Re: Nasty Neighbor--update - Kathy

[Guest guest]

thanks gina, i know you are right. i did everything possible. i also feel

for dan.

[Guest guest]

Kathy, I am heartbroken to hear more details of your sad story. I hope

you've been able to work through this and that you aren't blaming

yourself for the abuse Dan suffered. He doesn't blame you. And it wasn't

your fault. I hope you can believe that.

Don't hesitate to post anything like this to the group for fears of

upsetting or offending someone. I was upset to read what happened, but

only because you and Dan have been hurt.

Thinking of you,

Re: [ ] Nasty Neighbor--update

> <PRE>stacey, i am glad you talked to the wife and police. it is so

very important

> for your child to know they can trust you. my son told me about his

abuse at

> age 3. it was very hard to believe that a he would know anything about

this.

> i also had to make the hardest decision in my life to make that call.

> unfortunatly the abuser (my husband) floated through the system. guess

he

> went to his court appointed therapy sessions , but did not

participate. due

> to dr/pt confidentiality this was never admitted in court. (or me)

dcfs

> assured me that my husband was sick, and it was their job to help put

our

> family back together. many court dates, counseling, job loss and

about 6

> years later, my husband commited suicide. this is when i found out

that he

> was not participating and was also to be on anti depressents and he

wasn't. 5

> years later when my son broke down. i learned the abuse continued.

got worse

> even. my son says he doesn't blame me because i did not know. i am

glad wyatt

> came and talked to you. please keep those lines of communication open,

> always. just keep your eyes and ears open. it can happen without you

evem

> knowing it. kathy in il hope i haven't upset someone. i'm sure this

had alot

> to do with me being sick.