Re: re:nonsupporting spouse

[Guest guest]

> P.S. Although was clearly an Ass here today, I feel for him.

> Something is bugging him pretty bad. Perhaps someone with some

know-

> how can find him in one of the other clubs and talk some sense into

> him (or atleast talk him into talking to someone else). I'm pretty

> sure he'll show up in another BFL club somewhere.

,

I know from a previous group and he can't be talked to, he comes

back with insult after insult, that is why I banned him.

Example " the list was supertraining " and he asked about chromium

supplementation, alot of these people are experts in the field of

sports nutrition and sports science and when they quoted studies and

told him it wouldn't be worth his money or time and they offered

other alternatives, he called them a bunch of close minded f*#ks, and

none of this was provoked, just like the attack today.

and he doesn't follow the BFL plan, he follows his own plan and wants

you to critique it and if you don't agree with him and his philosophy

watch out.

IMHO it was best that he was banned, if any disagrees please contact

me off list and I will be glad to discuss it with you

Bill

[Guest guest]

Bill,

Thank you for handling this so expeditiously. We cannot allow anyone

to treat members with such disregard for personal feelings. As a

group we must also strive to remain " layman " in our advice and leave

the scientific analysis and/or diagnosis of individual behavior up to

the professionals who get paid to do that sort of thing. There are

some key elements to responding to a member's post, elements that we

must always keep in mind:

1- Our list is over 1000 members strong and growing. With those kinds

of numbers we are bound to get messages from individuals who are not

as emotionally resilient as others. It is a consequence of growth.

Please try your best to be kind to everyone.

2- I do not recommend ANYONE in the group presume to diagnose another

member's neuroses, psychoses, etc. It's not good judgment and

certainly lacks in politeness. No one wants a complete stranger

telling him or her they have an eating disorder, hormone problem,

lazy spouse, bad kids...or ANYTHING ELSE for that matter. This is

especially taboo in a forum where 1000 other " strangers " are watching.

The Body for Life forum is about advice, layman advice. Support.

Mentoring. Motivation. Encouragement. Inspiration. Too often members

believe that when someone asks a question it gives them Carte Blanche

to give their uncensored opinion. That's really not the case.

Members -- moderators especially -- are here to inspire, encourage

and get others to " stick with it one more day! " Moderators and

members are not here to play doctor, but be a friend to those who

need someone to help them or at least to listen. Some people just

need to vent. They don't need commentary on what they've said. And

that's okay! Really! As long as their venting doesn't emotionally

injure anyone else. They may simply need to get it out of their

system.

I found the following to be true 99% of the time. When questions are

asked by new members they generally want one of two things:

1) To be told how close they are to doing it right

2) To know if YOU can tell them how to do it better WITHOUT making

them feel like CRAP.

As a member of this group you have the awesome potential to invoke

self-confidence in others. With the power of your GOOD words you can

help someone transform their body – and transform their lives! I

urge you to treat people the way you'd like to be treated, with

kindness and understanding.

Angelo Bell

Founder and Chief Moderator

Body-for-Life Group (Power-4-Life Fitness Fighters)

> > P.S. Although was clearly an Ass here today, I feel for

him.

> > Something is bugging him pretty bad. Perhaps someone with some

> know-

> > how can find him in one of the other clubs and talk some sense

into

> > him (or atleast talk him into talking to someone else). I'm

pretty

> > sure he'll show up in another BFL club somewhere.

> ,

>

> I know from a previous group and he can't be talked to, he

comes

> back with insult after insult, that is why I banned him.

>

> Example " the list was supertraining " and he asked about chromium

> supplementation, alot of these people are experts in the field of

> sports nutrition and sports science and when they quoted studies

and

> told him it wouldn't be worth his money or time and they offered

> other alternatives, he called them a bunch of close minded f*#ks,

and

> none of this was provoked, just like the attack today.

>

> and he doesn't follow the BFL plan, he follows his own plan and

wants

> you to critique it and if you don't agree with him and his

philosophy

> watch out.

>

> IMHO it was best that he was banned, if any disagrees please

contact

> me off list and I will be glad to discuss it with you

>

> Bill