To Hold On or Let Go?

September 25, 2008

My friend, Carla, wrote this and sent it to a group that we belong to. She has given me permission to post this and I thought I would because it is so good and true. She recently signed up to the Affirmations group and hopefully she will reply with some more thoughts on this! Blessings,CharleneCo-Moderator

Here is something I was moved to write tonight. I am starting a series of writings that I am going to call "Positive Passages' (at least for now). Who knows what they will turn into as they continue to emerge. If you feel like it, share it with others and let me know their reaction. It just flowed out as my writing usually does as the spirit moves and I never quite know how others will see it or take it or what they will take from it. Also, if there is anything I should change to make it more powerful, let me know.I have been really down the last

couple of days suffering from a virus the

kids brought home but also from my RA as well Love all you women you are closer to my heart than I have allowed any to be and we haven't even met.

To Hold On or Let Go?

What you hold onto – holds you, and drives your actions. That old hurt from childhood, or from last week. That person you tolerate, who slighted you or hurt your feelings or embarrassed you. The person who was supposed to love and protect you who did not. Those people we choose not to forgive because we think they do not deserve to be forgiven.

Well, when you choose to hold on to anger and resentment, it festers like a sore and grows bigger and more powerful. That anger and resentment begins to take you over. That anger and resentment forms a blockade around your heart and soul. What does the blockade keep out? It keeps out the blessings spirit is trying to deliver to you through others. How often do you consciously or unconsciously turn away something positive? Do you even notice that you are doing so? How often do you question why others are so much more fortunate than you? Consider that they do not have walls of anger and resentment turning away most of the good things that are coming to them.

Consider that they accept compliments for what they are – acts of kindness, small, intangible gifts, that many people give freely. Consider that the fortunate ones simply say thank you and do not argue or deflect the kindness, they accept the gift without protest. Maybe the fortunate ones are the ones who accept kindness even from those who have hurt them previously. It is possible for gifts to come to us in many forms. They may come in the form of favors, gestures, a connection we needed but did not expect, a chance meeting with just the person who can help you forward something you are committed to. How many of those gifts do you turn away, not realizing that you are blocking a blessing?

Consider that you do not have to carry around bags of anger and resentment labeled with the names of people who have hurt you or wronged you. Consider that your energy is better spent if you set those bags down and focus your energy on where you are headed. Imagine how relieved your soul would be if it no longer had to be concerned with the weight of all those bags of unforgiven hurts and the energy it takes to drag them around.

Forgiveness is not for the people who hurt you – it is for you. Forgiveness is one of the ways to lighten the load you have burdened your soul and being with. You have the power of choice to lighten that load at anytime. When will you lighten your load? When will you free your soul? Will you hold on or will you let go?

Carla

October 2, 2008

-WOW this is good.

I really,really needed to read this. I was thinking of people as I

was reading it. I am going to work on forgiving the people in my life

that I need to including myself.

-- In AffirmationstoDe-Stress , Charlene

wrote:

>

> My friend, Carla, wrote this and sent it to a group that we belong

to. She has given me permission to post this and I thought I would

because it is so good and true. She recently signed up to the

Affirmations group and hopefully she will reply with some more

thoughts on this!

>

> Blessings,

>

> Charlene

> Co-Moderator

>

> Here is something I was moved to write tonight. I am starting a

series of writings that I am going to call " Positive Passages' (at

least for now). Who knows what they will turn into as they continue

to emerge. If you feel like it, share it with others and let me know

their reaction. It just flowed out as my writing usually does as the

spirit moves and I never quite know how others will see it or take it

or what they will take from it. Also, if there is anything I should

change to make it more powerful, let me know.I have been really down

the last couple of days suffering from a virus the kids brought home

but also from my RA as well Love all you women you are closer to my

heart than I have allowed any to be and we haven't even met.

>

> To Hold On or Let Go?

>

> What you hold onto – holds you, and drives your actions. That old

hurt from childhood, or from last week. That person you tolerate, who

slighted you or hurt your feelings or embarrassed you. The person who

was supposed to love and protect you who did not. Those people we

choose not to forgive because we think they do not deserve to be

forgiven.

>

> Well, when you choose to hold on to anger and resentment, it

festers like a sore and grows bigger and more powerful. That anger

and resentment begins to take you over. That anger and resentment

forms a blockade around your heart and soul. What does the blockade

keep out? It keeps out the blessings spirit is trying to deliver to

you through others. How often do you consciously or unconsciously

turn away something positive? Do you even notice that you are doing

so? How often do you question why others are so much more fortunate

than you? Consider that they do not have walls of anger and

resentment turning away most of the good things that are coming to

them.

>

> Consider that they accept compliments for what they are – acts of

kindness, small, intangible gifts, that many people give freely.

Consider that the fortunate ones simply say thank you and do not

argue or deflect the kindness, they accept the gift without protest.

Maybe the fortunate ones are the ones who accept kindness even from

those who have hurt them previously. It is possible for gifts to come

to us in many forms. They may come in the form of favors, gestures, a

connection we needed but did not expect, a chance meeting with just

the person who can help you forward something you are committed to.

How many of those gifts do you turn away, not realizing that you are

blocking a blessing?

>

> Consider that you do not have to carry around bags of anger and

resentment labeled with the names of people who have hurt you or

wronged you. Consider that your energy is better spent if you set

those bags down and focus your energy on where you are headed.

Imagine how relieved your soul would be if it no longer had to be

concerned with the weight of all those bags of unforgiven hurts and

the energy it takes to drag them around.

>

> Forgiveness is not for the people who hurt you – it is for you.

Forgiveness is one of the ways to lighten the load you have burdened

your soul and being with. You have the power of choice to lighten

that load at anytime. When will you lighten your load? When will you

free your soul? Will you hold on or will you let go?

>

> Carla

>

October 3, 2008

I am glad that you liked this and found it helpful. I think that there is not enough forgiveness in this world...especially forgiving ourselves. Blessings,CharleneCo-Moderator Re: To Hold On or Let Go?