RE: Jan, Stacey, Carol

[Guest guest]

Jan...I am so glad that the new meds are working for

you. Isn't it a shame that we all must be so

suspicous about everyone we bring into our children's

lives. I never lived with a man after my divorce

because I could never bring anyone into their lives

that I didn't 100% trust. Fortunately, I married the

most wonderful man about 3 years ago. I hope you have

uninterrupted sleep tonight.

Carol...Thank you.

Stacey...Where in PA are you? My children's great

grandmother lived on top of Mt. Washington, on the

street that the Dusque Incline is on. Their

grandmother is from California (Their grandmother

called it a college town and her sister called it a

coal town. All a matter of perspective.)and relatives

live in and several other small towns around.

The first time I drove up there I couldn't get over

how one little town rolls into another. It is really

pretty there.

> Jan, Iris, Stacey...

> I'm reading all these stories and I'm just in shock.

> I cannot even fathom

> what would come over an adult to perpetuate such

> behavior on an innocent

> child. I think I tend to see the world through

> " rose colored glasses " and

> consider all people fundamentally good. I guess

> with some people that's

> just not true.

>

> I'm so sorry each of you and your family had to come

> in contact with such

> evil. Jan and Iris, I'm so sorry about your

> daughters. Stacey, I'm sorry

> you've had to go through this with Wyatt, but I'm

> glad it wasn't worse. I'

> m sure after reading these experiences, you're that

> much more convinced that

> your decision was wise.

>

> Love and hugs,

> Carol

>

> [ ] Iris

>

>

> Iris: Thank your for your kind words again. The

> doctor has put me on

> Trazadone to take at night and has been upped to 1

> 1/2 tabs. She says there

> are virtually no side effects. So far it's not

> doing the job that Elavil

> did but I'd rather work with it and get rid of the

> terrible things that

> Elavil caused.

>

> I don't think you are overprotecting on your

> children. We cannot do enough

> for them. I may have saved my younger daughter but

> was not able to save my

> older one. A " friend " of the family, a trusted

> family " friend " did a number

> on her when she was 7 and she did not tell me until

> she was 14. The family

> friend was murdered by a girlfriend and I was called

> to vouch for his

> character in court. When I told my daughter, that

> the court had called me

> to tell me that the defense was going to bring it up

> that he had molested

> his two daughters and they wanted me to be prepared

> to hear it. I had had

> no idea but was more concerned with the fact that

> the girlfriend had

> murdered him. She broke into tears and told me he

> had messed with her and

> threatened her that he'd kill all of us if she told.

> I called the DA's

> office back and told them to forget it, that there

> was not going to be any

> way that I would testify for the character of a man

> that had molested my

> daughter. They did not press for any more testimony

> from me. When the

> younger one was three, I ws seeing a man with two

> kids just older than my

> oldest. My alert system was just engaging as I got

> to know him and

> discovered he really didn't like women. His son

> could do no wrong and his

> favorite name for his daughter was " meathead " and

> was not said in nice way.

> He would always poke her in the chest to get his

> point across to her. One

> evening, we were all watching TV with the kids on

> the floor. The kids were

> been a little rambunctous when suddenly he sprang up

> from the chair and

> grabbed my little one by the arm and yanked her up.

> I thought her arm would

> come out of the socket. I jumped up, grabbed her,

> and told the other one

> that we were leaving. I never looked back. Years

> later, my older daughter

> told me that his daughter told her that he took

> showers with his kids - 11

> and 12 year olds. If I had known then what I know

> now, he would have been

> reported.

>

> There I've climbed on my soapbox again. Someone

> give me a push when I get

> started again - ok? I hope you have a good night.

> It's almost 11 and I

> really need to get some sleep tonight after 2 nights

> of hardly any. Hugs,

> prayers, tender thoughts, Jan in CA +/:=)

>

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Hi Carol,

Actually, I live about 3 miles away from California. The toll road that was

put in goes into a small town called Lowhill and that is where I live. It is

such a beautiful area. I couldn't imagine living anywhere else. What is the

grandmother's name (if you don't mind. you can mail me directly if you

want). I may know her or have heard of her. Where did you grow up?

Anywhere around here?

I thank you for the support with the neighbor problem. At first, I just

wanted it to go away. But now, the more I think about it, the madder I get.

I feel that I did the right thing. Right now, its still fresh, but things

will calm down as time goes by. I'm sure.

Love and Hugs

Stacey in PA