I need help with social referencing and joint attention

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Hi all--Please excuse a cross-post, but I am in a real conundrum and could some

help on social referencing and joint attention.

If someone who is using something or techniques from a/any model can suggest a

pointer I would appreciate it. I have been directed to several books and they

have been somewhat helpful, but a little chat would be appreciated. The more

first-person the better!

Here are the things that my daughter, 7, i.e., " someone " , is doing, on a limited

basis, but doing--in a combination of contriving and just plain serendipity--

When someone is " sneaking " a cookie, if I am in the room, I peek and see eyes

scanning my face--if I look up and smile, she smiles and takes the cookie out of

the bag. If I raise my eyebrows a little, the hand slows down. Sometimes she

smiles first--ala, this is okay, right?

When I am sitting in my office doing something, someone comes in looks at me and

sits on my lap or asks to sit on my lap---and then looks in my face again--if I

smile, she smiles.

If someone plays chase, she turns around to see if I am coming---does it

repeatedly.

I am getting some little peeks when she finishes coloring a picture particularly

well or when she finishes working on a difficult puzzle and it is not to ask for

an m & m.

She has started spontantously sharing pieces of snack.

She is pointing at things---mostly mands, but we are working on doing alot of

points with our comments, with mands for information, and what would be called,

I guess formally, mands for attention.

And yes, I am being sincere and unrestrained in my positive feedback/delivery to

her when these things happen.

To the best of anyone's knowledge, and this can be considered just chit-chat,

not professional opinion, indicators that we are making headway on social

referencing and joint attention?

I hate to sound so ignorant, and I realize that there are " drills " and

procedures to do this--but I am really scrutinizing the process right now and I

could use some input from anyone who can suggest what I could be doing to blow

these sparks into a flame?

If this is off topic for this list---please email me off-list. Any comments

would be GREATLY appreciated. Any references or video links would be great as

well.

Sincerest thanks,

Regina F

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Regina F.

I believe in Applied Behavior Analysis.