- Re: HI - NEW MEMBER

[Guest guest]

Dear Elaine,

One of the ideas that had great impact in my life and that helped me

change my life is that thoughts have power. Another idea that

changed me is that - I am a co-creator of my world. Another is that --

words are powerful.

I also know that a group can be very powerful when it focuses its

thoughts on a single idea. I have seen " miracles " created -- tense

political situations dissolved, legal cases decided fairly even in

the face of political power and money, people healing

from " incurable " situations; droughts ended; powerful typhoons

averted, etc. etc. etc.

I often hesitate to share my challenges with people who I feel would

not be able to help me anyway. If I had a medical problem -- I

discuss the details of that challenge with a doctor. If I have an

emotional challenge, I go to someone who is experienced in processing

such challenges such as a counsellor or a psychologist or just

someone I can trust. The support I ask for from non-medical people

is usually in the form of prayers or affirmative thoughts. I make

the request very general. And even before I approach anyone, I

usually meditate first and ask for divine guidance as to where I

should go for assistance in resolving the challenge.

I have no desire to energize the very thoughts that had created the

situation in my life. I believe that dwelling on the problems and

sharing them with just anyone who aren't trained to help anyway

energizes the problem and just makes it more difficult to deal with.

It's like just like focusing on how " bad " a person is. And everyone

affirming and agreeing that person is just so " bad " . I've seen that

in office situations where people see a boss or a co-worker as

difficult. It really becomes their experience.

On the other hand, I have seen what affirmative thoughts coupled with

affirmative action can do. The difficult person or situation is

changed.

When I joined the Affirmations group, I was looking for that kind of

affirmative support. The kind that can create miracles -- move

mountains -- high drama stuff.

Sometimes I get it. Sometimes I don't. But it's all right, isn't it?

I now see you for the great person you are -- with a clear vision of

who you really are -- a wonderful person filled with love and light

and the knowledge that she deserves only the best and expects only

the best kind of treatment. You now attract only people who love and

respect your boundaries and support you in all that you do. You are

blessed. And so it is!

Have a wonderful day.

In light and love,

>

> Hi ,

> Thanks for the response.

> When I joined this group I knew it wasn't therapists or

> professionals.

> When I say " daily support " I expected the group to be more

> active.

> I moderate a large very active group for parents of special

> needs children. (FASD) When someone has a problem

> many jump in to offer suggestions and opinions and will usually

> stay with that person until we've found a solution to their

> problem. I was hoping for something like that in this group.

> In the FASD gropu they will help with personal problems as well.

But

> it's not really the place

> for it. It's more to help the parents with the children. So I'm

> hesitant to keep]

> bring up personal problems with them.

>

> I don't mean everyone complains. I mean if anyone is having a bad

they

> can post why. Ask for understanding or suggestions. and vice

versa.

> A give and take.

>

> For myself, I've had much therapy and it's stuck with me. I know

how

> to set

> boundaries. Where I need support is in being strong and

reinforcing

> those boundaries.

>

> Elaine