Re: How will I survive this?

[Guest guest]

To make a long story short I went to Rockhampton Australia with the

air national guard and a woman I went with over there alot higher rank then

I tried to get me a IUD. I refused and she said you dont need no more

children well she had 5 and I only had 2. Anyway this made me want more

all the more so when I got back to Alaska I got pg right away. Then a

neighbor wanted me to get an abortion since had problems and I

refused. Then I went to Colorado with extended family for two months

until he got transfered to NEw Jersey. During those two months were the

worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of the two you

have now and you want another one? You need a tubal ligation I got a tubal

igation and I am happy. I only take care of what I can handle. Then in

my 8th month drove to NJ with my husband. The military lied to us as

usual and there was no base housing available. We had $4000 in cash on

us and still couldnt find a rental unless we went clear to philly. IT was

xmas time and I slipped into a deep depression. The doctor in NJ met me

for the first time dec 9th 1997 I gave birth dec 16 and got a pomeroy style

tubal ligation dec 17,1997. About 15 months later I got a reversal.

It was prejudish so I got on a web site called blessed arrows and found a

cheap one.

Believe me I know how stress can and will affect someone especially

being pregnant that is why I dont want you stressed!!!!

is Pdd mild autism. She feels she is 35 years old and

she is only 10. Hey she is the same age as you were when you used to get

into your dads cigaretts LOL

Charlene

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You are normal, a normal woman with normal desires to have healthy

babies!

That's too funny about . Just goes to show ASD kids DO have

imitative skills! I used to sneak my dad's cigs when I was 10 yrs

old!

Debi

>

[Guest guest]

I love that saying Robin hehehehe Charlene

Life is like a big fan, and sometimes the ca-ca hits it.-Robin

[Guest guest]

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

I got some negative comments while I was preg, too. First of all, if

I want to have 10 kids it's my right, second of all, it's no one

else's business how many kids any of us plan or don't plan on

having, and third, I never ask anyone for help, with the exception

of about 2 hrs every month or so from my MIL, and she wasn't the one

making ignorant comments. So anyone who wanted to sit in judgement

of my procreation habits are more than welcome to kiss my big ole

foot (for lack of a more negative location!). It's funny, the ones

who were most critical are also those who take a " pro choice "

stance. Guess when it comes down to it they aren't so into the

individual's choice, after all.

Debi

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

I got some negative comments while I was preg, too. First of all, if

I want to have 10 kids it's my right, second of all, it's no one

else's business how many kids any of us plan or don't plan on

having, and third, I never ask anyone for help, with the exception

of about 2 hrs every month or so from my MIL, and she wasn't the one

making ignorant comments. So anyone who wanted to sit in judgement

of my procreation habits are more than welcome to kiss my big ole

foot (for lack of a more negative location!). It's funny, the ones

who were most critical are also those who take a " pro choice "

stance. Guess when it comes down to it they aren't so into the

individual's choice, after all.

Debi

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

Not to mention you will probably deliver c-section. Just keep

thinking, " Make it to the 30's (weeks) "

:-)

Debi

>

> >          If I remember right s has autism due to birth

> > trauma.   I

> > cant remember the details but it had nothing to do with shots or

> > genetics. 

> >   I feel the babies be NT and healthy.   AS long as she does not

let

> > stress

> > get in her way.

> >          I had PDD first her birth was perfect no

> > complications but

> > I didnt know she had toomany problems so then we had NT and

that

> > is

> > when I realized had severe problems but I always blamed

it on

> > the

> > little bit of alcohol I drank.    So with I had nothing

then got

> > pg

> > with I had nothing  and has moderate autism worse

then

> > s

> >      Yet for some odd reason I wished I could have another baby

> > LOLOLOL.  

> > I am not normal huh

> >          We caught yesterday in her grandmothers

bathroom

> > smoking

> > cigarettes.      We do not smoke inmy house but my mom is a

heavy

> > smoker.

> >               Charlene 

> >

> > -- Re: How will I survive this?

> >

> > , after I posted the last one I started thinking about the

fear

> > of having another child who might develop autism. Since Dinah is

> > doing so well, I've kind of forgotten all those fears that seem

to

> > torment us late in the night. But thinking about you I began to

> > remember it.

> >

> > I am sure that having an only child with ASD makes it seem more

> > likely that your babies will be autistic. I was fortunate to

have an

> > NT child before my Allie Kat blessed us with her presence, so I

> > figured I at least had a 50/50 shot at a healthy child.

