Bathroom monitoring and isn'sexual abuse?

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Hi everyone.

My husband and I are very upset. My son w/ autism attends a regular

kindergarten and on Friday my son's teacher called to say that

another boy asked my son to " kiss his butt " and my son did. Then

another boy told the rest of the class and they were laughing about

it. My son's twin sister is in the next class and when she heard

this she was upset and told my son's aide. My son has autism and he

just doesn't understand (he is 6 years old). If someone tells him to

do something, he does it because that's what he's been taught to do

for the last 3 years. He doesn't even know right from wrong which is

why he has a full time dedicated 1-1 aide. If a kid said " run across

the street " he would even if there were cars zooming by because he

just doesn't understand, it's part of his disorder.

We have been told that the kids in the bathroom help my son to be

independent by prompting him to " Hurry up " or " Are you done? " as

related to me by his aide. I was under the understanding that she

was monitoring him at the door of the bathroom. How else does she

know what is said in there? She wasn't around when this happened and

I just got a note from the teacher saying that they will clear the

bathroom of all children when my son has to use the bathroom because

it would be " inappropriate " for the aide (female teacher) to monitor

the bathroom.

I think my son was sexually abused at school and now they are

isolating and stigmatizing him, the VICTIM. The one who should have

to use the bathroom alone should be the OTHER child, not MY son.

What do you guys think? My husband and I are sick about this and are

questioning " What's next? "

Thank you!

Angie