a bizzare job applicant

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The following is an email I got from someone responding to an ad I have on

Craig's list for a special-need tutor/child attendant.

I have been homeschooling my son since the beginning using various teaching

approaches mainly verbal behavior, errorless learning and using ABA

principles.

I don't have a baby sitter and have been doing everything myself all these

years.

This is just to show the amount of " ignorance " out there by people who call

themselves professional.

I am not sure if it is even a joke, but this person is serious. If you want

her name, I will be happy to share it with you privately. She could be your

child's teacher. Who knows!???

Here is the email I got:

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YOU have to take the responsibility to make contact' with your child, and

show your LOVE. What I am picking up here is a mother who is trying to hire

someone to 'fix' her child.

Everything that you do or do not do affects your child, and you are not

willing to take responsibility for that fact. If I interview a parent who

cannot even answer the questions online that I ask, then I am seeing this

parent is a big part of the child's problem.

You need to be more respectful to people who are applying. How much respect

do you give your child? I have worked with FTT children, that stands for

'failure-to-thrive', infants who are dying for no medical reason. The first

thing we do is make eye contact, because for some reason or other the real

'mother' cannot 'give' to her child. That is called 'rejection'.

Stop trying to push the problem away from yourself. YOU need to take care

of your child yourself. This is your creation.

If you have established behavior patterns that are negative, then you can

employ an expert to observe you and your child to help to untangle the web

you have created. Then and only then will anything be possible.