RE: 2nd Apology - Deborah and

[Guest guest]

Thank you Deborah and , for explaining your positions further. I

especially like the business card trick you mentioned Deborah. I will have

to tuck that one away for future reference.

All the best,

Marie

[ ] Re: Temper Tantrums plus intro - 2nd

Apology

Hi Anne-,

I am the one whose son does the major screaming trick and I just

wanted to assure you that I wasn't trying to suggest I was upset by

your comments. I only posted for two reasons . Firstly because I knew

there would be parents out there who would be saying to themselves

that they apply the same approach and it dosen't work ..and when that

happens to you , you feel like such a failure . I just wanted to

speak to my own experience - that sometimes unfortunately it dosen't

work !

And you didn't post anything nasty of unpleasant you were just saying

what most of us have said before when seeing a bad display in a store-

just because I now know different dosen't mean that I used to stand

behind some tantruming child and think " poor thing - I wonder if he

has profound communication difficulties that impair his ability to

rationalise this situation appropriately !! " LOL ..as if !!!!

I think your post reflected what many of us think and many times we

WILL BE RIGHT !! There are bratty kids out there with pathetic

parents who make life even harder for the rest of us !!

Our kids look the same as everyone else and that is both a blessing

and a curse.So now i just never make assumptions based on what I see

because I just don't know.That's all I was trying to say. And

standing behind someone and forming a view on what they are doing is

entirely everyones perogative - I was speaking because of the number

of people who have to tut or comment or get in your face !!

I carry " business cards " with a brief description of Charlies

condition which I hand to anyone attempting to comment or interfere.

My oldest son has his own which he wrote and can humiliate the most

hard assed smart arse in ten seconds!!! " please show your kindness

and do not stare - he is just a boy trying to fight his illness " . I

have developed a thick skin now . It is a sign I think of how I

accept Charlie that other people's views don't matter - but oh for

months and months it did !

I am always polite(almost !!) . I keep it brief and I try to accept

that some people enjoy the prospect of putting a " bad mum " in her

place ( a lot of women of a certain age !!!) and I try to forget it

as soon as possible .

If all else fails " he has autism but therapy is helping whereas you

will be stupid and rude forever " works !

Funnily enough my six foot , 14 stone, rugby playing husband seldomn

gets any comments when he takes Charlie out - now I wonder why that

is !!!! Any ideas

Best regards - and belated welcome to the board

Regards

Deborah Dore