Re: 7 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem Quickly

[Guest guest]

Many of us are really too concerned about what others around us think

of us as persons. What we think of ourselves is very important and

we should not be too interested in terms of the opinions of us that

others have. Our feelings about ourselves is very important. Many

people are too interested in pleasing those around us.

Mark

New York City

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> 7 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem Quickly

> - By Elliott

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> If you're tired of feeling bad about yourself, or just want some

tips for those down days, these 7 practical strategies will help you

take action to lift your self esteem.

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> 1) Think back to when you did something new for the first time.

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> Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of

nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which

are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel

under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly

normal - you're just learning!

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> 2) Do something you have been putting off.

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> Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the

garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and

healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then

following through!

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> 3) Do something you are good at.

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> Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening,

climbing, painting, writing. If possible, it should be something that

holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that

state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel

more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes

to low self esteem!

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> And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like

this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly

seem to be happier and healthier.

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> 4) Stop thinking about yourself!

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> I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often

accompanied by too much focus on the self. Doing something that

absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel

better.

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> 5) Get seriously relaxed.

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> If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first

thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do

this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that

occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you

want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis,

meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai

Chi can be incredibly useful.

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> When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and

your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!

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> 6) Remember all the things you have achieved.

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> This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a

handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're

thinking " But I've never achieved anything " , I'm not talking about

climbing Everest here.

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> Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous),

passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport,

getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for

something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.

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> 7) Remember that you could be wrong!

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> If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you

feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel

bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be

pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously

Relaxed' comes in!

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> Summary

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> Once you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a

permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not

just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the

things they do from day to day. Good Luck!

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> About the Author: Elliott is a therapist, trainer and author

of the Free Self Confidence Course, a 6-week practical email guide to

improving your confidence and self esteem provided from his website:

http://www.self-confidence.co.uk Contact: relliott@...

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