maybe they were telling him in an excited way and maybe using a

phrase ie. " No! Don't take that out now... " Maybe the child took a comment like

that as being critical and felt he was doing something bad. Or maybe just

perceived it as kids " ganging up on him " . Perhaps if the kids are instructed by

the teacher AND parent on a different way to express the message they were

trying to convey--it might make a difference. I was in my daughter(NT) class

for their Christmas party last month and one of the students in her class with

HFA, , came back from PE just balling his eyes out. I thought someone

had really done something awful to him and this poor little boy(NT) followed him

in just bewildered at why reacted the way he did to his comment which

was simply something like, " Put the ball away, we need to get back to class " . I

felt bad for both of them!!

a

Re: Social story (or?) about constructive

criticism

Rather than a social story I would have an astute counselor or teacher who is

sympathetic and understanding lead a small meeting btw 2-3 of the boys and this

student and let the boys explain what they were trying to do to help. I would

coach the boys on autism and let the group work out signals so the student w/au

can follow their lead.

I would be very selective and instructive with supportive boys who have a

heart to help this kid. Most teens are kind when they know the neurology of what

is going on.

Di wrote:

Hi everyone~

I have a friend (in another state) who is seeking help for her 12-

13yo with HFA. He had a meltdown in school this week (crying under

his desk...not a good look for a boy in his last year of middle

school!) becaise other kids were picking on him. When his mom

finally got him calm and able to talk about it, the gist of the deal

was, he had drawing paper out, and the students around him were

trying to prompt him to put it away, that it wasn't time for art.

Apparently this isn't the first time this has happened, and the young

man just doesn't " get " that they were not picking on him, and were in

fact probably just trying to be helpful She was wondering if there

is a book/video/social story about the difference between

bullying/being picked on, versus telling him what to do to be

helpful. I don't know of any but I figured some of y'all might. She

probably doesn't have time to write one, she's trying to start a

restaurant in addition to doing medical transcription at home. She

has a " hab worker " , who, from the sound of it, is probably a high

school or college student...so no help there. If anyone has any

suggestions, I'd be happy to pass them along. They're both pretty

frustrated right about now!

TIA!

Diane.

[Guest guest]

My son preceives many comments from me and his peers that way. He

takes them too personally and swears that everyone is so mean to him.

In his mind it is 'real' when objectively, someone could just be

saying 'it's time to go to lunch' or 'what homework do you have

tonight?'.

He used to be really bad about this to the point where correcting his

grammar on homework was a MAJOR 2 hour argument. He's somewhat better

now that he is older, but still has his moments. I tried explaining

things to him, it really didn't work. What I found out was certain

foods he ate put him in a more argumentative, easily annoyed mood.

Anything with corn syrup in it (like soda) really sends him into the

abyss of arguing and there is absolutely no reasoning with him.

We now buy soda from Whole Foods made with sugar and we try as much

as possible to avoid any foods with artificial ingredients. He does

a lot better, and is in a better mood when we avoid these foods.

Nagla

> Hi everyone~

>

> I have a friend (in another state) who is seeking help for her 12-

> 13yo with HFA. He had a meltdown in school this week (crying

under

> his desk...not a good look for a boy in his last year of middle

> school!) becaise other kids were picking on him. When his mom

> finally got him calm and able to talk about it, the gist of the

deal

> was, he had drawing paper out, and the students around him were

> trying to prompt him to put it away, that it wasn't time for art.

> Apparently this isn't the first time this has happened, and the

young

> man just doesn't " get " that they were not picking on him, and

were in

> fact probably just trying to be helpful She was wondering if

there

> is a book/video/social story about the difference between

> bullying/being picked on, versus telling him what to do to be

> helpful. I don't know of any but I figured some of y'all might.

She

> probably doesn't have time to write one, she's trying to start a

> restaurant in addition to doing medical transcription at home.

She

> has a " hab worker " , who, from the sound of it, is probably a high

> school or college student...so no help there. If anyone has any

> suggestions, I'd be happy to pass them along. They're both pretty

> frustrated right about now!

>

> TIA!

>

> Diane.

>

>