> >

> > Just have faith that The Big Guy upstairs knows everything. I'm

sure

> > you have wondered " why me, after all I have to do for my little

one "

> > but He has a plan for you, your hubby, and especially .

There is

> > a song by Avalon, " The dreams I dream for you are deeper than the

> > ones you're clinging to, more precious than the finest things you

> > do, truer than the treasures you pursue. Pick up the cup I offer,

> > and drink deeply of the dreams I dream for you. " Another part of

the

> > song says, " You've read one page, I know the story. " Right now

you

> > are like in the first paragraph of the second page, lol. In a few

> > years you'll be able to look back and see how wonderful He has

> > written the chapter of your book about the births of your babies.

> > Since He is The Master Writer, it will be a chapter filled with

> > laughing, crying, hoping, dispair, and triumph. It will be the

best

> > book you've ever read!

> >

> > Just know that no matter how scared you get it's gonna be okay.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

the only saying i have is " i'd rather have a bottle in front of me, than have

to have a frontal labotomy " . after the kids are born i hear a little wine

is good. and if youre nursing not much wine will get to them, only enough to

help them sleep. hehe. i know i know. out of work comidians.

eric

[Guest guest]

OMG you cant get any better care then that!!!!

Charlene

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That's true, Charlene. was in severe fetal distress in the birth

canal and was blue for quite some time. The lack of oxygen caused

damage to her frontal and temporal lobes. My goal is to prevent that

from happening again, but with triplets they will quite likely be

preemie, but our hospital is very progressive and my father was

surgical chief of staff, so you KNOW they will be taking care of me!

[Guest guest]

OMG you cant get any better care then that!!!!

Charlene

-- Re: Re: How will I survive this?

That's true, Charlene. was in severe fetal distress in the birth

canal and was blue for quite some time. The lack of oxygen caused

damage to her frontal and temporal lobes. My goal is to prevent that

from happening again, but with triplets they will quite likely be

preemie, but our hospital is very progressive and my father was

surgical chief of staff, so you KNOW they will be taking care of me!

[Guest guest]

I cant agree with you more Debi. Same people preaching pro choice is

just another excuse for birth control because they arent so pro choice after

all. These same people that do this also are our childrens worst critize

They are the ones that can not except special needs or differences.

ITs taken me some time to not worry about what others say and do my own

thing. I guess we all get stronger everyday. No way would I ever turn

my back on my kids and its always suggested. I cant agree with you more

Debi. Charlene

-- Re: How will I survive this?

I got some negative comments while I was preg, too. First of all, if

I want to have 10 kids it's my right, second of all, it's no one

else's business how many kids any of us plan or don't plan on

having, and third, I never ask anyone for help, with the exception

of about 2 hrs every month or so from my MIL, and she wasn't the one

making ignorant comments. So anyone who wanted to sit in judgement

of my procreation habits are more than welcome to kiss my big ole

foot (for lack of a more negative location!). It's funny, the ones

who were most critical are also those who take a " pro choice "

stance. Guess when it comes down to it they aren't so into the

individual's choice, after all.

Debi

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

Debi I dont know what you were trying to tell me here but by your

last post you have been there too. I am not alone. Charlene

-- Re: How will I survive this?

During those two months were the

> worst. I heard rude comments like you cant even take care of

the two you

> have now and you want another one?

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I've been lurking on this list for awhile but I

thought now would be the time to jump in. We have a

3.5 year old daughter who sounds fairly similar to

. Four months ago we had twin boys. Needless to

say, life is pretty crazy! To reiterate what others

on the list have said, line up help! My mom stayed

with us for three weeks before Danny and Adam were

born and then for three weeks after. My husband is an

academic so he was home for most of the summer. Even

with three adults around, the cooking and laundry

didn't always get done. I also don't think I slept

that first month. The boys nursed alternate hours, so

with changing countless poopy diapers, there wasn't

much time left for sleep! However, I just wanted to

say that it does get better!

After the inital shock that we were having twins wore

off, I realized that this was probably the best thing

that could happen for --not only would she have

siblings who would try to play with her, she would be

able to watch the two of them interact. This is of

course, hoping that Danny and Adam are NT. As you

know, there is always the possibility of one or both

having autism. However, I prefer to hope for the

best, but be willing to accept whatever happens. So

far the boys seem to be making lots of eye contact and

are very responsive--all good signs.

So congratualations! I just wanted to let you know

that having multiples after a child with autism may be

tough (I often think that it's like having

triplets--in your case, quadruplets), but it does get

easier and I think the interactions that will result

will be worth the tough times.

Cheers,

Sheryle

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